Your Ultimate Superpower When Dealing With A Narcissist

Narcissists, controllers that they are, want to drain you of your psychological energy. They seek to elevate themselves by keeping you feeling uncertain about yourself. Psychotherapist Dr. Les Carter calmly asserts how you can find ultimate power as you focus on your inner resolve to be who you choose to be. As you build upon your inner strength, there is one statement that will become foundational to your superpower to deal with the narcissists in your life.

Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who lives in Dallas, Tx. In the past 40 years he has conducted over 60,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

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[teachersusanute]

My narc ex said: If you leave me you and your kids will starve on the streets. Well, he was wrong. My sons and I built a great family life and I started a new career path in teaching. He was so wrong. 😁

[rangerdoc]

Having emotional maturity & self control is your superpower. It's the very essence of what they lack.

[meggallucci]

Trusting yourself is a deterrent to gaslighting.

[cherrybacon]

I had an argument yesterday with my Narcissist Ex that ended badly. When I said I wasn't going back to him he replied "I'm going to see someone else then". I said "Of Course you are". We both know you've been cheating on me". I walked away looking at him. But then something snapped and I couldn't control it. I went over to him and attacked him. All the time he was calling me 'Pathetic and crap in bed'. I eventually managed to walk away. I was shaking, and tears rolling down my face. How inhumane to throw another woman in my face. It nearly killed me. I wish I hadn't been like that, but I also think anyone in my situation emotionally abused would have done the same thing maybe. So for that I forgive myself. Today is a new beautiful sunny day and I intend to self care and live as good a life as I can, forgiving myself over and over whenever intrusive thoughts about the incident come into my head. 🍒

[McJc]

Repeat after me.. what someone thinks off me is not my business!

[hyde]

It amazes me just how real this personality disorder really is.

[nelumbonucifera]

Indifference. Do not react and give them the fuel to play on. When there is no audience, they will take their show elsewhere to perform for others. Stay empowered and safe, dear survivors!

[rethinkingchange]

"I cannot change others, and so I change myself."

[skunkproductionsMLA]

The wind changes when a narcissist comes. You can never change the direction of the wind, but you can adjust your sails. But if you are sick of changing sails all the time, find your peace in more tranquil waters.

[latenitetubing]

Survival Thinking Style:
1. I know we can handle this
2. I trust myself *superpower*
3. At some level, there are adjustments I can make to dealing with problems if we can dedicate ourselves to solutions and changes
4. I am resilient and can bounce back
5. I’m not perfect but I’m adequate
6. I’m able to manage my life quite nicely and if you don’t believe in me, I’m not going to melt

How can we know we can trust ourselves when facing narcissistic expressions about us?

Core tenants to build your life upon:
1. You have inherent worth and dignity
2. You have basic competence
3. When you fail, you are capable of learning and moving forward from it
4. Contempt and disdain says more about the broken person expressing it
5. I’ll do as I choose knowing that I don’t require the narcissist’s blessing
5. I know the value of boundaries and consequences and the bully doesn’t have to have ultimate say over me
6. Truth has a way of rising to the surface and I won’t buckle to smear campaigns because being me isn’t risky
7. My decency and goodness I represent is soothing and speaks for itself, is honest, can be inspiring, and I don’t need to be someone else at the condescension of the narcissist

Steadiness, goodness, and peace!

Thank you Dr Carter ❤

[ezrc]

Dignity and self worth are the primary targets for destruction in the narcissist pathway. For to stand up for truth and honesty marks you for annihilation

[normagaunce]

Thank you. Narcissists are so lying and deceiving.

[weaknessstrength]

I told my narcissist husband I am filing for divorce. Got endless hysterical personal attacks as he paced around the room about how, "Noone will marry you! You will get old and sag and noone will marry you, "
God bless Dr. C and his videos which I had been watching.
I replied, "My future is my own to think about. You do not worry about me"
Just like that, I felt all the control slip away from him, I felt whole again, no longer an anxious mess constantly burdened to defend myself.
Dr. C, you have given me my narrative, my formerly happy self back. Thank you doesn't begin to cover it.

[vitalule]

You are the most loving person I ever heard speaking, I mean extremely helpful, I am so thankful for your supporting the needy and the poor people like

[TM-hlme]

If you are being repeatedly targetted, there is often a real reason behind it. Jealousy.

[joeo]

“Im not perfect, but adequate.” Is a great quote of yours. ...especially when you are criticized and you know it’s true. It’s NOT about me, it’s about the narcissist that has the problem.

[ministryontheroad]

Watched this on the edge of my seat through to the end! When doc finished with the question. Do you trust yourself? I bawled my eyes out with relief, joy, validation. Thank you doc you're a good man. You're keeping us out of the lions den.✌❤

[sarahstrong]

If the poor narcissist is so unhappy with you & finds you such a bad person to be with then maybe you should leave in order to help them make their life better. "Yes I quite agree with you dear. You will be so much happier without me."

[Derpa_Derpa_]

“I’m good at being me.” Duuude you just blew my mind

[wandag.]

You can't even imagine how much you have changed my life. I had a child with a narcissist 24 years ago. I felt useless, unattractive, and other emotions that I cannot even describe. Its like if I needed his approval to just live. I didnt know why I stayed with him even though he never said sorry for the many many things he did. A HUGE THANK YOU. Now I have the strength to walk away from him. He no longer has a hold on me. Now I have to work on feeling...because I dont find pleasure in anything. I think I am numb but not in a good way. But I know that time heals. Im giving myself time.