Words That Win: How To Instantly Influence Anyone (use ethically)

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Today you’ll learn the art of persuasion. Specifically, 7 powerful principles that influence everyone’s decision making. Including your own.

You’ll learn ethical ways you can apply these principles, AND just by being aware of them, you’ll now notice when someone uses them on you.

I want to credit Robert Cialdini’s book Influence for first teaching me these. If you find today’s video interesting, you’ll definitely enjoy his book.

⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰

0:00 - Intro
0:16 - #1: Social proof
2:38 - #2: Scarcity
4:41 - #3: Consistency
6:27 - #4: Reciprocity
8:11 - #5: Authority
9:53 - #6: Liking
10:15 - #7: Risk Mitigation
10:59 - Only persuade for genuine good.

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[brosefmalkovitch]

That #1 tip about getting hired at large firms is 100% true. If you are being considered or interviewing with any major firm, mentioning that you are being considered for one of their competitors will immediately raise your hiring priority.

[Epilion]

I'm autistic and I need to thank creators of this channel, because I learned SO MUCH from these videos. In school I had really hard time with getting along with others. After putting some of these lessons in practice now I can make positive impressions on people I work and study with and I'm considered "funny one" by my friends girlfriends.

[bluehaunter]

I absolutely love how you disclose all your persuasion tactics at the end of the video

[Arakko-ih]

What are the behaviors of a confident person?

Don’t say ‘I think’ or ‘I’m not sure’.

Speak slowly and clearly.

Allow silences.

Don’t hide your hands by stuffing them in your pockets or folding your arms. Use them.

Build your assertiveness with “I” statements.

Instead of asking yourself, “What’s the worst that can happen?” try asking, “What’s the best that can happen?”

Combat fright by visualizing success.

Pause more during conversations.

People tend to view speakers with lower speaking voices as having more authority and confidence.

Best of Luck!

[KatieDiLoreto]

As someone who has PTSD who struggles socially, I love this channel ❤. It helps me practice with more confidence.

[Arakko-ih]

How do you persuade people?
Few psychological tricks to use:

Food: Eating together can do magic. When someone is involved in eating, tell subtly what you want. If a closed one is angry, take them on dinner or lunch or bring some food.

Tell what they want to listen, not what you want to speak: If you can understand the need of the person you can play around. A guy with whom we wanted to make a partnership deal wanted to get his wikipedia page restored from us.

Be genuine: whatever you speak be genuine. It should not be concern for him or her. Or else it leaves a very bad impression.

Patience: Know about when to speak and what to speak. Timing matters a lot. When someone is happy it's easier to persuade. When someone is anxious and busy with some work, it's not. So wait. Patience is a virtue

[LordNifty]

6:49 - This was the exact reciprocity example I was thinking of, and I doubt I'm the only one.

[iszack]

The Psycholohy of persuasion is a really great book i read it recently, though it is a bit dated and I like how this video has taken ideas from it and updated it to become more modenr

[melvindangin]

I like how you guys used your charisma university ad as a case study. Genius.

[JSFGuy]

Haven't Seen this in a while. All these examples given, I filter right through all of these types scenarios and I have never fallen for groupthink or crowd persuasion.

[Deiwulf]

Knowing for a fact that many people are so easily influenced by such pointless things just makes me wanna stand alone on purpose to filter them all out.

[EEEv]

Great content, thank you for all the points! And mad respect for how you influenced us towards the end with authenticity and openness, so glad I found this channel!

[traydevon]

Social proof is one of the most annoying human characteristics. That’s why they fall for liars 90% of the time.

[sohampatel..]

This is best video I have seen recently

[Jspeaks]

This was such a great video! Much needed information and I believe it to be very true

[PiusXulu]

I couldn't jump. I watched the entire video. Beautiful work.

[NUBZRCOOL]

I like how you influenced us to use this advice ethically by saying that it will hurt your reputation and won’t work if you use it unethically. Smart move.

[MrBlackSunset]

I believe if you want to persuade anyone, you first have to persuade yourself. If you can’t persuade yourself, forget ever trying. I hate tomatoes but I learned everything about tomatoes that I think they are the healthiest thing ever. I’m not going to google any facts about it because it will bring doubt. Doubt hurts every persuasion.

[pepinillosexy]

I'll try this with my family, Im finally getting a dog

[helenalderson]

LOL. When I see scarcity, I enter all of my info and then bail. I love when they come back with discounts of one kind or another