The Three Principles of Positive Parenting

In this video, we’re going to explore the three principles of positive parenting and how they could help you to raise happy, independent, and confident children.

Positive parenting is founded on three principles.

If followed, these principles should help you to raise a child who can think for themselves and regulate their own behavior.

You should experience a happier, more harmonious, family life.

Let’s have a closer look at the three principles of positive parenting.

#1 A Child’s Primary Goal is To Feel Significant and To Feel As If They Belong

A child will crave significance and belonging.

This means feeling connected emotionally to the people in his family and to feel he has a special place in the family.

A child’s sense of belonging can shift when big changes happen, such as the divorcing of parents or a new sibling being born.

If you understand where the behavior is coming from, and why it is happening, you will be able to guide your child through them and address them effectively.

Your child especially needs to feel and know that he can offer a meaningful contribution, and make a difference in his family.

This allows your child to have power and the free will to exert it how he wishes.

#2 Behavior Is Goal-Orientated

Your child acting naughtily, or making a bad choice, is for a reason.

They might not be able to tell you what this reason is, but it is a symptom of an issue and not the actual problem.

Once parents accept that misbehavior is caused by a root issue, they can then address this cause in a way that shows results.

Simply correcting bad behavior is placing a band aid on a much bigger wound, whereas addressing the root cause of the behavior helps it heal.

#3 A Misbehaving Child Is Discouraged, Not Bad

A misbehaving child is not a bad child, an uncontrollable child, or a defiant child, they are a discouraged child.

This discouragement might stem from not feeling significant or feeling as if they don’t belong, and the bad behavior is their way of telling you this.

Do not view misbehavior as an act of defiance, but rather as a cry for help.

Instead of getting upset, try and understand what might be happening and see if there are emotional needs that aren’t being met.

You will notice a huge improvement in behavior if you start viewing misbehaving as a sign of something being wrong, rather than as a shortcoming in your child.

What do you think about these three principles?

Do you practice them?

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