21 Life-Changing INFJ Tips for 2024

In this video I discuss 21 of the most life-changing tips I've learned as an INFJ. I believe that if you apply even just a handful of these, they can transform your INFJ life for the better.

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[NorthToSouthChannel]

Fitting in but not belonging is such a good way to put it. I have always felt that the only place I really ever feel I belong is in nature.

[tylerviidici]

In case you need them.

1. Don't feel guilty of who you are
2. Don't rely on others to know how you feel
3. Try journaling (writing things down)
4. You may fit in with more than one group
5. Being alone is good
6. Try not to be alone too much
7. You must learn to say no
8. You're probably clumsy and that's ok
9. Watch out for perfectionism
10. Watch out for procrastination
11. The INFJ door slam is real...and normal
12. Try not to burn bridges
13. Take time for self-care
14. INFJs learn differently than other people
15. Don't be afraid to ask for help
16. Don't over explain
17. Don't help those who don't want it
18. Don't share your opinions with randoms
19. Beware of overthinking
20. Be on the lookout for narcissists
21. Practice self-compassion

Thank you The INFJ Circle!

[annmowatt]

Has taken me till my 70s to learn to say no. The sooner INFJs learn to do this, the better for us. Caring for others is a delight but we must remember ourselves. This is all so accurate, thanks.

[lesliethurston]

"Fitting in, yet not belonging." -- Could not have been stated any better. Thank you for your hard efforts crafting this channel.

[jaggedlittlepill]

It's the first time I've heard anyone talk about being clumsy. I get so frustrated sometimes I could just scream. Running into things, dropping things, cutting my fingers when I'm crafting. It's unbelievable!

[HAW_]

The only worst thing than being married to a narcissist is trying to divorce one. They are awful and can be very dangerous.

[boblossie]

My WORST is taking care of everyone - and there's nothing left for me. I'm 67 and still continually destroy my life. I keep thinking I've realized I shouldn't, but I keep doing it.
And after listening to the rest of the video - I need to set this up so it can play in a repeating loop so I can play it all night. Sadly - most would think these traits are noble - but I think I'm a stupid jerk. Jerk to myself - not anyone else. BUT I'm thinking that 2024 is my year of transition. Still want to help others - but want to have a little something left for me. Oh yeah - you mentioned over explaining. This was my short version....

[jaggedlittlepill]

The door slam!! I haven't done it often and I couldn't do it at all until I spent three years with a really good therapist. It's easier to say no now that I'm older, but it took me years to learn how.

[Metdiva]

Fitting in but not belonging hits harder than I'd like to admit. So many things made sense once I realized that I was an INFJ. I'm so clumsy that I have tripped over shadows on the floor. Absolutely love my "boring" life.

[itsokayman]

We're clumsy bc we're intuitives, not sensors. We're more in our head and less in our body, so we don't notice things sometimes 😆😆.

[MelaniaT-rm]

I’m alone ALL THE TIME! I love it. I occasionally go somewhere just to be alone somewhere else.

Spot on for the clumsiness, perfection and procrastination are my Trinity!

[goontubeassos]

Door slammed someone I deeply loved (probably a narcissist), I’ll never be happy again. But I’m not miserable anymore.
I’ll also never enjoy female companionship again, Now that I know it’s just my turn with her.

[kernzyp]

As a fellow INFJ, you're freaking awesome, dude. Scarily accurate !! We are secret super heroes. Excellent work.

[Kelsbell]

Feeling belonged, brings out expectations from the ones you belong to.

[INFJparadox]

Excellent video! As you get older you do become more selective and therefore, more isolated. I hate drama and have had so much in my life with narcissists, one being my mother. At 53, I have become content to being alone forever. Of course, I would love to be in a committed relationship, but it's too late for me and my heart has been shattered countless times. I'm beyond tired. Also, people always think I *missed the point on things because I have a different perception so I just get ignored, especially at work. Oh, and yes, I'm so clumsy! Always have been--hahaha :) Happy New Year and many blessings for 2024!

[michaeljode]

Thank you for making these videos. It's very nice to have an actual face behind videos like this and not an AI voice like other INFJ channels. Love your content

[johnmichaelrichards]

As an INFJ-T, I identify with all of this though not the clumsiness.

I did attract one narcissist and made the mistake of staying in a relationship with her on and off for six years. Each time she clipped my wings more and caged me. Not only did she destroy my very being but tried to kill me before I eventually slammed that door for good.

[lindastrehlow]

Great video! Thanks❤❤❤
Heck, I will be 67 this year. I grew up totally in the dark on all this...had to figure out all these things on my own.

Stoicism WORKS!
I trip over invisible things. Not good at my age...hehehe
And most definitely learn to set boundaries early! It will save your sanity...so will not over thinking.. still a perfectionist though...oh well...

[cvonsutphen]

I did not learn I was an INFJ until I was almost 50. It's been life changing and has helped me overcome childhood traumas and have better relationships with others. My partner learned that he is an INTP and learning about each others type and how we think and process information and emotions has improved our understanding of each other 100%. Great video.

[Noonesbusiness]

"I like him already!" I laughed out loud and found this so endearing 😊