#CovertSalad How Covert Narcissists Use Word Salad as a Tactic

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“Covert Salad” How Covert Narcissists Use Word Salad as a Tactic//Narcissists are master manipulators. They use tactics like word salad to control and confuse their victims. Narcissists are experts at twisting conversations around to make themselves look good. Rebecca Zung, lawyer and narcissist negotiation expert, explains what word salad is and how to spot it in conversations with narcissists.
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My wife is a covert narc and you hit the nail on the head. I cut her supply from me and started healing. She melts down from time to time because I won't fall for her tricks.

Tarsarian
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For sure. My last narc relationship was exactly like this and passive aggressive. I meant to comment on the last few videos of this series but couldn't resist clicking up to watch the next. I'm a scapegoat raised by an overt and covert narc and youngest sibling to a golden child and flying monkey. From toxic classmates to relationships in adulthood I understand all of these dynamics well. Probably experienced every type. I'm in a relationship with a healthy woman that was raised by an overt and covert as well that love bombed her and lives vicariously through her and her sibling. When I woke her up that reality and they were using her money they discarded me and started to hoover her. Thank God for knowledge on these narc threats.

DemonSlayer_ISTJ
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I go through the word salads with my husband all the time. Just yesterday he says I always question what he says. I asked for an example. He couldn't give me one. Sometimes I do check into what he says bcs he often gets his facts wrong but, questioning his facts are too damaging to his ego. So, I usually just walk away and tell him that's his problem not mine.

debrabrickus
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For sure…. Definitely have this issue with my narc

lrpolo
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Please consider a video concerning grandparent alienation with a narcissist.

sophia-
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I remember when trying to have a real conversation with the main narc in my life. It frequently turned into, "I don't like your tone", thus turning it into being about some tone infraction and not about the subject at hand. Maddening.

johncasey
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I was turned into adult protective services. They asked if I hide my mothers phone. I said she has dimentia and parkinsons and loses her keys and phone everyday. She blames me because she don't want to admit she has dimentia. Next accusation was throwing her medication away. I threw it away after calling and asking her. She said she has a new prescription and does not take this stuff anymore. It was in the floor so I threw it away cleaning her house. Next accusation was I ripped the AC unit off the wall. Yes, I removed the cover to work on it. It works, and I took pictures of it on 75. They act like I removed her AC. Then they said I starved her. I said she comes home with a chocolate malt everyday. She cooks and feeds herself. She has groceries she won't eat that she bought herself. Again I got pictures of two refrigerators with food. Why would I remove her AC when I live here too? We didn't have heat, because her furnace is too small and she removed her gas heaters, because she said they was ugly. My mother is a narcissist who always blames me. I am the one who does it all. I mow her 48 acres with a tractor, and repaired her laptop, and 2 cell phones, I replaced bad faucets, and leaking pipes. I caught 8 rats in her house and killed them when I moved in. I had to make her throw the dead rats away so she would believe she had rats. She was in denial. So anyways I think APS is after our home, and business. I am the beneficiary to her business and estate. So someone is trying to take me out. It could be my narcissist sister who has my mother at her house. My mother and sister are alike. I do everything for my mother and my sister does nothing. Sister is the golden child who got a new car for graduation and I got a watch. Anyways these accusations are rediculious. They asked if I ever threw anything at her. I never threw anything to harm her, but I might of tossed her a burrito from TacoBell while she lays in bed demanding to be treated like a Queen. Why would the beneficiary want to harm the benefactor? Makes no since. I think my sister might be jealious. We talk once every 4 years, and I can't be mad at anyone I see one day every four years. Its rediculious. I don't see her enough to be mad at her, but she hates me. I'm fixing to disown my family. I already deleted their numbers, so I can't call or text them, because they will make something out of it. I think I need to move. I hate moving. I'm disowning this family if I have to sell everything to move. They love to tear me down. My mother destroyed furniture, and cars of mine. So they destroy my property so I have to start over. I got to buy new stuff I already owned. I can't get ahead, because my mother keeps jerking the rug out from under me. Everytime I move she tells me to come home like I am a YOYO. I will be Han Solo after this.

sleepwalker
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This! Exactly this! I would get butterflies in my stomach, because I knew he would gaslight me and use word salad. Thing is, I have Bipolar, which is maintained very well with medication. He used that to make me look completely insane to my whole family.
Since he left, no more butterflies and no ups and downs. I am level and I am happy! Lonely sometimes, but the fog has cleared.

One-Goth
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I feel like I'm stuck now! I talked to a lawyer yesterday and she told me that if I leave, I need to have a better plan then I already have. And since BOTH our vehicles are in HIS name, the police may make me give him the brand new one we just got back! Then I will have NOTHING to drive to my doc appointments. The other car is totaled. He had an accident, and the car is not safe to drive long distances. But I won't drive it because with MY luck, the right front tire will come off and it will be ME driving!! But if I leave my stuff, he could destroy it or sell it or trash it all. All I would want are my PERSONAL belongings. He can have everything else. My belongings don't include ALL the household stuff or the furniture. I don't know how I'm going to get out. He's even been putting money in a personal account now. He has well over $2000 in it!!!! Yet I BARELY get $200.00!!!! What we have in our joint account is not enough for me to take HALF!!! I feel like I'm being beat up by the court system as well as mentally, verbally, emotionally, and medically!!!! WHAT DO I

nadinecolbath
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Yes. And thank you again. Also we have to heal inside ourselves. We have to work on ourselves so that we do not attract those types of people again.🌻 If we do not heal ourselves then the pattern will repeat. Blessings on everyone's Journey.🌻

FeMiNem-Poet
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For sure!!! They are the pits, the constant lies, word salad take a long time to figure out. The flying monkeys are horrendous enablers also for this disgusting behaviour. But once u get it and see it, it just becomes worse. I went no contact and live in peace now. Sadly it was my mother, but it was worth it for my sanity. Thank u for bringing forth this subject and helping humanity figure it out.

carmeng
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For sure! I went no contact with an ex friend of mine. He is very charming so it was difficult to identify he is a covert narcissist. He divorced twice and his first spouse ran away from home. I feel sure he did something abusive behind closed doors.

yukio_saito
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Had the word salad thing thrown at me last weekend. To me, it seems like a defense mechanism. Like they re throwing up a wall of bs, to either get you to back down... this one claims her t.i. s have to be afraid and ridiculed. At the same time, provoke you into a rage.. it s a set up. Usually followed by her playing " victim"

ks
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For Sure! It’s amazing how they would lie to you. It doesn’t matter if you have all the evidence, they will lie. I am finally divorced 🙏🏽

rishipuran
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I love what you just said and how you have our back etc. etc. You seem so wonderful. I wish I could help get the word out as you do, so I will reply here that I was one who experienced some or most of this kind of behavior from a narcissist for many years. It's pitiful. I can say that I gave up being the victim . Love you.

bernitacenteno
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Perhaps you should offer training to family law attorneys cause most of them have no clue about Narcs.

eliana
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Oh my. Yep. Once you know it, you own them!!!

peterd
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Thank you!🌺 Yes covert narcissists are hard because the people around them- even close ones - might not really know what they are about.🌺
It was a roommate situation. We all have our issues. We all have our shadow. For me I finally got out with a police escort. Every town has one. You can go to the police station and request it. Around here you get 10 minutes to get all your stuff. If you can get away. Get away.😇💥😇

FeMiNem-Poet
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That's a indubitably "For sure".

mister_oj_zen
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Word salad 🥗! Coverts are the worst. Favorite video to date. Nailed it!

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