Is Marriage REALLY Patriarchal? I Did Some Digging...And The Feminist Story Doesn't Add Up.

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TIME STAMPS:
0:00 Intro
1:34 What Does Patriarchal Mean?
3:35 Transformationism
4:54 Viewing History Through A Modern Lens
5:47 Legislation vs. Law
6:34 The History Of Marriage
12:55 Was Marriage About Love?
16:51 Coverture
20:47 How Did Men And Women Benefit From Marriage?
23:30 Conclusion

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[ibabylei]

My one nitpick, out of many is her bringing up Henry VIII & Anne Boleyn’s marriage. Yes, Henry was obsessed with Anne, but he was also married (for nearly 20yrs) to Catherine of Aragon—which was a political marriage (if anything else) first. Also, she left out that Henry broke from Rome & the Catholic Church to marry Anne, in the end, to just kill her when she couldn’t provide a son. If that’s Abby’s basis of a good marriage, then, that tells me a lot.

[unapologetic]

Just do what makes you happy, marriage is not for everyone.

[julieclancy]

Let’s be honest, homegirl Abbigail going out of her way to cherry pick some research to support her claims isn’t “digging”. Lol. Peer reviewed scholarly sources have left the chat. Feminists aren’t even trying to abolish marriage, we just acknowledge that it is historically patriarchal because it was oppressive to women. I also think it’s strange that she chose to bring up that children from separated parents do worse, because this is a separate issue. That’s when marriage fails, or the father leaves, but we never hear about the men who don’t stay. 🙄

[ludovico]

Sorry Abby, I try to be nice on your channel in spite of our differences, but you got it wrong on many levels here. I'm a medievalist and while I'm not specialised in the history of marriage, I know a thing or two about it. While I think it's a gross generalisation to say that it's a patriarchal institution, it has been for many different cultures in various times in history. The simplest and honest answer to the question "Is marriage patriarchal?" would be: "It's complicated." While loving marriages exist in all time, the idea of marriage of love being the norm is a relatively novel idea in the west. In the middle ages, the two most famous couples of literature are adulterous ones and many defended the idea that true love could only exist between lovers, not husband and wife. And there are many other examples I could list where love came only after the marriage. Whether you agree with this vision of marriage or not is beside the point: it existed and still does in some cultures. Nowadays, and again I'm talking of the West, the norm is to marry who you love. I'm very happy that this is the case. But it was not always the case.

[elizabeth]

People who describe what marriage is, often fail to remember that marriage has existed over thousands of years through countless cultures. There were times and places where women had great opportunity and rights and others where they were treated horribly.

[mollyrose]

Imagine having to advertise for your YouTube videos.

[sparrowwatch]

My parents marriage was not a good example so I didnt not want to get married, but I have found the one whom my soul desires so after almost 3 years I can clearly say that I cannot wait to marry my best friend

[squalo]

In some cases it is, in some cases it isn’t. There are a lot of the factors that go into it: the cultures, the beliefs, etc of the people. If people want to get married, that is their choice, if people don’t want to get married, that is their choice. It is the same with children and so means other things.

[angelav]

"Research" isn't reading articles written by journalists...it's reading academic peer-reviewed journals and articles. Just so you know.

[brknotbrklyn]

YOUTUBE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD PLEASE STOP RECOMMENDING THIS CONSERVATIVE AGENGA TO ME PLEASE

[lalakass]

Women were literally sold to their husbands…

[zeelpatel]

I don’t understand how someone can research so much and still be stupid

[theaterkidem]

"Is marriage patriarchal?"
Short answer, not if you're a lesbian!

[Sunset]

I really don’t think “feminists”, or how about we just call them “people these days” think that marriage is patriarchal. Practically everyone I know is a liberal and I’ve definitely never heard them discuss or even hint at that. It was, at times, in the past, but not today. You can do whatever you want and form your marriage/family system however you want. Everybody knows that.

[jessicarose]

A marital arrangement in which -
Husband is the head of the wife/household.
The wife and the children must take the husband's last name.
The wife must submit to the husband and can exercise no authority over him.
The wife must be a "keeper at home" (which would mean complete financial dependence on the husband so the husband has to provide) -

is by definition Patriarchal. Now, whether it's seen as positive/beneficial or negative/disadvantageous depends on individuals. So, women can find this arrangement positive and beneficial but it is still patriarchal (by definition), just like the opposite of this arrangement would be matriarchal.

[mikelevinson]

Marriage, with the right person, for the right reasons, benefits both parties.

[natalied]

Is she trolling us the fact that she used Henry the 8th as an example of a loving husband 🤣😂🤣😂 He didn’t “protect” anybody or “support” any of his wives. He killed them for not producing a male heir.

[crystalcausey]

Just because women benefited from Marriage in the past DOES NOT mean it wasn't a patriarchal system. She's just breezing over what Patriarchal means.

[AnnaMazingFusion]

Whether the marriage is traditional or not, I think one of the purposes of marriage is also to provide lifelong emotional protection, and I think this goes for both men and women. Men struggle to open up about their feelings, but when they truly love their wife, they show them the side of them that nobody else sees. It’s okay to feel, it’s okay to be vulnerable... I’ve been grieving my grandfather’s loss, and my boyfriend has been incredible with the emotional support that he’s given me. Another example that goes the other way, my boyfriend has been studying a lot for a really hard test that he has in August, and I can tell he’s anxious about it. I always hug him, stare into his eyes and tell him that he can do it - he just has to believe in himself. These little moments are the ones that I consider emotional protection, because it’s linked with intimacy and it’s a very unique, personal bond between two people.

[rachelc]

Love, support, protection, and parenting etc can still happen beautifully in a relationship without marriage.