I was LIED to about therapy 😂

[FootlessJo]

(For the record this is 100% a joke - I’m incredibly grateful for the access I’ve had to therapy and how it has helped me heal and process emotions and learn how to be safe with myself while doing that! I’m still annoyed I have to feel things though 😆)

[a.wilcox]

I am a retired therapist. I am smiling. You expressed this so well. You are a brave young woman. Blessings to you.

[MyRonbow]

This is correct ! Use emotions sparingly, myself I’ve learned this 30 years ago and changes you for the good.
I am supper happy person now and rte word and it’s wrongs do not bother me

[eddavanleemputten]

True. It’s all about feelings… and learning how to deal with them. Learning how to recognise the’, to identify why they surface, how to ride the wave of the negative ones, how to place them in perspective, how to avoid/manage situations that trigger them, how to seek situations that trigger good feelings to offset the bad ones, etc. It’s not how to push them down. It’s not about numbing yourself.

Still sucks in a major way when those negative feelings are too big and manifold. At that point, you just want them to go away. One step further and you don’t even have the energy to deal.

[kerryjlynch]

Jo - I've had two kinds of therapists. One was all about feelings. I admit I grew in that process, & would never call it "bad, " other than the cost ($$$). The second gave me specific ideas about new behaviors to try, as well as specific feedback. The second coached me to change my whole life for the better.

[Amanda_Butterfly]

100% get this!!! Remember when I started mindfulness based CBT for pain management and being horrified at the body scan and being "curious" about the pain when I just wanted it gone!! I stuck with it though and I'm now a mindfulness practitioner!!!

[annecastanne]

I absolutely get you. I told my therapist I feel too much. She said “people in my profession get worried when someone isn’t feeling things. That is when stuff gets dangerous.” And at first I was pissed, bc I wanted her to help me numb. It’s so hard to feel and practice and work. It’s obviously worth it and all… but it’s just so hard.

[susanhill]

Woo Hoo... Feel your Feelings!... Gotta love Feelings... I'm an Empath so I feel everyone's feelings... 😆 🤣

[aaronf]

I like the way you say it’s a scam. Like it’s not a total scam but still feel a little scammed from it all.

[BanFamilyVlogging]

I started therapy because I wanted to feel better, but I had to figure out over the course of several false starts with different therapists that what I really need is empathy & validation; because I have no one in my life to give me that.

But I also learned the hard way that empathy is a skill that therapists are not required to master 💔 All they wanted to do was suggest grounding techniques & imply that I’m the reason I’m feeling sad

[QUEERVEEART]

therapy is super hard and takes a lot of work and it doesn't feel good sometimes. change is hard and progress isn't linear. but the result is feeling better overall. at least for me. i'm happier now at 31 than i ever have been as an adult. ❤️🌈✨

[lyfandeth]

The 5 year "cure" rate for pyschotherapy has been stated as roughly 30%. Which is about the same as the placebo rate.
It only works for SOME people, you may need to spend months trying to find a therapist that clicks with you. Most people never sample around that way.
But...unlike drugs, you can always switch, and not have side effects.
You're one brave strong woman, Jo.

[troymunson]

It is difficult for those that are wanting a way out of their emotional states not realizing that to go through the emotional state to get to the other side is actually the only way of correctly handling them so that they don't come back. Suppression is not a wise move. Putting the light of you awareness on the 'feeling' directly is the best way through. And doing it without resistance and judgement.

[Mattnoble]

Not wanting to feel things made me an addict and an alcoholic, then when I got clean and sober I realized they just took me further into emotions…we live in a very volatile world so I just try to get up everyday

[xaesalyszimpkee]

It is a lot like debugging code. You are aware that something isn't quite right so when you look back and you find the problem and you address it a million other things pop up. And it can be overwhelming and feel like a never-ending battle, but it is fixable, it is workable. Don't lose hope.

[Snowspring]

Ik this is a joke, but honestly, speaks to how both the therapist and you/the client need to put in the work! It took me a while with my therapist to really FEEL my emotions since they were a lot that I pushed down over the years. To anyone reading this, it takes time, healing/growth, and give yourself patience.❤

[jillcooper]

Oh sweet dear.... Hi.... I'm a trauma survivor... I have CPTSD.... If you want to stop feeling the bad things.... You have to over feel the bad things. Then you get better and eventually start feeling more and more of the good things.

[sierrab]

That’s your self sabotaging nature wanting what’s worst for you, numbness. Keep feeling, you’re doing great 💛

[DerpyGEM]

Same! Now I just feel my feeling and know it

[inadayzze]

omg now i need to reconstruct all of my expectations of therapy 😅