I realized I am the laughing stock of my friend

[KimberlyLaird]

You will find real friends.God Bless, You're growing, they're not.

[carisasantiago]

I was part of a friend group similar to this; they wouldn't laugh at me or make me the punchline to their jokes, but they wouldn't include me in their conversations, make plans in front of me, and not invite me to said plans. I left that group after I told them about my cancer diagnosis/survival, they brushed it off like it was nothing, at that time I only told people I trusted, so it hurt seeing them react like that. Now, I'm part of a friend group that includes me in conversations and invite me to events.

[zoeparsons]

This happened to me in high school. I was always emotionally abused by my family members, and this made me vulnerable to others. I didn't realize my "friends" were mistreating me because, in my mind, anything was better than what I lived with. After tons of therapy, I realized my worth and dropped those friends. I also was able to set boundaries with my family. I'm now in a very happy relationship, but friends are still very hard for me. I still often become the bud of every joke in groups, so I just don't talk to people anymore. I'm trying to work on it.

[kittykittykitty]

I dont understand why people like this pretend to be your friend. I had this happen with a family member i was close with for a long time and turns out she never liked me i was like then why tf have you been agreeing to hang out for over 10 years? Why be so fake? Why not just say no?

[KarmitSage]

The fact that this happens to a LOT of people is rather concerning

[mslove]

This was a blessing in disguise… Painful however it's a blessing peace and blessings to you moving forward!

[scribble]

It's better to have one genuine friend than friends.

[skittlestu]

This has happened to me so often that it’s changed my brain chemistry immensely. I see how badly it’s affected me because almost after having a really pleasant conversation with a coworker or customer, I’m left wondering about my facial expressions and my tone and if I spoke too much or too little. It all just sums up to me hating myself even more and thinking that they probably didn’t like talking to me and thinking they’re probably talking behind my back. I just don’t bother making any friends because it’s too hard to try anymore.

[AveryEnders]

⚠️I KNOW THE REST OF THE STORY⚠️ so basically after he found this out, he slowly devised a plan to make them turn on eachother. Started making lies that somebody hadn't actually told him, and got super close to each of them through trust. He would slip a hurtful comment about somebody that somone had "told him". After gaining each of their trust and turning them against eachother, he ditched the all, and left all the freinds no longer freinds. He did this over a long period of time.

Everyone who says it's fake, your all probably right. I found the "full story" on those snapchat reddit videos, and I'm just telling it from memory so there's probably either fake details or some stuff was left out but that's the gist of it. I like to think he got that satisfied ending though.

[ItachiUchiha-ffyb]

This actually happened to me. In University, I had a small circle of friends. We used to do basically everything together, atleast I thought so. Then I found out I wasn't really apart of the friend group on my wedding day, no one showed up. I let it go as it was all during Covid time. Eventually another member of the group got married, I found out about it when someone else posted it on social media. This occured once more and I never asked anyone anything, I just stopped talking to them. And no one ever thought to check in after. It's been 3 years now and I'm not starting to make new friends.

[el_rodo]

Man got so distracted by the background video, dude likes his beef still alive, that crap was raw af

[ginnymay]

I can relate to this person. For most of my life when it comes to friend gatherings I tend to struggle on what I should do, most of the people will either not engage in conversation with me that or in other cases I don’t quite understand the social cues of others so I just talk to myself.

I am autistic, so I’m naturally clueless when it comes to social cues and social interactions. But I don’t like it when I’m talking to myself when I go on a tangent about my favourite interests!!!

I like to talk a lot so it makes it difficult as to when I should stop talking. And usually when people have lost interest in what I say they would either give subtle body language clues (that I usually don’t pick up immediately). And when I do notice that they are no longer interested in what I have to say I start talking to myself or I try to initiate conversation with someone else (which I don’t like doing) because other people are also engaged in conversation with someone else, and I don’t want to be rude!! So I will just sit there feeling sad and left out.

But I’ll just change the subject to a more positive note!! I am ALWAYS good at cooking!!! And most people love what I bring!!! I’m just so happy that I did good with baking the Christmas fruit cake today for the Christmas luncheon!!! It was today that I went to the NDIS participants and staff Christmas party!!! It was great!! But I did feel a little bit left out, thankfully I did make a new friend!!

[arjunearth]

If someone hates you for no reason, give them a reason

[animefans]

All you need is one person who gets you and you share similar interests. That's all u need

[roboproexe]

nah fr me too but got no one else so am just alone now

[aarrypotter]

I can relate. Been friends with a group of people for going on 12 years now we all met as teenagers and grew up together. I thought we were all good friends. Then i started realising that whenever i met up with them that i was the odd one out. Turs out they'd all hang out together and communicated with eachother regularly, but i was never included. It wasnt until i really began paying attention that i realised im just the "pick up/put down" friend. Id only get invited to events if there was absolutely no way of hiding it from me. Id try calling/texting but was often ignored or brushed off, but then if i saw them they would say I need to reach out more, but i was always the person to reach out, 100% of the time. Threre were 3 weddings in the group and i was verbally invited to all three, id see them further down the line and asked about the wedding and how planning was going etc, and would be given some throwaway responses, and then would see theyd later gotten married and my invite had been "lost". I invited them all to my own wedding, and only 2 of them turned up. If i was ever invited to hang out, they'd all talk about all of the things they had done together and conversations that were had as a group, and I'd never been included in any of them so i just had to sit there and listen to all of the times i hadnt been included. Worst was when they would all make plans together, and if i ever tried to include myself, the plans would suddenly change or cancel, only for me to find out they happened anyway, just without me. Im 28 and legitimately thought these people would be in my life forever, now somehow seeing them just makes me feel more lonely than anything, as its clear that whatever friendship i thought i had with these people was majorly one sided. I try to just get on with my life now, but i often wonder what happened or what i did to get treated how i did by them.

[Marypad]

People are just brutal. I'm so sorry this happened to you. People like this are so ungrateful with good friends. I wish you nothing but the best. 😊❤

[cryztal]

I had experienced this 8 times adding today aswell throughout my whole life . Today after exam i told my friends to wait for me as i submitted my answer sheet late and i went to take my bag and when i came back they just left and i had to go home alone, they had left me out several times but today was the breaking point. After that i had been acting like normal classmates to them nothing more.Just talks about our group project then left.😢😢😢😢😢😢



Edit : one of them messaged me yesterday saying sorry and that she wanted to use the restroom so she asked others to go with her and that she knew i would feel left out and has been apologizing saying that i am her true friend the truest of them all like if so why not inform me before leaving then atleast she should have send someone to tell me right. I don't know what to do can i please get some advice on what to reply should i forgive them or not ?🤔🤔

[fatoumatadanso]

This happened to me to I always put in the work and the moment I got depressed they left without even a word and we live in the same building just in different floors and I see them constantly, and some of them I don’t even get a hello. It just that painful lesson you learned and be a better person moving forward

[mr.x]

Learn to be alone. I got that feeling too when I was younger. At some point, I stopped giving a shit about others. I can be slightly nice to people I judge as reasonable but I'll never be foolish enough to be chummy with people. I'd rather be by myself. I have things I do on my own and I don't need worthless stuff like community to disturb me.

Bottom line is, live your life without basing it on the cockroaches around you. No one should be more important to you than you. You can talk to others you deem necessary but keep them at significant distance.