How To Tell Your Child You're Getting Remarried

If you're thinking about remarrying, you might also be thinking about how to tell your children about it. Many people find this as an anxiety-triggering circumstance, but it is easier than most people think! It just takes the right time, the right conversation, and the right situation. Stay tuned for tips I've gathered from the many blended families I've encountered through the years!

00:16 Consider your child
00:49 Don't assume a particular reaction
01:35 Keep it positive
02:35 Have the conversation as a family
03:11 Consider but be careful with humor
03:54 What is your job as a parent?
04:54 Ask them this question but be cautious about it

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Dr. Paul Jenkins

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[nkne.]

There is certainly a right way to go about it. My ex got remarried 2 years ago, but didn't think it necessary to tell our 9 year old. She just found out and is so confused.

[fightrrrrr]

How do you open the conversation? Like right from the start…..

[DifferentKindofGlam]

oh my god i am so scared how my son (technically my step son but he's mine) is going to react to my partner asking him how he feels about us getting married soon. My son's biological mother committed suicide last year but I was already raising my son way before it happened. I've been with my partner for nearly 3 years and have been in my son's life for nearly 3 years as well. My boy and I get along wonderfully and he shares more things with me than with his dad. So i dont know how this is going to go.... I don't think it will be okay because last time his mom went into the mental hospital, he screamed at my partner, "This happened because you dont want to be married anymore!" I'm very afraid that he will get angry and hate me. He's 8.

[marciamoore]

Hi,
I just wanted you to know that I love your videos!! You make it serious, humorous and informative!!! Keep up the good work😁

[mollywiesner]

My mom just legit surprised me this morning when I woke up. I woke up, was still in bed half asleep, she came into my room, and showed me her hand. We haven’t talked about it as a family yet and we haven’t had a conversation about it other than me asking my mom if they’re having a wedding to which she gave the ambiguous response of “I don’t know”.So yeah. I’m pretty pissed at her at the moment.

[audfosutv]

Thank you, 🙏 this gave me much to think about.

[wmomma]

My exhusband surprised my two early teens and told them they were moving in with his new girlfriend and her two 4 year old daughters 4 days before he was moving out of our home. They had never met her. He surprise introduced her to them and told them 10 minutes later they were moving in with her in 30 days. Let's say it didn't go well. We have shared custody where we do one week at mom's and one week at Dad's. He did this 4 days before we were about to start the joint time sharing plan. Then, 3 months later, they told the kids in a Monday that they were getting married on Thursday night.

[BunnyTwinkles]

My 9 yr old step daughters reply when we told her we were getting engaged was...Oh Happy Divorce Day!
I just walked away and winced inside, had to take a breather.

[itsHeatherKay]

You can do like my parent and elope with someone we never met, call to tell us while on your honeymoon! ☹️

[georgianak]

Dr Paul, I have been enjoying all your videos, thank you for the help and advice you have given us . I was wondering if you could do a video on how to handle a move with a child into your new spouse's home. I am trying to make the move for my son more comfortable as my new husband lives in USA and I live in Canada. We have been in a relationship for 4 years and have visited USA a lot, but still the move can be very difficult if I don't handle things the right way. My son can be difficult, he is not exactly thrilled about the move, he has been an only child for 13 years and he will be getting 4 other new siblings. I know if I handle things the right way, the move can be a good one. Please help with an informational video, thank you so much !!!!

[awkwardlyaware]

I have a I have decided to stay single to finish raising my daughters. Their dad died three years ago and I catch my self saying things like "If your dad was here you wouldn't be doing ___." Then other times I say things like " Your dad would be so proud of you for doing ____." I am constantly trying to grow as a parent and the other day a light bulb went off that maybe this is not good for my kids.... So should I leave this kind of talk out of my vocabulary completely?

[itsssymphony]

thank you even tho my parents is not in the stage of getting remarried but they are divorced and my dad is dating someone... is it wrong for me to like her because idk her and i sorta pick out how fake i THINK she is? also am i overreacting because i think she acts fake?