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For many men, Don Draper is the epitome of confidence. What most people don’t realize is that confidence actually comes in two flavors. There is the external confidence that you project, which can make closing deals, making friends or seducing happen more naturally. There is also the internal confidence you feel which is how comfortable you are in any given situation.

In this video, we’re going to analyze what Don can teach us about both levels of confidence, and how mastering each level can take you from being nervous to completely confident in any situation.

⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰

0:41 - Lesson #1: His relaxed body language.
2:58 - Lesson #2: Don is non-reactive.
5:18 - Lesson #3: He doesn’t try to convince other people.
6:57 - Lesson #4: The belief that he will be okay, no matter what.

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[SeanLunny]

Believing that no matter what happens you’re going to be fine anyway is always a great mindset to have

[altonology]

Practice keeping your word everyday you’ll really gain confidence. Every time you say you’re gonna do something and don’t do it, your self-esteem diminishes no matter how meaningless the task may seem. Take your word very serious.

[danfordchodokufa]

"Believing that no matter what happens you’re going to be ok" is an incredibly liberating
idea. I love this

[harshsunitapancholi]

1. Sit relaxed and a little lean back that makes people come out to you.
2. Be non-reactive, and react less at times when handling pressure.
3. Speak slowly and use pauses correctly.
4. You will be okay no matter what.

[josephrutchik]

"You'll stop worrying that someone will reject you because you'll never reject yourself." That is brilliant! Well done!!!

[ldb]

Confidence is literally a mindset that you can force.

[briandtnguyen]

As a practicing attorney, I often remind myself to pause while speaking with a judge or a jury.

It creates suspense. But more importantly, it actually allows me to hear my own thoughts and feel my feelings.

Pausing also gives the other person time to process everything I just said.

I would add that confidence is a two-way street.

I find that if I practice active listening when I speak with people and really make space for them, they open up and we then mutually instill confidence in one another.

Confidence doesn’t always have to be a competition.

[SkippyBrown]

I feel like a big part of Don's character is that even HE has his own issues with self-confidence, but he never let's people see that. When he does, that's when we start to see the layers peel back and Don's true self starts to show.

It's really all about how you project yourself to the world and those around you.

[maxxmaximum]

* Be relaxed
- Spread out (standing, sitting being spread)
- Move freely around
- People have to work for attention
- Selective eye contact ( give attention when making a point ; if the other person is doing it, then stare)

* Be Non-reactive
- Stay silent under pressure ( give pauses to think)
- Don’t fidget under pressure

* Dont try to convince people
- Frame yourself as a equal partner ( in a negotiation; You are screening them as much as they are screening you)
- Be willing to walk away ( not emotionally; if its clear that it signifies your confidence; Looks we’re not a match, wish you all the best)

* Believe that you’ll be okay
- Even if you do something that will prove a loss, be confident and know that you wont ever lose your own trust.

[randomappalachian]

Expectations: Don Draper
Reality: Michael Scott

[davidharler]

also gotta say, the 4th tip really hits home. Specifically, love the line "...and you may begin to even look forward to the situations that stressed you out"

[AA-qbni]

I get anxiety going to college every single day. I'm not happy with how i feel on the inside and out. But this helped and I'm working on myself now. My goal is to leave the house feeling confident and good about myself.

[addisonjones]

I have always struggled with social anxiety and self esteem. I used these on my family at a party with my aunts and cousins. For the first time I felt confident. I was talking and making everyone laugh with my stories and comments. As soon as I got home I started crying with relief. I hope that I can keep applying this tricks in the future. Thank you will never be enough, But thank you.

[pinkyster]

How to nail your interview:
1. Avoid eye contact at all costs
2. Rest your feet on the interviewers desk to assert dominance
3. Wait for 20 seconds staring at them before answering to a question
4. Walk out of the room calmly after refusing to take the job

[clairebaujard]

That last point about true, unshakeable confidence in yourself is absolutely golden. That's what it all boils down to. Brilliantly put, thank you!

[Dr.HouseMD]

You gotta watch the show. Don is terrified or nervous in 1/4 of these situations. Not to mention his character is literally about an insecure person who imitates a persona to fit in.

[db-]

True confidence can only be achieved via lightning McQueen crocs

[arioux]

“Would you like your receipt?”
*20 second pause
“no.—I-I mean yes”

[IsraelGarciaRivera]

You made me remember one of my favorite episodes of Mad Men... That hug Don gives to the other man, it is just emotional 100%. Deep.

[zig]

It's about balancing when to be open and when not to be. You don't want to be telling the wrong people your weak points, but you also don't want to be a bottle that looks perfect but shatters after some time, because of the pressure it's holding.

Recently I've not been balancing it properly. I've been too focused on saying the perfect thing. I've not been patient, I've been wanting instant confidence. This is cause I want to feel the same confidence I did in the past.