Extroverted iNtuition 'Why Can't I Just Be Happy?!'

Why does reality never live up to the hype? The Seeker - Extroverted iNtuition is a function that falls into a flow state when thinking about novelty. New things, new places, new possibilities, the bigger and the more far reaching the better. The present, what is right in front of you, is never near as exciting as it could have been in your mind. So why can extroverted iNtuitives never enjoy the present? What can you do to enjoy life more and get more fun out of life? How can you keep your mind from ruining whatever it is that is happening right now? Is it possible to stop overthinking and to start turning your mind off? Can you rewire your mind to become more like an extroverted sensing type, someone who can be more present, hedonistic, and pleasure-loving? Or should you start accepting your own nature as an explorer and find a greater love for travel, novelty, change, and the impossible?

[minicc]

“If you dont act on the ideas or possibilities you see you will become increasingly resentful of the things you do have” that is exactly what is going on with me right now ive been resentful for awhile but now even worst im becoming apathetic and numb luckily tho i leave my terrible job in two days so im free to explore other possibilities which just the thought of leaving helped my mental state but still i feel like ive repressed so much of myself for the sake of doing things right

[ronaldthump]

I am an INTP who lives with an ENTP housemate and after all of our conceptual debates to hunt down the most precise logic, this is the one topic of debate (Ne) that we both wholeheartedly agree on. We basically sabotage the idea once we see the finish line to recreate a more stimulating idea. I think once we truly believe we have the system generally figured, our energy drops and looks elsewhere. I think being consciously present (mindfulness) is difficult for Ti and Ne but is also the key to sticking to a hobby or routine and not just the idea we grab onto. Apologies for the ramble, but we got there...

[qianyizhao]

Thank you. Bro. I am an entp and my ne is very strong. This video helps me a lot. Because the whole Society just told me that you should do the right thing, you should enjoy the moment. So I blame myself for getting too excited about thinking the possibility in the future and force myself to do the right thing, to enjoy the moment, to obey the rules, which has caused a deep frustration inside me.

[ifonlyunu]

Ne users need to stay grounded in reality. Try meditating and being grateful. You never receive more until you are thankful for what you have. Thank you Erik for this video, it really sums up our experience. We have to organize ourselves and our ideas in a way that others will understand and, in turn, support our vision.

[ernestgordon]

Ok now this was completely life changing and eye opening! In the past few years I dealt with mild depressive episodes because of all the negative feedback I received from family members, co-workers and friends; claiming that I had a tendency of not appreciating or completing anything(Misnomer; I;ve actually accomplished a lot in my life). Anyhow out of overcompensation, I became super obsessive about keeping a routine, hasty about about trying new things, and impatient about being a measurable success. However, this all change when during the quarantine, which gave me time to reflect on many things.

[AutoAlchemy]

Great insight. :) I also love the format and presentation for this one, Erik.

[angelicatrino]

This will explain why I love pop music. Its the novelty of idea. 🤔. My age group get stuck with the music in our 20s and 30s but I get to appreciate new artists and music. New books with novel ideas is a source of excitement too.

[heritage.home.crochet]

It's like anything, like a muscle you have to exercise clearing your mind. I'm an ENFP and I enjoy most every experience in my life. I know what things bring me joy, and know how to show up in the moment, stop my waterfall thoughts, and just be there, taking it all in. That's when it's helpful to just let your senses take over, what am I smelling, maybe a thought or two to figure out what it reminds me of...how does this temperature affect my body, what about the colors or the feeling I'm having...what color would I associate with this experience. It's just practice...eventually it becomes automatic. I do it all the time, it makes me more aware of my likes and dislikes as well as give me great information to process later...in the shower or on the commute to or from work. You can train yourself to process things when you want to, you don't have to have rude thoughts that interfere with your experiences lol. Just be hyper aware of your senses, and your thoughts will be distracted enough. Just don't forget to process it later... don't be a shell person who doesn't use the information. Think critically about what it means for you. Life will be way more enjoyable, and you will be in control of your mind and body, instead of the reverse.

[OoSingeroO]

You're such a nice person man. Learned so much from you. Thank you for your material and <our energy. With this video and many others you've relaxed my mind immensely. You break my chains of neurotic self-discipline in a healthy way. Would be open for a coaching from you. Wish you a great day.

[bellavita]

Very helpful, thanks Eric! And I like how you made this video as well!

[BrentonFreeman]

Thank you for this video, Erik! I feel like you were speaking directly to me. This really helped me sort out some of my thoughts. I love all of your videos. Keep doing what you’re doing, because you’re really helping a lot of people figure themselves out. Thanks again!

[chopinDC]

Wow this explains my life problems. One of the main ones is sheer boredom. I hate having to know where I'll be five years from now.

[annemariepappe]

As an INFP I kind of relate, but I think Ne is experienced a little differently when it is your auxiliary function. (Just an idea, tell me what you think!) As for me personally, I feel like there is almost an internal battle going on between my Ne and (I guess) Si or maybe Fi. I generally like to explore new things and feel threatened by the idea of stagnation (=doing the same thing day in day out without the prospect of change). I want to keep my options open and be free to develop in every direction. But on the other hand I'm often afraid of change, because throwing myself in a new situation can be overwhelming and exhausting, so another part of me strongly resists it. (I'm very lazy..) When I find something that I like eating, for example, I tend to eat the same thing day in and day out, because looking up new recipes is too energy consuming. Or when I work somewhere it's usually hard for me to quit and try something new, even if I'm not happy at my current job, because I'm scared I might not be competent enough for another job. So I need to be pushed a lot to try new things, but when I finally do it I really like it. I think my Ne is like a muscle that needs to be exercised, and I know that it feels good exercising it, but I still don't like exercise, haha.

[Petig]

What I am wondering about is... well, sometimes change is inevitable and you have to leave a situation/job/person in order to grow and be happy again. Being an extroverted intuitive, how can I know if I am actually in a situation which really does not make me happy or if I am simply stuck in the

[cedricburkhart]

I am a bit of a traditionalist. Despite being an extraverted intuition dominant.🤔

[IndigoBellyDance]

So true as to the ‘why can’t I just be happy’ always searching why can I not be happy with me. Literally this is a goal of mine.
I had to work for years on being happy in the moment:) fortunately this has come:)

[lenaf]

Thank you, this really resonates with me.

[Petig]

Wow... that resonates a hell of a lot with me...

[somewhatmesmerized]

Just, wow. So insightful and so, so needed. Thank you.

[MikeShawTV]

So true! One weird way this shows up in my life is always getting a new phone. Usually the latest greatest, but this time I'm switching from T-Mobile to Google Fi and from a Note 10 to a Pixel 3a XL. That's crazy you say! Yes. Yes it is. It's a (usually) expensive pursuit of a better camera and phone experience, but fun! As far as the downgrade this time, I like the novelty... for now :-)