My battle with depression-Michael Oyier

As a newscaster, Michael Oyier had a very visible public life. He was at the helm of his career as a newscaster and he was really good at it. In private however, there were things going on that led him to a question who he had become, and the private struggles that he was dealing with. The struggle of who he had planned to be as a father and what the reality was, unresolved grief......
This saw him get into a downward spiral that depression is. Darkness and despair gnawed at him.
Thank God for the people who refused to give up him. Friends and family who held onto him and prayed with and for him. People who love him and encouraged him to recovery. It is possible to rise again from depression. Yes we can.
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[abelngesa]

If you are here watching this after the sad demise news, lets condole together. Life is really short. Live dont exist

[naturelle]

Your wife eulogized you in a very beautiful way she really loved you. Rest in peace.

[mercyadero]

This has left me in tears because I identify with Michael's pains (RIP my favorite news anchor - sorry we did not celebrate you enough when you were alive. For seven years I wondered in the wilderness with no place to call home. I struggle to make peace with realities that I never new would ever befall me. A graduate with no job and could not land any, let alone an interview, a single mum hitting pillars to posts (note the plural). Time passed and the situation got worse and I ended back in the village in my late mother's house (stayed there for close to two years - locked up in that house crying and helping in village chores like threshing maize during harvest etc) - little did I know that I dipped into depression.

The pain was worsened by endless abuses from the father of my two daughters - unfortunately I took them all in and this sunk me further into a state of hopelessness as he endlessly penned humiliating texts - going to an extent of saying I did a cheap course (Sociology and Philosophy) at the university and will only end up as a third or fourth wife to an old mzee in the village. The most painful was him telling me I'm filthy like abortion clots - this crushed me into powder, not pieces.

To cut the very very very long painful story short - God changed my life and today I'm an inspiration to many.

I'm penning and leaving this here to encourage the world because it's extremely sad that we lost Michael a few years late. Please do not lose hope, God is with us always even in the darkest places.

1. Today I single handedly take care of my two daughters and I've made them very comfortable within my own capacity. (do not let any circumstance define you)
2. With my Sociology that was undermined I have since attained a master's degree and I travel the world an ESG/Sustainability Consultant not only changing institutions but touching the lives of many (do not let how anybody treats or what they say about you affect you - it's simply a reflection of their character)
3. I have supported building churches for different ministries to thank God for having saved me from total destruction since even if I sort therapy there'd be no money to pay the huge bills, I've written more than 20 prayer books based on different challenges I faced in different stages of this painful journey, and I know soon they will be a blessing to many across the nations - (don't let any circumstance or anybody put a limitation to how far you can go in life)
4. Life is short - make the most of every second, today all that counts to me is making each day count for the sake of giving my children the best, serving humanity and living a last legacy for generations to come - get the courage to forget the past no matter how good or how painful - it is gone and will never return - enjoy every second and choose you and your happiness at all times. -

Philippians 3: 13 Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead,

Be strong and courageous to give yourself a new beginning in life - remember you have no power to change the past but you have the power to change how you act today to create a beautiful ending of your life story. Focus on doing good, using your words impeccably, not talking things personal, not making assumptions and always doing your best because that way you will maintain and attract positive energy. an
Finally remember to guard your heart, mental health issues are real - avoid stress, spread love and love will spread to you. Love you all😘😘🤭

[sharonjumba]

Depression sinks you in when you least expect; it's a deep, dark pit of hopelessness. I'm glad we made it, let's help others.

[mercywamalwa]

Am here after listening to His Wifes tribute...May you rest in peace Michael

[florencemueni]

It was Carl Rodgers who said that we are all in the process of "becoming" and it was Martin luther King who said " Only when it is dark enough, can you see the stars". May the lord shine is face upon you michael.

[agaltoto]

The Mzungu guy with tears in his eyes when Michael was narrating, how his vision of a father versus the reality of parenting took a toll on him is very deep. Feels like a part of life that so many individuals would actually resonate with.

[jami_you]

Michael, your eloquence is exemplary and your testimony is compelling. I pray that you continue to strengthen us as we journey through life.

[simonkamau]

This guy was a deep thinker. You can feel it in his speech. Rest well with the angels bro.

[OliverNawoton]

Exactly one year, your beautiful voice and amazing words still echos even after your death....continue resting in peace Sir

[Muthonie]

I met Michael when I was in 4th year of high school. He influenced my decision to choose psychology as a subject. I later met him this December 2023 and told him about it. He was happy. Thank you for your contribution to my life ❤❤ God bless you

[zippy]

I have watched Michael Oyier for the first time. I worked with him and trust me, Oyier was a humble guy. He said hey to everyone with a big smile on his face. I did not know he was going through depression. I know the path he has taken will take him further. All the best

[colletaa]

Depression is the malaria of today..most people are sick. Especially because of relationships. May God help us. Thanks for sharing . it gives me hope

[TabbyKim]

You inspired me to stick to a path i didn't know would be my security. I looked foward to meeting you at every students event just for a photo. Those career fairs kept me from tarmacking and opened my eyes to the endless job opportunities for campus students. Thanks

[cynthiaodiwa]

I didn't mourn my mother the way I should, I fell into depression and my children were the reason I had to pull out from, and once I joined BSF that spirit fell off of me I'm thankful to God for pursuing me to acknowledge that He is the only one who could give me life, now I thrive Amen

[andrewgwadiva]

Thank you for sharing. Thank you! You have no idea how this has given me hope.

[vincentrajema]

Mr. Oyier you made me realize that sometimes friends are better than relatives and also you cant tell what the donkey feels while puling a cat unless you take the turn...Kudos!!!!

[annenekesaobara]

Thanks Michael for sharing your story. Life is not always fair and is not always a straight line. It is often messy and many of us are a work in progress. It takes great courage to openly admit that you have struggles and that you are working through them. God has an amazing purpose for all our lives, our challenges notwithstanding. It is interesting in the Book of Revelations when Jesus is addressing the seven churches, he keeps reiterating...."to those who overcome" because we will have trials, tribulations, struggles BUT through the power of the Holy Spirit we will Overcome. God provides for us "Beauty for Ashes" despite what we have gone through. Wishing you God's blessings and strength as you continue this journey of life, Michael.

[irenexoxo]

Depression is nothing to be ashamed about. And it's alot more prevalent than we know. Thankyou for sharing

[wambuikamau]

It is not everyday that people (especially men) come out and talk about their sadness and hopelessness; about depression. Thank you for sharing your story and above all for making that decision to get up because of your girls, sometimes that is all the hope someone needs to come out of the darkness