The 11 Laws of Maturity

#maturity #psychology #markmanson

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0:00 As organised as...
0:24 (1) Don't try
1:49 (2) Forget about happiness
4:19 (3) You are not special
5:18 (4) The value of suffering
6:04 (5) You are responsible for everything that happens to you
7:43 (6) You are wrong about everything
9:34 (7) Failure is the way forward
11:03 (8) Toxic vs non toxic relationships
14:27 (9) The importance of saying no
15:36 (10) When you say you're going to do something, do it
15:51 (11) And then... you die
16:44 Outro rizz

[HMSBreadnought]

You have no idea how much society needs a channel like yours. The manosphere has bred so much hatred and insecurity into young men because they listen to toxic coaches. But your channel is so welcoming and positive, and it's useful too. Thank you, know that the world thanks you for everything you do

[lllooolll]

"Enact the courage to commit, or be tormented by the possibility of everything" hit me so hard

[tommakkoo]

1. Don’t try
2. Forget about happiness
3. You are not special
4. The value of suffering
5. You are responsible for everything that happens to you
6. You are wrong about everything
7. Failure is the way forward
8. Toxic vs. nontoxic relationships
9. The importance of saying no
10. When you say you’re going to do something, do it
11. And then . . . you die

[BrianMurfitt]

Too true the more you become aware of death when you get older, the more you realise you must make the most of the time you've got. That doesn't mean trying to cram everything thing in every day. But doing the things you truly appreciate and value, which includes listening to your calm, collected delivery, but purposeful punchlines Lewis. 👏🏻🤗👍🏻

[eliza-pee]

"we have the grace to drop our arguments and accept what theyre saying. not as a defeat, but as a victory, because it's steering us closer to attaining wisdom"

[moonshoteducation]

I would add the ability to tolerate truth and the attitude of embracing silliness.

[AidanFitzgibbons]

“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” 
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

[Yourboirook]

I’ve been on a quest of obtaining maturity. It’s tough. Ive been knocked down, discouraged, abandoned and overall down in the dumps, but I know that once I achieve it things will fall in place and all will be good.

But for now I’ll support myself in my goals, being my own motivation.

[ThaddeusVilain]

I believe that an accommodater actually allows too much space for other people's *negativity* while hoping for their Positivity.... Remember, the people who you're trying to please have their own flaws they're trying to escape and a lot of people can't help but unload it onto anyone who's willing to listen. Pair one of those typical unloaders with a very empathetic accommodater and you'll find that the accommodater's load actually grows significantly - for an introvert, I can say that when all the outside noise quitens and you've had a lot of conversations with unloaders, you need something that demands your full attention to recentre yourself. Something physically and mentally invigorating is King. Thanks Lewis for this highly thought *provoking* video.

[kimsherlock]

Thankyou
I am ready to fail in my art 😊
Much better than failing to start again
I'm afraid to fail .
My fear stops my creativity from spontaneousness
I love to create.
My own judgement is hard on me

[joey]

no one likes to see a grown up child but damn that is a cool pirate outfit

[jdanielortega]

You are helping me sculpt the best version of myself Lewis, thank you very much.

[cannedpineapple]

Thank you for this bro. I'm 28 and I love that i still have my "inner child" - it keeps me happy and creative, and keeps spontaneity and joy in my life - but i do sometimes border on immaturity. I used to be in denial and say others were being "too serious" but over time I've learned to accept that i do have some immature traits. It's tought to try to grow while still maintining your inner child.

[swapnil]

5:29 purpose is like a sedative that helps us endure the pain of life. Having a purpose in life does not take away suffering it just makes it worthwhile

[NFX]

I'm turning 30 by the end of November and this really helped me to (re)evaluate myself.

[dape]

listening to mark manson's ideas in a gentleman-no-swearword styleis just the best

[Enderr_S]

I've been watching your channel now this video is from 2 months ago so I have watched the habits video and everything. I am 14 years old and started thinking I can't make progress in my classes if I can't answer the questions my teacher asks (not because I don't finish the homeworks, just because I am afraid of what I might say will be wrong) so, I started searching and found your channel quite interesting, I have a new mentality now, I just started school again and the first week passed and oh god I am scared, but now thanks to you I think I will be able to comunicate better among my classmates and teachers. Keep up the good work! (Sorry for doing this comment so long)

[Oceanwaves-dl]

I want to add though, that you don't have to completely lose your inner child.

A lot of people think that being an adult means you have to lose your curiosity about the world and abandon your happiness, when in reality it should be the most freeing time of your life to be able to do stuff which makes you happy.

Of course, you need to be responsible and it's a bit weird to be watching Peppa Pig or whatever past the age of 5, but you don't need to be completely boring, bored, and miserable. That's the completely wrong idea on what adulthood and maturity is.

Basically, learning the difference between immaturity (bad) and "having an inner child" (good) is the best thing you can do for healthy maturity.

Also, so much random stuff is called "childish" for literally no reason --- especially if it's feminine. Why is pink "for kids"? Why are butterflies and animals in general "for kids"? Why are teddies and plushies "for kids" (unless it's Valentines, Mother's or Father's day --- _then_ adults can suddenly have them too)? Why are cartoons which don't swear or have shock "humor" every 5 seconds "for kids", when they were clearly made for everyone and sometimes even have subtle adult jokes as though it's intended to have adults also watching?


I understand you need to let go of things which are _actually_ for kids (like a lot of cartoons are clearly just for teaching kids skills, counting, the alphabet, whatever), but a lot of the things we're scared of "being childish" are, again, the most random stuff with no logical basis whatsoever, oftentimes only meant to shame femininity or any desire to get away from the vulgar.

[leonfrankham]

so much insight in less than 20 minutes, this is why i love your channel

[itsbeyondme]

Thank you so much. Im right now suffering mentally