Understanding Eating Disorders and How To Treat Them W/ Dr. Tara Deliberto

As social media keeps expanding, I’ve seen how many of us struggle with body image and mental health. I want you to know you’re not alone in feeling this way. That’s why I’ve invited a doctor who specializes in eating disorders to offer support and an outlook towards anyone who is struggling with an ED.

Dr. Tara Professor at the medical college of Cornell University. She is a registered Psychologist, treatment developer specializing in eating disorders and is the lead author of Treating Eating Disorders in Adolescents.

Dr. Tara will share her insights on what it means to have an eating disorder, how to seek help, and strategies for overcoming the difficult thoughts and moments that come with it.

Follow Dr. Tara Deliberto and her work here:

00:00 Intro
5:45 What is an eating disorder
10:20 How do you know if you have an eating disorder?
12:45 Negative outlook on food
20:50 Eating when you’re hungry, Stopping when you’re hungry
24:30 Dealing with anxiety
28:34 Surrendering
34:00 Consciousness
35:00 Seeing idealized bodies online
40:23 Fear connected to covid
42:38: Anorexia / Binge ED
45:50 Body Shaming
54:43 Judging someone’s body
58:30 War Against food
1:01:40 Realizing your attachments with food
1:08:30 Outro

Find me…

[AndoughPanda]

This was so insightful! I'm a man in my 30's and only recently discovered that I have an eating disorder in the opposite way - I overate, felt low self-esteem, and ate more for comfort. I gained so much weight and was inactive, and just felt so unhealthy. I've worked for the past 10 months to lose weight but also establish a better, healthier relationship with food. I was AFRAID to eat food when I started.

I'm not where I want to be yet, but I'm not afraid of food anymore, and actually celebrate and enjoy eating, and eat to feel full, not stuffed.

The psychological aspects were something I've been learning, and hearing Dr. Tara's knowledge of the psychology behind it is resonates so, so deeply with me. I learned a lot more from her in this 1 hour than my last 10 months combined.

Thank you for having her as a guest, Michelle. Profoundly insightful and lots of information for me to sit with.

[candycanecharcoal]

I needed this today. Over 130 pounds down, "normal" weight now and literally just Friday diagnosed with an eating disorder and body dysmorphia. Thank you for brightening my darkest of days

[rchasm]

Maybe one day I'll be able to love my body, but right now that is a massive step for me. I've found an easier stepping stone at this point of my journey is "respect yourself if you are finding it hard to love yourself". I give everyone I meet basic human respect, I can give myself it too.
I've written it on my vanity mirror in dry erase marker and it has curbed my negative self talk significantly.

[Nursekaykay]

I needed this, I never thought I could have a ED but now looking at it I do from seeing my mother heavily diet and exercise, weight being a huge topic in our household to now me myself constantly looking for the next get thin quick method over and over since I was 16 - now at 42 I’m tired I want peace with myself, my body and most of all to be a great example to my own kids. Thank you for opening my eyes ❤

[JRoseE]

This was difficult to listen to. I had to take it in strides. Thank you for this upload, it reaches in many areas including disordered eating!

[Mimlou]

Clicked on Michelle’s video so fast!! Loving this new podcast!❤🎉

[cuwiknagajeeyaku]

Hi Michelle, been watching you since youtube started and I love that you made this video. It means so much to me because my late cousin who was like my soul sister. She lost the battle with anorexia and bulimia. I wish I could show this to her. She always sent me videos to this topic, so I can understand what she's going through. I hope that other people know it's important to have a support system. ❤

[Valseana_]

thank you so much for your podcast, michelle! it's been healing

[byakuyamomo]

very good and important topic! love the mindful conversation about it

[pheyyuenchong]

This is very informative. Thank you Michelle for these podcasts, every episode is enlightening 😊❤

[Baeomran]

I love podcast ❤have been following you for 15 years

[ILikeBigCatsAndICannotLie]

My mom had a terrible relationship with her body and food I am only in recent years putting together how this affected me. This information is appreciated. On a similar topic I first noticed my role as a female (according to society) was to look a certain way mostly for men was on my 11th birthday. I looked older than I was but still had all the awkwardness of a growing adolescent. I was in a public place and two college age men were there. They sat and talked about my looks in a negative way and I realized they felt I had broken some kind of rule that benefited them. I sat having no reaction to their talk and they left shortly afterward. I felt as if I had stumbled onto a secret that day.

[thenailsqueen]

This was so edifying. Thank you for sharing such valuable information.

On onether note…Michelle, can I do your nails? I’m serious though. Been thinking of ways to slay them 💁🏻‍♀️💅🏻

[amy_dsc]

It was so interesting listening to this specific podcast for me. Since I can remember I was told I was fat, simple as that until I turn 28 and saw pictures of myself in college and released I honestly wasn't..I had healthy weight.. but I always felt guilty eating anything other than a salad. And I did eat dessert and meats but always felt bad after and wear oversized clothes. It made me feel ugly and it made me feel less than alot of girl around me. That my only worth was my brain, which I was +A student. Later I got a boyfriend, not the best one, but I thought..hey, at least I got one.. bad idea..got my heart broken and my life into pieces.
Now Im 30, I realize what Im worth. Im working my ass off to get what I want in my life. I still feel guilty but I do understand that I have a problem, and Im trying to get healthy. Thankfully my little sister didn't suffer of all this, shes amazing and always defends me when anyone wants to comments about my weight ❤❤❤ thanks you Michelle

[irisle]

As a girl who has been in and out of ED for 11 years, thank you for this episode 🩷

[quinniebeltran]

I work in a hospital with eating disorder kids and it’s tough how they struggle with this disease.

[aki]

That royal blue outfit is so beautiful on you!

[YGLuvNE]

I started seeing a therapist recently, because i suspected that i have an eating disorder.

[hychannel]

This is one of the most confusing podcast conversations. Making a nice compliment if another person lost some weight and look good (regardless if it's intentional or not should not) should not be viewed in a negative light that you are judging them in some inappropriate way. I think the one with trauma gotta do some work and not twist it that way to seek perfection. There is a difference when someone says you look great vs. you look pregnant.

[SarahTHOR-if]

Michelle Phan-
What is there to understand about "eating disorders" and how to treat them? There is no such thing as eating disorders! The problem is something else deeply rooted in you that is making you to either over eat or under-eat! If you are not healthy to begin with, because you are borned with a certain disease, passed down onto you from your parents, you have that disease that is causing problems in your life. Healthy people can eat whatever they want and be happy with whatever they eat or weight they have! They are simply happy and they eat, because they are happy with themselves just the way they are, naturally! To simply sum this all up in short, I would like to leave a song I love called "My Life" by Billy Joel on the forefront of my message!
Sarah THOR-I3F