7 Mistakes To Avoid Starting Polyamory

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Conor and Brittany lay out the top 7 mistakes to avoid when starting your polyamorous journey. Conor and Brittany just celebrated 8 years of successful polyamory. They made all these mistakes so you don't have to!

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[trishfinley]

The self awareness part is so hard! Even after years of therapy and journaling and polyam, sometimes I still get hit with expectations I didn't even know I had. 😅It's an ongoing journey and I'm grateful y'all have been a part of it from the beginning.

[michaelafuchs]

for me (living in poly relationships since ever) the biggest point is: don't be a dick.

[dunej]

C&B, thanks a million for sharing what polyamory entails. To often the poly lifestyle is sensationalized as a “free for all” but the community of people that identify w/ CNM relationships see it more personally. I didn’t realized that until today and I thank you for correcting that myth.

[missyzalgo]

Recently learned i'm non monogamous and well trying to figure out how to "act" upon the research I did as I never did polyamory before

[Jezedh]

This video came across me. Very informative. I'm not interested in polyamory for myself, but it is something I'd like to research for authenticity of a story I'm working on. Thank you for making it.

[syd]

No one ever give tips or experiences from the secondary perspective. I feel like it’s really hard because everything is from the main couples perspective which I feel just makes you feel even more irrelevant because your the option and then you don’t even rate to have people speak about your experiences or give you tips

[Anna-ophu]

Thank you SO much for everything. My partner and I have been monogamous for 6 years and we recently opened our relationship (it was my request, and he "adjusted" to it - now he is very much on board). Your content has helped me so much throughout this journey... I do have one question though, how do you deal with your partner getting to know someone (and being very excited about it) when you don't have anyone yourself? Should you let your partner experience this? I envy that my partner has found someone and I haven't. I want him to be happy but I don't want to break in the process. Do you have any advice for me on that? Much love ❤

[PrussianBird]

I would love to read a book about polyamory from you two! I hope you're planning on writing one if you haven't already.
I'm a follower for years now and I really enjoy your content.

[tiyachristina]

Have you done a video on how to talk to a new person about you currently being in a poly/open relationship and having a committed partner?? Do you tell people when you first meet them? If you did this type a video could you link me to it. Thanks for your steady commitment to evolving communication around relationship.

[IKFKSwitch]

Self-awareness and a high emotional intelligence are essential. My wife and I both have CPTSD, have just begun our journey into this, and are in couples' therapy as well as individual. I can't imagine this as even doable were we not taking care of ourselves. (Especially since victims of traumatic childhood can have terrible radars about who is a healthy partner vs who isn't.)

[tythetruth]

My self awareness was a driving factor of why I became interested in polyamory and I’m looking at it from a standpoint of I want a big family not as I want to be with multiple people at the same time
I want a family with 2 people that’s about all I know I can handle
And from my limited knowledge of polyamory and the lifestyle itself you have to be very mature and realistic in your outlook on it just from my current knowledge
a closed triad is probably best for me because it enables me to still be able to give all I can to my partners without burning myself out but still go above and beyond for them

[fortminorproject]

I am new to being Polyamrous and was unfortunately accused of being a unicorn which hurt . Iam trying to learn ways to know what's right to do and say . Right now Iam talking to someone who is Polyamrous and has other partners Iam trying to be respectful towards her and hoping to be her partner and eventually join her polyqul .

[kstock]

Really good vid. How about a vid on where to go, how to begin entering the lifestyle?

[Kimiyainreallife]

We’d love an update on your relationship since Connor moved out.
Are you still romantically/sexually involved?
I’m curious how your relationship has evolved.

[zoebirss]

I love the vulnerability and authenticity in your presentation. You've always put yourselves forward in your content. Thanks for your example

[SimpyEmmy]

Let me tell my story
One and a half year ago i fell in love with bsf!
A few months later they got a bf
I got kinda jealous, but i supported my bsf ofc and i acted like i just like them as a friend.
Then a while ago (4 months i think) my bsf told me that they feel like they are poly, ofc i supported and their bf did too! And last month my bsf told me they have feelings for me.... I told them that i feel the same and now we are together! We're not a trouble, my gf has a bf, but I'm not together with him, only with my gf, does that make me poly too or not? I mean I'm in a poly realationship, I'm kinda new too it so yea

[LynnGirl]

I have so much love in my heart for you both ❤️ thank you for taking the time to make videos like these!

[gracias.manana]

I’m seeing someone who’s poly but the small things I ask for are not reciprocated. I know they have good intentions but I think I would have a more fulfilling friendship with them rather than relationship. I’m super bummed about it but if i already feel conflicted and discarded then I should prob end it?

[SpencerGBful]

Ive been monogamous all my life & have recently started seeing this woman who i do love & care about but shes poly, Ive been okay with it (working thru it) with a “Out of sight out of mind” mentality, and today was supposed to be our night to hangout… I said I was looking forward to it for a couple days now, said it earlier in the day & then later, So i get off work, knock on the door & her roommate doesnt open the door right away.. so She eventually does & her & her other longer term partner walks out of the room & she cleans up.. she then proceeds to walk over to me while im in another room & tells me I had walked in/knocked on the door as soon as he 💦💦 on her face…. cant tell ya how that felt. Sank my heart for real… I wanted to leave so bad but i tried to play it off.. idk what to do… any advice..?

[deemack]

I met a great guy who told me up front that he’s polyamorous and I’m not, I’ve never dated more than one person but I told him I’m okay if he continues his lifestyle but I won’t be going after another hit while dating him. Do you see any potential problems with that? I should say that I’ve never felt jealousy so I can’t say it won’t happen but it hasn’t happened