What's The Ideal Age To Get Married In China?

Have you ever felt pressured by friends or family to tie the knot? If so, you're not alone. In fact, many people in Asian countries like China can relate to this experience. So what do Chinese consider to be the ideal age for marriage? We hit the streets of Shanghai to find out. Subscribe to Asian Boss for more interesting insights from Asia!
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[DivyaPR.]

When the girl said, if you're over 30 you can't do anything about marriage so just get out travel and enjoy your life 🤭😂

[belle]

In this era, age doesn’t matter because the right time to get married is when you’re mentally, physically and financially ready.

[KpopLunatic]

I'm Female, Asian, 30 and I can relate to this so much. I feel anxious and pressure as well that I'm still single and not married yet. My friends and family are constantly asking me to find someone to date and marry, and saying things like "you're an old shell", "the older you get, the lesser value you have", " no guys want a 30+ woman who is single" etc. I sometimes feel so depressed and alone. Its not that i do not want to date or get married, its there isn't a suitable person that i find compatible, or someone that i can see a future with. I dont want to just simply date someone out of loneliness or date just to shut everyone up. I dont want to end up hurting myself loving the wrong person. I want to find the right person to spend my life with. Why can't ppl shut up and stop nagging at other ppl's lives. Stop your negative bullsh*t and just mind your own business. Why cant they understand and just give me/us space arghhh!!

[USERNAMEINALLCAPS]

Perfect age to get married is when you’re ready.

[GreenGoblin]

I’m not sure how it is in China, but in South Korea we pay to attend weddings. Starting anywhere from $100 to 10, 000K or more if you’re especially rich and influential. It’s a way for parents to show how “successful” they are. The more guests and the more they pay, the more socially valued you are.

But the tricky thing is, what goes around must come around. If my parents paid for all their friends, coworkers, family’s weddings and I decide not to get married? Then all the money they’ve paid just goes down the drain.

Also since the age of retirement is around 60, you better hope your child gets married before you retire. So that’s why parents urge their kids to get married early. When they’re still working so that they can invite coworkers and other colleagues to their child’s wedding.

It’s beyond messed up and outdated but that’s just how things are. Slowly but surely there is a slight difference in weddings nowadays. As more and more newlyweds prefer to do a “small” wedding, inviting just a few close friends and having drinks but it’s an old tradition that won’t die out in just a couple years. Could take 2-3 generations.

[เส้นทางฝันของสาวน้อยขนมหวานพาก]

The most ridiculous thing about Asians I have ever faced is your parents and adults around you do not want you to date anyone before 18, some of them prefer you to date someone after graduation. After that, they will tell you to find the right job, with a good salary. When you reach 25, they will start asking you if you have someone already, and 27 will start asking you about marriage. WTF!! I studied from 5 till 22-23 (not including a master's degree). I can get a good job for myself, a high salary, but why??? Why I cannot have time for myself? This is so sad when many give you value based on THE MARRIAGE WITH THE GUY THEY THINK HE IS GOOD.

[nom_nom]

It’s so interesting how different cultures view marriage. I’m from Germany and even though some people do feel the pressure of ‘at least’ finding a partner at some point I think it’s accepted to get married late or not at all. I know many people above the age of 30 who are single and it’s not a bad thing at all for them.

[millennialaviation]

It’s the ignorance for me.. I really get tired of this “Hurry up and marry because you don’t want to be single after 30” mindset 😒

[madeleinemay]

The "28-30 is the perfect age to give birth" guy might have hard time finding spouse. Most women don't like to be devalued by their ability to whelp babies. Especially not in China where the women are very selective

[Hosigie]

I'm Croatian and 28, and I haven't noticed any pressure to get married here. Most of my friends (of which some are over 40) are still not married. And not necessarily single, it's just that less and less people in general are getting married. And as someone who doesn't want to have children, and am in an almost 7 year old relationship with another person who doesn't want children, we're in no rush to get married. We just want a dog lol.

[Goldun-nah]

I’m 38 and only have dated twice. I just don’t trust people like that to even want to try. It’s because both long term relationship of 5 and 8 years ended because of cheating. Both were utter shocks to me. I just can’t trust anyone unless it’s my family and friends.

[itsnara]

In Bangladesh, you gotta be ready before you hit 25, apply for uni when you're close to finishing school, ideal age to enter University is 18-19 preferable, get a job right after graduating and get married before hitting 25 or at 25. Older than 25 is considered too old. Kinda annoying ngl, even my parents are like this and wants me & siblings to get all the things done by 25. Idk about other Bangladeshi but to me this is honestly mad and rushed.

[lawfulhusbands]

This man talking about women like they're baby machines and owe him kids lmao. Also, do men realise that their own sperm also weakens with age? Why do they never mention their own fertility rates hmm? 😂

[delonteeast]

The problem these days is that people don't understand that marriage is a journey not a feat.

You marry someone and go through the struggles of compatibility and relationships.

Life won't be smoother after marriage but it would be more meaningful for people with no full purpose or passion beforehand in life.

[vanessajabbour]

Lol dont u just love when parents dont let u date after a certain age but also give u a deadline too? 🙃

[mb]

It hits right at my heart as I completed 30 years just couple of days ago. The amount of taunt I get from my relatives is unexplainable. They are like, why are you still at home, just get married to whatever boy you get😁

[hethekumar]

Right time to get pregnant is completely a women's choice. Because pregnancy and the post partum times are most toughest phases for a women. Men should be more understand during this phases.

[yumeh]

My mom actually explained to me when she gave birth to me she was near 30, then I had younger sisters later. She told me marry when you're ready but she wished she did so earlier because for her it felt hard to birth and keep up with raising tiny kids for her age later on (she's still a strong mom now though :))

[alessiadepaoli]

Then there is me, almost 29 and single. 💀 Anyway, here in Italy we're known to be "mommy's boys/girls" and guys and girls marry in their 30-35, mostly 35. It's very rare to get married before 30s.

[Strawberries]

It's so sad they are pressure to marry before 30... mary when you find someone worth it and always think of yourself and your desires first