The #1 MINDSET To Stop Insecurity & Anxious Attachment From Ruining Your Relationships

How To Stop Insecurity From Ruining Your Relationships

Of the clients I work with, these are very common questions...
How to deal with insecurity?
How to stop feeling anxious?
how to stop being insecure?
how to stop relationship anxiety?

listen if you're experiencing insecurities in a relationship, know that you're not alone. Learning how to stop being anxious in relationship means shifting your mindset. In this video, we take a deep dive into what creates relationship anxiety and feeling insecure in relationship. We then talk about finite vs. infinite games and how this can help you feel more confident and more secure in your love life.

[evelynbrown]

I’ve managed my anxiety for nearly a year now. Recently I discovered relationship anxiety as it manifested in my life. Thanks to everything I’ve done to manage anxiety in my everyday life, I knew to turn inward and do the work to instead of demanding my partner reassure me everyday. I did let him know that I was anxious and it would supportive to hear reassuring words but ultimately I know that is my job and my job alone to do the work. Journaling, meditating, trusting that the universe sent him because he’s who I asked the universe for. So yes, get support from your partner when you’re feeling scared about if the relationship will fail. Allow them to give you reassuring words BUT do the work yourself and meet your own needs

[Elinaraihana]

I way i understand it is infinite game is like the relationship we have with our family and friends. There is no end game, we have no real goals to be with them. We be with them because we want to. We don’t demand anything from other than respect and companionship. So if we dont have an expectations on our significant others, we might build a strong bond of friendship with them too.

[newphazet]

Create security in yourself first! Yes! Thank you. And, being aware that others (potential partners) may not be there yet. Have compassion for potential partners but be firm in maintenance of self security.

[tdawg]

How is it that I’ve never heard anyone else explain this concept before? I needed to hear this! Thank you!!!

[ikodlsu]

Hello, I watched this video about 8 times 5 weeks ago, I was struggling with immense relationship anxiety and this video has changed my life. I’ve always read people commenting on videos about how life changing the advice in the video was but nothing has resonated with me like that until I saw this video. I now have a healthier “take it day by day” approach and don’t put my sense of security in the hands of my relationship and it has been a game changer and my relationship has never been so good in the year and a half we have been together. Thank you so much! 🌞 don’t let your anxiety destroy your relationships people it’s not worth it.

[jeanniespieles]

I am in the midst of getting over my insecurities. Seven months in to the best relationship of my life with a man who has been extremely patient with me. It is so hard to understand this content with your head intelligently but to respond emotionally. It leads to more self doubt and loathing. It is definitely a process worth going through because at the end of the day patterns repeat . Thank you for another way of looking at things .

[mamamagere]

This is personal power and independence! Remembering that I can’t own another person. Each of us is on a journey to our best and the possibilities are endless for us all😃 I shifted some years ago. I was married and now I’m divorced. I am now single, celibate, creative and loving life.

[tasrajwani]

How did you do that, Clayton Olson??? This is EXACTLY what I needed and exactly at this time, today. And I don't think anybody could have explained this any better. You read my mind- as far as my questions that were in my mind. And you provided the best possible answer. Thank you for everything you do.

[hopefull]

As an finite thinker due to childhood trauma, i have come from a deep rooted, anxiety and insecurity in adult relationships. The neglect, abandonment and rejection i experienced as a child has pushed me to seek security, to be given reassurance, to ask for commitment through a label. To seek externally, rather than internally. I have suffered greatly from these behavioral cycles, but i now feel blessed to have gained the self awareness to go to work on unpicking this kind of determent behavioral pattern that leaves me time and time again feeling alone and sad. We are all on a journey of self discovery and it is through others, shared and gained relationship experiences (Negative or positive) that we learn to love ourselves on a deeper level. Acceptance is absolute key, through self awareness comes the truth of authentic self, compassion and empathy for others. I have learned that it is vital to fill the empty feeling inside of me with self love and to not seek external validation. Each relationship i have experienced has lead me to that realization and has helped my self love grow. To fully grow we have to let go. I recently over the past six months found myself in a relationship where the man i am with thinks in an infinite way, it is only through these videos that i have been able to find a label to these avenues of thinking. I am sincerely grateful and i am finding it liberating to understand that i can now work on turning my finite thinking ways, into a more infinite, less restricting mind view. Noting is set in stone. All things shall pass and most certainly change is enviable. Through practicing infinite thinking i can settle into the moment better without expectation and ride the wave of living. I am a work in progress. I will be until the day i die.. Thanks for this invaluable information Clayton :)

[JZ]

Thanks for making this. I may have just sabotaged a relationship largely due to my anxiety. While I may or may not get a chance to salvage it, I need a shift in mindset to avoid this sort of thing in the future. I'm sure I'll be watching and rewatching this in the coming weeks.

[laucifuentesa]

I am going through a complex moment of my life, some people call it the emotional awakening, when there is no going back to old harmful practices, and these videos help me so much to see my situation with my partner and myself through a lense of love, empathy, and infinite thinking. I wish more people saw relationships in this way. In a way that is not a pull and push for power, but where both individuals are free to stay or leave and one must trust the bond and the love between the two, and let it evolve as it has to evolve. That relationships are not always perfect and they push you to evolve as an individual in ways you never imagined. We must not be afraid of adversity, it is in this moments that we grow., and fear is the true enemy of growth.

[matcha_mage]

Wow. This is insanely enlightening. I kept replaying what you said about letting the vision of the relationship guide your actions, instead of letting your partner's actions guide your actions; something I definitely am getting more and more conscious of NOT doing after almost 30 years of doing that. It's ego-driven for sure, and more about giving to get and score-keeping as you say. A lot of emotional withholding and transaction-based thinking. I am more on the avoidant side, so even when I feel an overwhelming fear or anxiety, I protect myself by just acting aloof and not showing my true vulnerability, and I would want to be the dumper before I am the dumpee, essentially. But this space of infinite thinking that you talk about is definitely a much more empowering way to be and approach relationships. I can't tell you how much you've changed my life in every way. Thank you sooo much, Clayton.

[elvchenschwarz]

Crap, I feel called out. I noticed things not working out like they should be or rather me joining my partner in his behaviour but not understanding where that came from! This just made things click. Thank you! ❤🤗🤗

[missphoton]

Beautifully said! Thank you. In other words, trust the process, trust myself, grow in each experience. And know that the most important and the best relationship I'll ever have is with myself. Just then will I be able to make the most of all the other relationships. : ) Have a fantastic day

[lacedtabs]

finite thinking isn’t the end, this helps with foward moment, and it’s up to you to be able to make the growth - thank you for teaching me that, I already had the knowledge of finite thinking but I just looked at it as the as ending or something I would have to deal with, bringing in more anxiety. May abundance come to you all around you

[israelaiesha]

Man Olson, your content is fire dude. Thanks for being consistent in your delivery. Nice work.

[inspirationsbyheather]

I can't believe how much this resonated with me and so in depth with what is going on in my personal life. Resonates and hits home for me. Yes the insecurity is there, and trying get past that every day. with past relationships..Everyday is learning experience. Thank you for this in video so informing.

[czmickgaming]

Wow, this moved me. I will utilize this and rewatch it whenever I feel stuck. I have been dealing with crippling relationship anxiety and I feel so much better after this. You've gained a subscriber for life.

[emilyho]

Sometimes rewatching these videos help so much. It calms me down and helps sooth me and empowers me so much to work on self growth. Thank you so much.

[deltaradiance]

This is amazing. I am a finite thinker and i always felt like my thinking helped me from entering bad relationships. Now i can see the difference when you explain that yeah maybe being finite in relationships is not such a good idea. We should love without boundaries and giving without expectations.