Society is Failing Us ➞ Adult ADHD

ADHD is tough! no two ways about it. Here's what I've learned so far.

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[RobinBolena-zx]

Your ADHD is different from mine..I failed 4 grades in school until I quit..I have 3 failed marriages, In and out of jail.. fired from most jobs, homelessness no friends..social outcast, family doesn't want me to be a part of the family..At the age of 57 I can't take stimulants any more and the non stimulant me sick..I would love to have your life. ADHD taught me to just survive in a world that wasn't made for me

[dawildmoose]

It makes me so happy that more and more people are talking about adhd, especially people online that I grew up watching and inspired me, completely unknowingly that we both had adhd. I’ve just recently started my diagnosis journey and it’s incredible to me just how much information people are providing and how positive people are now becoming around this “stigma” of our childhoods

[ml]

17:38 This is very interesting and applies to me too. I'm great at handling an urgent situation or going on emergency calls with my volunteer fire department, but I can't manage to have a regular job. I didn't know I had ADHD until my mid 30s and I didn't even know what it was exactly until I stumbled upon some videos online. Unfortunately, I also have several other brain and body issues that also limit my abilities for normal employment. With my VFD, I now only drive the trucks or direct traffic and most calls are fairly short. The urgency gets me to go on them, but normal everyday things or studying are difficult. A few years ago, there was a fire call where we were waiting for the gas/electric company to come for a long time and I was bored, so I started tossing pinecones at one of the guys I joke around with. I overheard somebody else saying that I'm just doing that because of my ADHD. I thought to myself that he's totally wrong and that I dont have ADHD. I do have ASD and a few other fun little quirks though. Cut to a couple years later and I realized that I can also add ADHD to the alphabet soup of my brain.

I've never been on an airplane and I've had this thought for a long time. I think I'd be very nervous and anxious flying on it, but if the pilots were somehow incapacitated, I think I could probably land the plane safely with guidance from Air Traffic Control.

[AllPathsLeadToWater]

Having moved from Lancaster, PA to Maine, we found that Maine’s education system was years behind PA in many ways. One area where Maine definitely gets it right is recess. State law requires kid’s to have one recess per day, so it can’t be taken away as a consequence, and, at my school where I worked as a behavioral specialist, we have 2 recesses per day.

I can relate to so many of the experiences you’ve described and I think individuals sharing their neurodivergent experiences on social media, from the autism spectrum to ADHD, only helps everyone appreciate and understand understand these ways that our brains differ. Thanks for sharing Cody, I always appreciate your perspective!

[raulgolfs]

Great vid Cody. My wife goes through the same struggles and your vids help me a ton to learn more about it. Appreciate you bud! Hope you and the fam are doing well. Wife and I are expecting our first child (a girl) next month!! Your old vlog vids motivate me to keep creating vlogs around the family side. #TeamGirlDads

[mikeglassburn]

18:05 - extraordinarily sad and depressing. My body and mind is shot from the stress of being overworked by a micro-manager who seemingly asked for ridiculous amounts of work in short timeframes. I'm still recovering after nearly 12 years of that relationship. Also, if health insurance was not tied to your job, I think I'd be a lot better off mentally. I'm tired of the carrot to get work done being that you will lose your job and benefits if you are struggling. Why does it have to be this way?

[clarkeemalarkee]

The way I relate to everything in this like 100% is crazy. I can’t wait to get tested because I feel like you’re describing my life to a T. I’m where you were at with Cap, just feeling like Im finally realizing that my ADHD is really working against me doing what I need to do to move forward.

[tonyraya]

Super relatable! I'm currently going through a transitionary period in life, and it's difficult to admit to others and much less myself that I'm having difficulty managing my superpower. Super appreciative of your transparency and willingness to share!

[DiligentDad]

I’m concerned a lot of ADHD traits are more learned than inherent. I dislike when people try to use it as an excuse to ignore personal responsibility rather than using the awareness as a tool to understand yourself and approach the weaknesses from a different angle. You use it as a tool and I appreciate that! I’m definitely ADHD and I cannot express how relatable all of this is. How do you know me? 😆 Keep it up, Cody!

[cwTheDrummist]

You just described my life... both in school and as an adult. I appreciate you talking about this.

[IAmThor]

Thanks for talking on this topic! I still find your Pogo Stick and Bike video explaining the differences between ADHD and Neurodiverse still one of the best. Unfortunately I got shut down within the corporate that I was working for to highlight the difference during ADHD awareness Month. Thanks again and stay awesome!

[TheCreatorHub]

I’m so glad someone’s talking about this!!

[WalkingDevon]

I can relate to so much of what you say Cody, I'm also a square peg in a world of round holes. Although I haven't been diagnosed with ADHD, I was diagnosed with ASD 18 months ago. I can get tested but I just haven't got around to it yet, I'm 57 so it's a lot to sink in. The diagnosis has helped me so much but I still have a whole life to unpack and reassess. I'm the same as you in front of the computer, I need to be out and about. I love recording the videos, it's sitting down for extended time editing that I struggle with.

[TheKnivesMonroePodcast]

Thank you for sharing.
More videos like this.
I watched the whole thing.
Love u man.

[DarzRojas]

Thabks for sharing. Very interesting...i don't think i have adhd but i relate to several things you said. I definitely get to a point of feeling trapped when I've worked at regular jobs, which is why i work for myself now! But also, working for yourself you have to do all those mundane tasks which gets really hard sometimes.

[metacortexvortex]

You make some good points. I relate to your story in a lot of ways.

[LivingLifewithJudith]

Here, we are light years behind in education. I have been a teacher for a little bit more than 20 years... and in my 20 years of teaching, not much have changed, sadly.
ADHD kids/adults are creative, intelligent, and interesting. They can look at problems in different ways that "regular" people might not think about. School needs to take advantage of the differences of everyone.
I live with two ADHD's. It is not always easy, but I try to embrace and focus on their forces instead of their wicknesses... not always easy, though! 😅
But this definitely needs to be talked more. Thanks for doing it.

[GaryForgingOn]

I'm an old boomer and didn't realize my issues through school and different way of doing things was ADHD until I was in my 60s. I'm 64 now. Thought about going to get meds but I thought why bother. I am about to retire so what would I need them for. A couple more years of work.

[itsbrittjohnson]

powerful stuff! Thank you for making this. hit home.

[dawildmoose]

Retirement saving doesn’t give the dopamine boost for instant gratification that we thrive on. That’s why we find it difficult :)