What Is Grade A Supply to a Narcissist?

There's a lot of talk amongst survivors about who and what constitutes 'Grade A Supply'. In this video, learn what narcissists really think when it comes to their targets.

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[harrycrowe]

Being discarded by a narcissist is the greatest blessing you can recieve...And the sooner the better.

[locarla]

Indeed, the next target will just receive exactly the same abuse as the previous target. What I found difficult is that you cannot save them from the narcissistic abuse as they wouldn’t listen. But, then neither did we until we experienced it.

[minago]

Lots of people think Grade A Supply is adoration. It is not. It is COMPLIANCE. What they want is absolute, perfect compliance with every single thing they do or desire no matter what. It is being the “omega dog” laying on its back and happily letting the narcissist (alpha dog) kick them in the ribs. THAT is Grade A Supply!

[ldvx]

The best supply a narc gets is one he inflicts the most abuse on.. The one he plays cat and mouse with to break her down.. Over and over again. Supply is supply but the mouse game supply is his favourite supply. He will stalk her for years and years driving her insane to break her. That's his grade a supply.

[elsie]

I agree that we shouldn't be looking at the other women thinking they are not good enough. They are as misled as us. The 3 women I've spoken to that he was playing about with were lovely women. One even checks in with me still to see how I'm holding up. We were all innocent .

[ibedifrent]

It gets tricky when you realize and understand that narcissism is on a spectrum....and I think that assuming you're grade A supply to a narcissist, is narcissistic.

[emmajones]

I dunno, I think that the 'best' supply for a narc is someone who accepts all of their shady behaviour and doesn't challenge it. The moment you challenge them then they move on to the next (secondary) supply and upgrade them.

My ex swung between me and another woman. She doesn't call him out on his behaviour and so she was 'upgraded' and I was discarded. I'm ok with this as I no longer have to tolerate his cheating, lying behaviour and she will find out for herself. She is not enough for him and will eventually be discarded, too. I pity her.

[Showdownxlm]

I left 4 days after getting devaluated the first time. I was with her almost every night, for the 3-4 months we were together. She introduced me fast to her family which was unusual for her they said. So i guess i was Grade A Supply, despite fighting back quite alot.

I really think she thought with me it will be different this time, otherwise i cant understand how i got away fighting bacl so much.

Still might be that she cheated on me i cant 100% tell, but didnt recognize any signs.

The devaluate phase was a real surprise and hit me a few days. She immediately was alot on her phone, and i felt she is onto something. I luckily found out fast what was going on that she is a Narc and left. I intentionally tried to hit hard to selfprotect.

No clue if it stings to her. Its only 2 days and i told her i that i know she is a narc and i can read her like a book.

It sounds great, i got 3-4 month of a great time with a girl and only had to suffer 7 days. But iam an empath, it still hurts. But it could have gone way worse. And the experience will be invalueable.

[ainahaga]

My narsisist looked soooo good beeing with me, I discarded him and he started getting angry and looked older😳😳 it scared me this relationship! Scared me like crazy, I tried several times to get away from him, and when I discarded him he started love bombing me again. This relationship was insane! Im trying to keep away from this man. I have things home at his place but he is soon going to another country so I will NOT see him. I hope I will not hear from him again. He shapeshifts its demonic………..

[janicemurphy]

EXCELLENT INFORMATION KIM, THANK YOU SO VERY VERY

[elsie]

I thought I was grade A. But he had this ex he couldn't get over. So was I grade a?. I was paying for him and spent so much time with him. He had split from this ex 3 years before but he couldn't get through a week without mentioning her. But they'd text and I caught him telling her he was crying over their memories. Inwas devastated as I was doing everything. He was with her 10 years and I think that's because she didn't put him on the mortgage so he didn't have to worry about his terrible credit score. They also worked away alot so wasn't home all the time together. They had plenty of space. I think that's why they lasted so long. But he regretted loosing her. He cheated etc. Couldn't stop messaging women. But now he's stuck in this grief. He wants to keep that door open to her always. He feels responsible for her still and feels guilty for what he did. They are both emotionally stuck. So I think she will always be the one that got away. I made it 18 months as his friend and 9 as his girlfriend. We got nowhere! I didn't get anywhere near the treatment she got. Never got me flowers or a birthday card. Wouldn't put me on Facebook like she was. I was literally being used I guess.

[MagdaleneDivine]

I don't see how my ex is incredulous that I was able to get over him.
Like he wasn't that great. He wasn't funny or talented or interesting or anything that couldn't be worked through and moved past.

[msprettykawaii]

To my Ex Narc's new girl, dont ever think youre far superior for making him commit, trust me hes love bombing you. Sooner or later you will figure it out

[sandylu]

Remember thinking "Weird" when he said "You look good on the back of my bike " He drove 120mph. Thought he was God.
I ditched him New Years day and felt jubilant

[theartzscientist]

You are wrong in the area that one supply isn’t better then another. I consider myself a woman of integrity. The new supply isn’t.

[noraniabacarat]

wanna ask what will i do to my ex boyfriend that i just discard 1 month ago and he threat that he said if i can have a new boyfriend he will kill, he said dont care if he will be on jail..
i am so scared..

[aliceroberts]

Why have I been married to the same narcissist for 35 years he never cheated on me ! Not all narcissistic personality disorder people cheat.