Couples Therapy (Showtime) #1 - Therapist Reaction

Dr. Kirk Honda reacts to Couples Therapy (Showtime). Includes clips from Couples Therapy.

The Psychology In Seattle Podcast.

This content is for educational and informational purposes only. Although Kirk Honda is a licensed marriage and family therapist, this content is not a replacement for proper mental health treatment. Always seek the advice of your mental health provider regarding any questions or concerns you have about your mental health needs.

[Chipiliro]

Two years from now, there'll be a 'Dr. Honda reviews himself reviewing himself' video, I'm calling it right now.

[chillbeach]

Please cherish your life partner, care for them, listen to them, talk to them, don't be impatient with them, don't be impulsive or harsh in your reactions with them, and be careful not to turn an insignificant incident into a full blown drama that could be prevented by taking a few breaths to calm down then remember that you love your life partner. On a planet with 8 billion people, they are sharing love with you and that is a miracle.

[krystalroney]

I'm not a therapist or in training but I'm very fascinated by this. This is probably my favorite video I've seen thus far!

[shawneeable]

I’ve had a lot of therapy in my life and my opinion is that this therapist is a class act. She knows exactly how to help. She’s experienced and does her job so well.

[lisas]

From a non therapist: please do more of these 😁

[susiecopithorne]

It’s awesome to see two really smart therapists with different approaches to the same interaction. This is gold

[emicaron]

As much as I recognize the pertinence of your vids to clinicians of all levels, I'm here to tell you (as many of us are) that your videos like this one are INCREDIBLY helpful in navigating day-to-day interactions. Your videos help me understand how to communicate more effectively with the variety of people I come into contact with as a hairstylist by day and bartender by night

[biablajan]

I am a therapist in training and i I ll probably watch this quite a few times :)

[MV-gmer]

"Is this interesting?" Yes!! And as someone who doesn't pay for Showtime, accessible and educational!! Please keep these up Dr Kirk. Your vids really help during these tumultuous times. I think I'm going to have to lose my current therapist due to insurance coverage issues (boo), and I know you always say your content isn't a replacement for therapy, but if I find myself back in that zone in between therapists trying to find someone to take me in, I know whatever you upload will help keep me busy until then :) Thank you for your work and stay safe with this smoke

[srivijagan]

Dear Dr Honda, i am therapist in Asia. This was amazing insights from you. I am a patreon of your podcast. Cant tell you how much i have improved in the last 1 year hearing your humanistic approach in therapy. Your talks on different topics are very addictive. There are not many experienced senior therapist out there who have the time and interest to share their experience with others. Grateful for your innovative and interesting approach to teach therapy. 🙏

[ktz]

Someone needs to give Dr. Honda a check for putting us on to all these shows.

[Miriam-rfxv]

This is fascinating! Please please please do more of these. I wish I could like it 100 times. As potential clients we see even less couples therapy than students and trainees - it's really really interesting to see, plus helpful to give us an idea of what to expect.

[moomoocachoo]

Never heard of this, but an hour video is always a good thing.

[mandi]

How did I miss this 2 years ago!? So fascinating Dr. Kirk, thanks for reviewing this!

[nirvaniaquesada]

I’m not a therapist but I would still love for you to continue doing a series on this show, Dr. Honda. This episode actually showed good ways to handle confrontation and devaluation of women. Thank you!

[rosaliecharlotte]

(Tw) When i was hospitalized after i tried to take my life i was asked to talk about my mental health and what made me decide to try to take my life in front of a classroom full of university students. I agreed and was very open and transparent about my mental struggles and what was going on in my life and the affect it had on me that it hadnt worked and that i was still alive. I felt incredibly vulnerable breaking down in front of about 20 strangers who were staring at me and taking notes because i felt very much like i was a 'guinea pig' in this situation (not exactly the right words but i cant come up with words to better describe it, i hope it comes off the way i intended it to). But i wanted to do it to show the real side to mental illness instead of just textbook examples. It was scary but i hope that i contributed to their education in some way. If you made it this far, thanks for reading.

[JournalNthoughts]

I actually like the idea of Dr. Honda reacting to this rather than some of the shows he's done. Especially the TLC shows that are edited to hell and back and twist interactions to fit a storyline. It's seems like it would be hard to get information about a person, if the facts/reasoning behind the behaviour are completely cut out. This feels more real.

[parkerisles]

Did he really complain about his wife trying to fulfill his sexual fantasies when he can't even properly elaborate what he wants? If it doesn't hit the mark, talk about what went right and what you want to try differently!

[lucindabreeding]

Tangent: I recall a researcher on a National Public Radio show talking about feminine laughter. She said that women laugh in a friendly, warm or encouraging way around men to diffuse the potential for aggression. And that women are conscious of how careful they need to be in laughing *at* men, because if it belittles, it can put the woman in danger.

[MuzzyBarker]

"There. A breakthrough." That's something nice for the therapist to latch onto. He expects his therapist to anticipate his needs the same way he expects his wife to. He doesn't want the responsibility of articulating his needs or his perspective. He instead puts the onus on other people to meet him where he is, and then is free to look down on them when they fail. Seems like an easy way to paint yourself as superior.

It's difficult when the focus shifts from the couple to an individual. They are clearly not going to get any further unless this man stops stonewalling, but it has to be frustrating for the woman to sit and wait while the therapist chisels at that wall.

Speaking of frustrating, I wonder that the therapist didn't jump on that word before graduating to "devastating." If I heard him say that it's frustrating when I bring up how he responds when someone's understanding of him isn't exactly right, my next question would address that directly. What about that frustrates you? What does it make you think when someone isn't completely right about you? It would give the therapist more information and avoid the opportunity for sparring.

This is interesting. I'm more invested in this couple because they're doing the work, painful though it is. I would definitely keep watching reactions to this show. It doesn't seem to prompt as many throwaway lines as the other shows do.