We Need to Stop Shaming Our Fellow Men - Stop Calling Them 'Simps' and 'Incels'

Ralph delves into the societal perceptions of men, especially focusing on the divorced and single segments. He discusses the plight of men facing societal exclusion and sheds light on the negative connotations associated with terms like "simp" and "incel." Ralph emphasizes the importance of fostering a supportive community where men can share their experiences and grow without judgment or shame. His dialogue centers around the need for empathy and understanding in navigating the complexities of modern masculinity.

Key Takeaways:

Men today often face societal ostracization and need supportive communities to express their challenges and strengths.
Negative labels such as "simp" and "incel" can impede constructive conversations around men's mental and emotional health.
Ralph advocates for empathy and support for men, arguing that everyone is on their unique timeline in life.
The "Help For Men" community strives to unite men from various backgrounds to share insights, support each other, and grow together.
Addressing issues like limited relationship experience or lack of social skills with empathy can help men progress positively.

Notable Quotes:

"We dudes stick together and we help each other out."
"There's a lot of shaming in the world of men, sexuality, relationships, lack thereof."
"We all make mistakes. We live and learn."
"Society loves to pick on the old incel."
"We can do better. So what do you say?"

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[BloodyHeck]

I’d like to add using the word nice, as in nice guy syndrome, to the list. We should all strive to be nice. I know many will argue there’s a difference between nice and kind, but I think you know what I mean.
The other is shaming men for “unmasculine” interests or hobbies. Going back to school it would be the idea of jocks picking on or bullying geeks. I never had an interest in sports or other stereotypical manly things. While most guys grew out of picking on guys with geeky interests, it seems society still feels it’s ok to ridicule guys who aren’t stereotypically masculine. Look at how many jokes are made about nerds on a show like Big Bang Theory. If comparable jokes were made about other groups, people would be outraged. But those of us who enjoy video games, D&D, sci-fi, model trains, etc. are fair game to be made fun of.
I know a lot of guys who ride motorcycles and while the ones I’m friends with don’t care that I don’t ride one (or at least they don’t mention it) a lot of people see not riding a motorcycle but instead enjoying cycling as a sign that you’re not as masculine as you should be.

[jaklumen]

There's not enough PRAISE. That's truly my experience, Ralph. I agree that put downs, shaming, negative reinforcement-- isn't working. Let's put positive reinforcement in, so there isn't a void. I say that as something I need to work on, ESPECIALLY with my autistic son. When I praise him, pat him on the back, it's day and night compared to when I shame him.

[DrSergeantNash]

Does this include those men whose behavior endangers the other men around them? Do we coddle those guys? You can’t always discuss the simping out of them (ie. Destiny or other leftists)