Am I Bi or an Ally? | Understanding Bi Curiosity

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[hemlethair]

I'm really confused at the moment because I think I'm bi but I'm concerned that it's a phase or it's just for attention and I'm not sure how to know

[sibby]

I have only ever had crushes on the opposite gender, but I can see myself enjoying kissing guys and girls so like ???

[lv]

Not me questioning my sexuality at 12.30 am again for the 14592th time 😳🥺

[ggwrites]

I might be bi. But I'll find out when I have my first girl experience

Edit: i had my experience and now i know😁

[fawnheart]

I'm bi-curious and have been bi-curious probably since I was 10 or 11. I don't think I'll ever figure it out lmao

[simbathealmighty]

It’s unfair
Straight people don’t have pressure to find out what they are or come out

No offence straight people

[i]

we stan questioning for 5 years and still having no clue... fuck. guess i’m really taking my time?

[endlesslykelly]

The person you're talking about sounds a hell of a lot like me two years ago. I always thought I was just a great ally and I was fine with that. Then I thought about some things and realized I definitely was not straight and that is the label I used in my head - "not straight". It then still took me a long time before acknowledging and accepting that I am hella bi.
So to anyone questioning themselves, life takes time to figure out and that's okay.

[stinkymonkey]

Ive been trying to find out if I’m straight, bi or pan. I’m having a crisis. I’ve been thinking “I’m forcing this, you’re straight” I don’t need labels and that’s ok.... but straight just doesn’t sit right with me

[aesthetorzoio]

I went from straight to heteroflexible to biromantic heterosexual to bisexual to pan to bisexual back to straight ALL THIS WITHIN 3 MONTHS but I more into men than woman (I’m cis girl) then at other times I like woman a little more

Now this might be a phase 😔

[ivonnemata]

3:15 *me holding my flash cards at 1:08am questioning my life choices cuz i have a quiz tomorrow/ today*….👁👄👁

[Gracegalxc]

I’ve always been straight. I’m still only young, but never until now have I liked the same gender before. A girl. I don’t really find other girls attractive in that way, and never really have. Just this person. I’m so confused...

[paulamoritz]

i think i might be bi or pan? but i've never done anything with a person of the same gender and am in a straight relationship at the moment, so i can't really explore anything right now, but i still find persons of the same gender extremely attractive and could imagine beeing in a same gender relationship ??? But like maybe i just find them pretty and am overthinking and just really into deep same sex friendships? help... do you have any tips/experiences? would be very greatful :)

[vmcintosh]

"because men are trash at times and sometimes you just have to
throw them away" how i feel right now

[jx_anx_h]

Is it weird that I only started questioning if I was really so straight at eighteen years old? Cause I feel like everyone does that at a much younger age.

[mirabelle]

im bi for the harry potter cast like i CANNOT watch prisoner of azkaban without simping over literally almost everyone

[elliew]

You made this video a super long time ago but I'm super conflicted right now. What you said really resonated with me about how sexuality is fluid and things change as people grow. I'm attracted to the physical appearance of both genders but until now I've only had crushes on boys. Recently however I've started to have feel strong feelings for my best friend who is a girl. The thing is it doesn't feel like those same crushes I've had with boys and I have nothing to compare it to so I'm not quite sure what it is. I'm not going to pursue it because our friendship is amazing as it is now, and I'm very sure she's straight but this feeling has definitely confused me a lot. There's part of me think that I'm just being dumb and I just want to be bi because it would be fun. At this point I have no idea.

[ganapatikamesh]

As someone whose been an activist in the community, at workshops, etc, we’re told not to label anyone. To let others figure out the labels, the terminology, the identities that they feel work for them and be accepting if those change over time as people learn new terms and discover more about themselves fully. You’ve definitely done that here! You’re not defining them, you’re sharing your own journey, citing examples, but then leaving open their journey to figure out terms, etc, that fit them (might I also recommend the book ABCs of LGBT by Ash Hardell as it is a great resource on most of the identities’ terminology). I’ve learned about sexual orientation, romantic orientation, affectional orientation, gender identity, gender expression, etc. I know of heteroflexible and homoflexible people. I have a friend who identifies his sexual and romantic orientation as straight, but his affectional orientation as bi as he discovered he sometimes is attracted to guys affectionally, but not romantically or sexually. He, too, questioned if that made him bisexual only to learn more terminology and figure out the identity. I know some say there’s too much, it is getting complicated, but then I listen to people talk about their own lives and discover some of these identity terms and light up as they find one or some they connect and relate to. As one person put it to me once: “there’s names, words even, to describe part of who I am!” I understand that excitement just when discovering the word gay for the first time myself. So kudos on giving great advice! You definitely did what those who teach workshops to activists advise people do. I hope the person who was seeking your advice found it immensely helpful for their journey of personal discovery!

[Olive-cpnu]

I honestly am just not going to put labels on myself and like who I like! : ))

[peanutbutter]

Oh boi did that first question that person asked hit different. I have been telling myself for so long. That I am not really attracted to girls, that I am forcing and convincing myself into believing I am bi. I have been questioning my sexuality for 2 years now and I went from straight, to bi, to straight, to not labeling, to questioning, to abrosexual and sexualy fluid, back to not labeling and now I am at that point where I don't pressure myself anymore about finding the perfect label for me but I think that I am heteroromantic-bisexuality and feel pretty comfortable with that rn. :)