When do you start seeing narcissistic behavior? #narcissism #narcissist #narcissistic #narcissists

[smarternow]

Yes, immediately he changed and then refused to touch me. No honeymoon just straight on went on to cheat. Evil, cruel and so abusive.

[justusfosters]

Literally felt my first “punch in the gut” moment from my ex-husband driving away from the church after the wedding. You are spot on! Of course, my entire life was one moment like that after another for 11 years after that. Thank you for encouraging freedom from narcissistic abuse. It may take a while to rebuild after leaving, but life can be good and peaceful again. 😊

[terrapintravels]

It started a few days before the wedding, I documented his behaviors. I walked out after our first anniversary.

[Amy.Munson]

Wow my greatest burden I have carried is the way my husband discarded me on our wedding day and night and next day and never looked back. Exactly a light switch I could never understand just thought it was me and that I was not a good enough wife or good at intimacy. Hurt me so deep. Now 17 years later I am seeing and telling myself it’s not me and never was. It’s so crazy someday I hope to be free of him really working on getting stronger

[Kennedyever]

On our honeymoon he made me cry that morning by bringing up his ex wife in detail who showed up just as we were getting our wedding photos taken. He wanted to discuss her and their marriage. Then he accused me of being too sensitive and then he refused to get into the hot tub will me and I had specifically requested it for our suite. I got out after 19 years. Far too long but I didn't learn about narcissism until the 18.5 year point.

[boogieuggie]

I had no idea what narcissism was when I got married. I had never experience this with anyone else. I learned that beign with this type of people it's like a roller coaster of emotions. You really can't figure the constant negativity and total chaos they can cause in your life and you just can't understand why they treat you that way. It's sickening to think I stayed so long to try to make it work but no matter what you do it's never enough. It was so strange to deal with someone that could be nice for a moment and turn into a complete jerk in a second. They are heartless people.

[brendaleverick]

My ex-narc husband turned mean and abusive right after the wedding, as we were walking to the car. Moments before, he had been all smiles. The funny thing was, I KNEW that I shouldn't marry him before the wedding. But, my mom had already made all the arrangements, and invited all her friends. I felt obligated to go through with it. But, I should have listened to my own warning system. He wasn't abusive every day, but he was an awful husband nonetheless. He cheated on me, beat me, and took off on me in the brand new van MY family had bought for US. He divorced ME and I got NO money after the divorce. I was traumatized for decades after. I only learned about narcissism about a year or two ago.

[Peaceful]

I’m glad he said, “you can get out now”

[jeanniesaltwaterla]

I didn’t notice right away. But I always say my marriage was like trying to hold onto sand in my hand. I couldn’t get a grip on why it was so bad, or even understand what was happening. I just knew something was off with him. Sadly, it took over 23 years to get the courage to file divorce. Shortly after I left he was diagnosed bipolar. He is also a major narcissist. Our marriage revolved around his “accomplishments”, and personal interests. Not mine. If I tried to do something outside of raising the kids, he would diminish my accomplishments. He made the divorce a living hell, and it took 4 years for him to cooperate with the attorneys and sign. Turned around and within 6 months he married(on our son’s birthday)a Russian hooker. God, I don’t miss him.

[megan-superhero]

I wish I knew this when I married one! That word didn’t exist back then.

[draegiles]

Before we got to the car. I felt stuck.

[latonyajohnson]

wow so true... and he really showed it after I became pregnant with our daughter he was a monster

[sharipeterson]

It happened as soon as the vows were taken. He totally ignored me during the reception and for the next 3 years. Except whenever he'd viciously attack me. It was so scary. After a year, I started seeing a therapist, and I told her everything he was saying and doing to me. She told me he had every single one of the symptoms of NPD, and she said his threats to kill me weren't just threats. That I needed to take them seriously. So I started learning all about NPD and realized I had something to worry about.

[SoundsBogus]

True! After a year of dating he took it upon himself to move me in, lightning speed, all my stuff was moved out of my apartment. That Very Day, when he Knew I no longer had my place to go back to, the commanding expectations began. Day 2 he punched a hole in the wall and broke a door slamming it, because I didn't suck up as expected, or whatever I did or didn't do. It took me 8 months to plan a way out. I got out. Then MONTHS of his nasty messages -- texts 30 times per day. Promises, "he's changed" 🙄 Pleading, begging, threats, smearing me to friends, flying monkeys -- the Whole Shebang!

[ociana]

It is true. It started on the "honeymoon." I should have gotten an annulment.

[JESUSISLORD]

Mask slipped off the day that we were married ..A week later he went out after we had a meal, then calls me about midnight and told me to stop texting him, he's at a woman's house he met that was super fine, and not call him anymore, then hung up in my face. I told him to stay there. Evil

[arabianhorsesever]

Hindsight is 20/20. I didn't know what a narcissist was. I saw signs before we were married. After the first 2 dates, he kept showing up at my apartment unannounced. After a few months, we were going somewhere and I mentioned "I really need to clean out my car" He went off, "Oh so you are saying, you think I should clean out your car" He was peeved. I was perplexed, it was a strange reaction to something so innocent. Any conversation, he wouldn't focus on me. Any minor criticism by anyone, would set him off. His friends said, he even got in a bar fight one time when someone made a smart joking comment about him "He could never take a joke" they said.

[johnsonfamily]

Nope it starts when your dating and you excuse it, it escalates after the wedding.

[teresakindred]

That's exactly what he did to me. Flipped after the first night on the honeymoon.

[susanfisher]

IMMEDIATELY...!!! I was 17, had no idea. He was 27. I didn't know ppl like him existed. My mother signed permission for me to marry, and took my house key the day I married and told me I couldn't come back home. He moved me 10hrs from my family and friends. I had no money, no friends or family and no where to go. At 63, I need to write a booklet for these underage girls that fall for the lies and love bombing. He said we would move to Colorado and build a house in the mountains. I would up living in a small trailer house in a trailer park, no money, nothing. He had no car, but I had a dodge challenger from my 16th bday. He sold it after we married, and of course, pregnant immediately, so I was entrapped. And I had no way out, and was too busy to understand narcs, plus had no knowledge of narcs. He did not deserve me. I was nothing more than a facafe of him to appear "normal". And i could NOT get out. There was no one to help me out. It's sickening gow demonic they are and that they think it's okay to treat anyone the way they do. 😢