Why it can be so hard to leave a narcissist alone

This caller is struggling to leave her narcissistic person alone. Which is a struggle that a lot of people experience over time dealing with toxic relationships.

If you're struggling to leave a narcissist alone, then you're not alone. In this video, I'll share with you some of the reasons why it can be so hard to leave a narcissist alone, and what you can do to overcome those obstacles.

If you're looking for information about why it can be so hard to leave a narcissist alone, then look no further! In this video, I'll discuss the different reasons why it can be so hard to leave a narcissist, and offer some tips on how to overcome those obstacles. After watching this video, you'll be better prepared to leave a narcissist alone, and will have a better understanding of why it can be so hard to do so.

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[NarcSurvivor]

You have cognitive dissonance. You question whether or not the character in the beginning was real. You know that you have good qualities and virtues. And you project that on to the narcissist. When it’s not relevant or appropriate to them. They’re not like you or I.

[QueenShelly]

You gave her excellent advice by telling her to not focus on the good things. That kept me with my narc longer than I should have. I had over 3, 000 reasons to leave and I would focus on his 3 good qualities and stay. So now that he is blocked, whenever I think about him I focus on the confusion, blaming, projection, name calling; etc

[fieryred]

This woman, word for word, is my situation. NEVER have I EVER been in anything like this situation with ANYONE!!! Your advice is priceless and really helps ❤😊😊

[tabathajohnson]

I don’t think a lot of people UNDERSTAND the compelling feeling on the inside that draws you to contact the narcissist 😥😥😥

[alexissmith]

My daughter’s becoming of age was how I was able to release my narcissistic alone. Wishing this level of peace on everyone

[kelseydrayton_]

It’s easy for other people to judge when they’ve never experienced a trauma bond before. I too have/had a similar experience. I had 4 years invested, an engagement, and we have a baby together, and our children (7 & 11 years old) from previous relationships also lived with us. It took me almost 2 whole years to FINALLY break up and get him out of my house. He uses our 10 month old son and our daughters to guilt me and victimize himself. And this break up is FRESH! The holidays and my birthday were weird this year. It’s hard but I’m learning to understand that he is manipulative and accepting that he’s NOT going to change. I have recognized his behavior/patterns and I’m over it.. I’m relearning to love myself, gaining my independence all over again and healing. I gave up and missed out on a lot because of my trauma bond with him. If I didn’t have a child with him (or he didn’t want to “be an involved father”) I wouldn’t have anything to do with him anymore. We will see how long this charade lasts with him being involved. He has other children that he has nothing to do with..
I hope she finds her peace with leaving him soon and learns to love herself more again. I also pray that she finds some support, real love and happiness in her future after she heals, including myself and anyone else who has been affected by these toxic individuals. ❤

[kellithomas]

I was like this for almost 13 years. Just stuck! I kept going back over and over and over. It was the most horrific thing I’ve ever been entangled in. Idk what happened, but I guess I just got tired of feeling shitty and decided I was going to hurt either way and chose to hurt in order for possible relief on the other side. I realized I had cognitive dissonance and it was no longer love. He didn’t add any real value to my life and it was just false hope. I just finally woke the hell up and told myself no more!! I don’t need anyone in my life who plays mind games, lies, cheats, turns others against me and wants control over my emotions. No thank you!

[KoreaMojo]

My ex was my only relationship and he only lets you hoover yourself after awhile. I was so weak to him I was the same as her, giving him the power to end it permanently. Had me like a horror movie character that runs then loses the monster and turns around yelling "hello" until you get got. I let him walk away this time, I preferred that but I let everything he was doing all those years and everything he did before I accepted it as a breakup speak to me. It's over, it never was, I was in a self-imposed hostage situation. He did treat the last known other girl better, he moved her in but she has no work history and is dependent on him and he still flew out to my house to sleep with me and likely had a few others in various stages of development. So, he gave her things I wanted (living together) but he really didn't treat her better, just a different kind of bad. Meaning I really wouldn't have been happier in her shoes and I wouldn't want to be okay with him treating me like that either or being dependent on him while he was dogging me out. I wanted him to be a real partner but not in mutual self-destruction

[kanothe]

I wish I could have a redo on this year and took a left turn on meeting my narc in January.

Now I am burdened with self awareness as to my own toxic traits and have someone out there who assigned me the role of being their mortal enemy (one of many) and would like to destroy me professionally. Who I still care about but refuses to do the work on themselves.

I wouldn't have invited that into my life.

[Michelle_One_Good_Eye]

I suggest you start looking into moving out of town, which is what I’m getting ready to do. Trust me, it’s quite a feat when you’re visually impaired and has a number of disorder, but little by little gotta get those ducks in a row for your sanity be strong

[tranquility]

Lee you are indeed my fav narcissist. You're so smart😊

[KevinSoto-dx]

Can you make a video about what to do if you’re the narcissist and want to break the habits or psychology? I have bad tendencies and I do think it’s just this control thing. It’s weird like if control is what I want but when I really think about it I don’t really care about what I’m trying to control. I know most people will say I’m a POS and I agree, it’s ruined a lot of relationships for me, family relationships, romantic, friendships etc. I just wanna change, realistically not because I want to, but because I do want to be proud of who I am as a person. Hopefully you see this

[Js-wddr]

I survived other break ups before because they didn't bother with me when I came back.

[malloryvasquez]

Wow I felt like I was the was one who left the voicemail I don’t know whether I should cry cause I’m not alone or feel a sense of more hopefulness that I can get out of this situation one day.

[momentsphotos]

That's awesome I want to be a caller on the show.

[GracedToWin]

This is one of the most thought provoking videos I have seen yet, so spot on 💯

What I find crazy is that I never had a problem ending a relationship with a good person, but it has been extremely difficult not to look back with this toxic person.

You absolutely need a community, family, and friends to get you over this hurdle. That's why I intend to return to my spiritual family even though I'm still fighting the thought.

[teesahurt]

In my research, I’ve found that I fell in love/lust with MYSELF. FROM HIM MIRRORING ME. He has no sense of self. This is why he liked everything you liked. Also the TRAMA BOND, I consider this MENTAL WARFARE. Once I realized this I was much easier able to move forward and resist the Hoovers. My research and studies and this channel has help me understand so much more about this personality. It is oooo deep. But I CAN see it coming. And I end things very quickly. PEROID. I CHOOSE SELF EVERYTIME. What’s LOVE got to o with it. ? It’s a 2nd hand emotion. These are my thoughts.

[JusttRaquel]

Lee you dropped some nuggets here. Thank you!🎉

[jennyevans]

This was my first time to be in a relationship with a narcissist. He has ghosted me for the last time! This time I have taken this time to turn to God for healing. This has been the only thing to truly work. I had been going through this back and forth with him for 7 years in February and this is the first time I’ve had true relief by turning my healing and recovery over to God♥️🙏🏾.

[unomeecj]

Hes got me so worn down. I feel like I can't survive a divorce thirty one years of abuse.... I have to find my strength. I know he will appeal it. He would rather waste all the money in court than give me a dime.