The stages of stress while transitioning

Reflecting on the various stages of stress I've gone through some of you will likely go through as you transition.

[jamiec]

A few weeks ago, while driving with my spouse on our way to walk in the park, I was being a whiny butt because I felt too androgynous/masculine with my winter clothes/coat on. "I look like a man 😭... Blah blah blah woe is me". My wife sweetly scolded me saying, you look alot more feminine than many women, but those women never doubt who they are. They are confident about their femininity and because of that others never doubt their womanhood. That really corrected my attitude and you video reminded me that our transition started from the inside first. But as we transition we tend to lean more on the outward.

[TheOwlHatMan]

I struggle so much with this balance. One the one hand i am working up the energy to try to reply to an email about FFS, which is itself an overwhelming thing to envision, on the other hand i don't even know what foods to make for breakfast now because my appetite and what my body needs has changed so much that even that routine is no longer serving me. Its. Just. So. Much. Even though it is exciting to experience, and i have felt a joy and pleasure in my life which i have never experienced before, it can feel like being lost in space without a tether. And somehow everything else needs to be done as well. Amazing that this video was released today exactly when i was having this conversation with my therapist!

[nickifiresnow]

You are so awesome! I am only 2.5 months on HRT but it felt like last Saturday I had started the second phase, the early stuff is in progress and now I just have to maintain while getting to know the new me. Thankyou, once again spot on.

[KR-vcol]

6:10 I totally do that all the time! I love my clothes but they are totally not made for my current body type!

[JohnSmith-mbsc]

oh god i'm so scared, I'm using a throwaway account right now because I don't want my family to know. i've had these feelings of jealousy and envy towards girls since I was young that came in waves that I mostly ignored, but it wasn't until last week when I was playing a romance game and felt so similar to this girl in it, she might as well have been me. That night I cried because I knew I couldn't be her. Then I asked myself, wait am I seriously crying because I'm not a girl? Am I a girl? Have I been living a lie my whole life? It all clicked. All my behavior over the course of my life made perfect sense under the lens that I might be trans. I had the exact same experience that you did looking in the mirror when you were younger and thinking, "I would be so pretty as a girl. Oh well" and thinking that was normal. My genitals feeling unnatural, loathing having to shave, thinking my body is flat hairy and gross. Having far better friendships with girls than with guys. Why am I only feeling this so strongly right now?? I just turned 18 it doesn't make any sense. And I'm still not sure, i'm still in doubt and denial... I was doing research and stumbled across your channel, excellent content! Keep doing what you're doing :) I just feel like I have to share this with someone, I can't keep all this anxiety to myself. All this transitioning, inwards and outwards seems super daunting. I'm really scared. Sorry for the rant