What People DON'T KNOW about Bullying | Jordan Peterson

What People Don't KNOW about Bullying by Jordan Peterson #shorts #jordanpeterson #wisdom

[nooneanon]

To quote my sage mother, "Don't give meaning to their words. Reaction is what they want, so don't give them that. Unless their violent, then punch them in the throat!" Love you mom.

[gregslone]

Bullies look for people they think won't fight back.

[Sidera]

I got targeted because I *didn't* respond. I am autistic so I sometimes did not know I was being bullied or insulted and so had a completely inappropriate response (like being friendly in return) or a non-response. This actually caused further escalation of it to a point where I would finally notice. Sometimes I think a non-response is not a good response either.

[alephpolveroso]

that's completely right. I was bullied all my childhood, I mean, beaten and stuff. I've always been a sensitive guy, I overreacted and those assholes liked that a lot. On the other hand, you can't fully control your reactions, your emotions, especially if you are a little kid.
I've never hurt anyone my entire life, but God knows how much I cried...

[platyadmirer]

I knew some adult bullies. Started training them. Made them feel uncomfortable when they were doing unwanted behavior (psychological tricks such as pausing a long time before answering questions, redirecting questions back to them with the questions they asked, not engaging with them unless if they specifically asked a question, ) and then gave them praise and enthusiasm when they were being decent human beings. Was quite surprised to see how well it works!

[zontzooit]

Yeah I seen this in middle school. The kids who always overreact or show signs of caring too much always get targeted the most

[Jamoni]

Another thing to consider is that bullies will usually stop their bullying if a member of the in-group, especially a female member, tells them to stop. The kids who get really messed with are the ones no one cares enough to stand up for.

[falmer]

When I was a kid I was the target of a bully for like a day. I overeacted to everything, but i reacted with physical violence to everything also. So it didn't last very long

[timmchone]

Teach your kids to know when to defend themselves. I punched a kid that was bullying me in grade school. Never happened again.

[_gold_eye_]

From experience bullies want to entertain themselves with your suffering if you respond to anything that could make you suffer they’ll enforce it upon you

[zzanatos]

I had a bully in high school. One day he showed up at my house with three of his friends and challenged me to come outside so they could beat me up. My dad walked outside and said, "My son is going to come out here and fight you. As long as your three friends stay out of it, I won't do anything but stand here and watch." Then I came outside and beat the holy Hell out of that kid in front of his buddies. The next day in school the bully tried to come up to me and talk smack, but I just laughed in his face (which was covered in cuts and bruises).

[OnixMint]

No they just look for vulnerable people who can’t defend themselves. My way of “overreacting” was to immediately start throwing punches as hard as I could: no one bullied me for the rest of my high school years

[cmwHisArtist]

Parents have to be careful about naming kids something easily rhymed with annoying words.

[ajreukgjdi]

I straight ignored everyone who ever tried to bully me... for 8 years. It never stopped. It never even lightened until I left high school.

[necrosteel]

This is why you must guard caring people.
An untouched and thus unprotected good person is a target of malice.

[trevorthompson]

Very true. I was pretty brutally bullied all throughout school, and looking back on it later on (and even to some extent while it was happening) it was obvious to me that I was targeted because I tried so hard to defend myself and counterattack. They enjoyed how I responded, it was a terribly fun game to them. I was a quiet and kinda isolated kid which made me a target, but to make things worse my thinking tends to be deep but slow, meaning wisdom and wit in the midst of conversation was nearly impossible when my emotions were flared up by insults.

[peacewithinforever]

Sometimes even if you ignore bullies or don't respond to the bait they will still keep teasing you and try to physically hurt you too. Not all principles a d teachers will defend students. Not all parents care enough to go to the school for help or get law enforcement involved or to change their child's school.

[Shirley_Serious]

I was bullied by a girl for a long time. I gave no reaction whatsoever, even to the physical stuff, and it just kept getting worse. It only ended when I snapped and yelled at her to stfu loud enough to where the whole classroom went silent. I was a quiet and nice guy, so not many expected it out of me. I was taught to not yell or hit women by my dad, and not to be a snitch by my brothers, so I just didn't know what to do and my anger eventually boiled over. Some people just like to take advantage of people who they think wont fight back.

[flavrt]

The concept that victims of violence have some personal control of their attackers is dangerously wrong. School students in particular have no agency to create distance from their bullies.

[warui]

i experienced the opposite in school, i showed no emotion and was used as a punching bag for years. the other child would cry when the yard teacher broke it up, somehow i was always in detention.