11 Things I Didn't Expect When I Became a Mom // The Reality of Motherhood

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11 things I didn’t expect when I became a mom
Becoming a mom is one of the hardest things I have ever done. There are days when I love being a mom and there are days when I don’t enjoy being a mom. it has come with so many ups and downs and surprises. These are some of the things that I was very surprised by in my journey into motherhood.
No one becomes a mom overnight. Well technically you do they send you home with a small potato that you have to keep alive and the first time you do it you have no idea what you’re doing. Becoming a mom has been a journey for me and I know it is for every other mother, the journey is beautiful, but it is also so incredibly difficult. And I just want to say that it’s okay that it’s hard. Admitting that being a mom is does not make you a bad person. It makes you strong. It shows that you can be honest about your experience and being honest about motherhood you can make other moms feel less alone when it is difficult for them too.
The Pacific Northwest Vlog is a documentation of my life living on the Olympic Peninsula. My goal is not to encourage you to move to the Olympic Peninsula, but more to encourage you to enjoy your life today, as it is, in this moment. And find ways in each day to slow down and love this experience of life, because it's the only one you've got. If you slow down and find that you're not happy where you are, I hope you have the courage to change that and build a life that you love and that makes you feel joy for being alive.

Thank you to every single one of you. You all mean more to me than I could ever describe.

Sending you all the love in the world,

Alexi

Land Acknowledgement: I acknowledge that I occupy the lands of the chalá·at (Hoh), kʷoʔlí·yot’ (Quileute), qʷidiččaʔa·tx̌ (Makah), nəxʷsƛ̕áy̕əm̕ (Klallam), & t͡ʃə́mqəm (Chimacum) peoples.
I express my deepest respect and gratitude for our indigenous neighbors and leaders for their enduring care and protection of our shared lands and waterways.

[lukefromtexas]

My daughter is 16 months old and we struggled with her sleep for a while too. At 8 months we started co sleeping with her in our king size bed, it was the best decision. She sleeps in the middle and we each have our own blanket.

It’s wonderful because she’s usually so happy and laughs with us and suddenly she is asleep. She sleeps all night and wakes up usually happy and smiley.

[erirosesan]

Welcome back! Thank you for being so open and honest in all of your content. I have always loved your channel and following your journey has taught me so much. I'd love to have kids someday, and I've never seen content like this. Coming from a big family, a lot of my cousins and friends had kids super young, but they never really talked about the challenges that come along with parenthood. I think if I were to meet the right person, I'd be better prepared well informed. Of course, you can't prepare for a lot of it and that will just come with experience. I think I'd also be at peace with not having kids if it weren't to work out for me. So glad to see you back! 🌲❤

[jesspell]

I admire and appreciate your honesty and authenticity so much. Always look forward to your videos. Happy to see you on here active again.

[BetweenHereAndThereWithDALiLA]

Hearing you sharing your motherhood experiences is like you are reading out laud my experiences of motherhood. I think your message and all the different motherhood experiences writing in the comments is very important for not only information, but also feminine support and empowering ourselves into this journey of Motherhood and life.

[nickscolorfly]

I love this new chapter of the videos ❤❤❤❤

[jasminflowerrss]

I'm also a first time mom with a 9 month old 😄 One thing I wish I had done before having my baby is read Happiest Baby on the Block, I read it when she was a few weeks old and not sleeping well, and it was life changing, so any potential soon to be moms or moms with newborns, it's a must read!

[ChristinaVVM]

I applaud you for sharing the negatives. Every single one of us has gone days and days without a shower because we are terrified the second we get in the shower SIDS will sneak in and snatch the baby but no one talks about it so we all stand there smelling like a swamp thinking there is something with us because we are the only ones doing this. Oh and I believe there is a special ring of hell, towards the top not like down with the murderers, for lactation consultants. The two I spoke with who “tried” to help me both said “have her latch whenever she cries and eventually your body will make enough”. So, basically, starve her until my body figures it out. I was standing in a handicapped stall in the bathroom trying to get her to latch while she was screaming and pushing me away because she was hungry and I didn’t have enough milk for her. After that I went home and made her a bottle.

You are doing great! She’s obviously happy, you’re obviously happy as well and that’s what matters ❤️

Oh! Best piece of advice is to remember to schedule Mommy Alone Time as she gets older. You don’t have to leave or go anywhere, your husband doesn’t have to take her out of the house. Just have a few consecutive hours where you are not the dominant parent. My girls are 15 and 11 now and I think the number one thing that got me through was that. They will still walk past him to ask me if they can go to the park or where something is and now I occasionally I just say “You have two parents” especially if I was reading or something to recharge.

[Carlysx]

thanks for sharing the negatives! great to hear. no one talks abput it!.

[emilyjean]

Love the mummy jake mug, I love long beach!

[tina.]

Do you in USA have like a nurse coming to your home first month after giving birth to give you advice/help about baby/breastfeeding? I live in Europe and we do have. Did your mother help you after giving birth?