What Kind of Person Will Infidelity Make You Into? Part 2

Samuel discusses the journey of the betrayed spouse in a unique outlook and approach.

[sorayaouaida]

I’m crying so much, I was betrayed I needed to see this to heal I want my husband to heal. Cause he cries and is sorry for what he did . It has caused so many issues in our marraige, I felt I was taken advantage off, hopefully there is a light at the end of this tunnel but I can relate to what you said, thank you for helping me heal .

[sheacunningham]

I absolutely love your transparency, honesty and humility that displays in your videos. I hope my spouse comes your videos.

[jennifergough]

Thank you. This was so helpful. Boundaries are an issue for me as I feel like I always have to make everyone happy. It also gives me hope and perspective on the anger and hurt that I feel and that I can get through it and not let it take me over.

[suzimonkey]

“PTSD Pain” is so very, very true. There aren’t words that even come close to explaining the utter reality shift that betrayal causes. Dante reserved a very special place in his “inferno” for the betrayer....a seat reserved right next to the devil! Why did he place the betrayer, philosophically, below even the murderer? Why did Dante place betrayers below all other ‘evils’?

[janban_]

Love this series of video. But I don’t think feeling like a “hero” was ever apart of how it feels for a betrayed to stay. I don’t know why that part tapped my nerve a lil bit lol. I’m only speaking for myself, and i heard your intro and thought about it for a sec. But I’m 8 years out and wish i could feel heroic. There has been no more traumas since, but I’ve been searching for a definition of what it feels like to be where i am today. I’ve heard a lot of titles but none has moved me yet. Thanks for your vids!

[laniec.f.]

I have so very much respect for Samantha... You cannot imagine. I have wanted, time and again these past 16 months since our D-day - - and finding this site, to write to her and tell her that. Please, if possible in your busy lives, share that with her? And you, Samuel, have been (through your humble and heartfelt teachings) a lifesaver for me and my sanity ... The betrayed. And Samantha, thank YOU for being okay with sharing this most difficult experience in your life, so that others may heal, too. So many heartfelt words in my head, but the best ones are... "my humblest gratitude to you both".

[hugonauttankovich]

I get this, I get Samuel in these videos. He is so on point. I have failed drastically for five years.

[Ankka-]

I am the betrayed spouse and I've been struggling with whether or not I should continue to fight for my marriage and as time has gone on I've changed so much that situations have popped up in reference to her affair partner and she is blown away by how I react to it. I try to use logic to deal with a lot and when she really pushes against me I know she's doing it to get a response that isn't logical and more emotional which just makes me get my point across with volume. Recently though there's been a shift in her and she wants me to be loving and idk if it's because of her expartner doing, or really her and that has me really struggling to open up more.

[salayir]

Samuel did you really fell in love with your affair partner. Could you please tell us how did you feel with her and how did it all start and then how did, and what made you end the affair?

[floridagirl]

Can you do a video on repeat serial cheaters and why they do it and what it does to the spouse.

[joni]

Samuel my husband really needs his eyes opened . Im struggling to continue to try to stay with my unfaithful husband, no matter what he turns it around and says well you did this . I dont know how to make him open his eyes. Its been a year and I dont think i can last much longer .

[preetibala]

My husband is the unfaithful one, he had an affair for 3 months . Its a long distance affair . I had deep conversation with him regarding his affair and what he wants, he was not ready to end it till the time when i said i want divorce. Now he says that he has almost stopped talking to her and will eventually end it but he fails to guve me details about what is happening amongst both of them. He says we should not dicuss about it as its was a terrible mistake done by him. Should i keep asking him about the detauls of the affair or go by his saying that with time thing will be ok

[Deeann]

I'm sorry I'm just not that strong or courageous enough to do this. I'll never be able to release all this pain.

[kimcolvin]

Thanks Samuel. I'm the stupid betrayer. Been married 32years. We are a month into recovery if u can call it that. I had month long affair mostly on ohone but has sex, which was crappy; once. The pain is unreal that I feel. My husband who forgives me is doing much better than me. Go figure? Anyway u have been a lifeline and I hope one day I with Gods Grace will be able to help someone else.