Emotional Intelligence is a Superpower - Dr. Daniel Goleman || Finding Mastery

“IQ, cognitive abilities are basically hardwired. They don’t really change that much through life… On the other hand, emotional intelligence is learned and learnable, and you can upgrade it at any point in life.” - Dr. Daniel Goleman

This week’s conversation is with trailblazing psychologist and author of the New York Times bestseller Emotional Intelligence, Dr. Daniel Goleman.

Daniel has transformed the way the world educates children, relates to family and friends, and conducts business. Well-known for his work in leadership and education, Daniel is also a distinguished voice in the field of meditation. A meditator since his college days, Daniel spent two years in South Asia, first as a Harvard Predoctoral Traveling Fellow and then again on a Post-Doctoral Fellowship.

His first book, The Meditative Mind: The Varieties of Meditative Experience, was written on the basis of that research, offering an overview of various meditation paths. Daniel’s other books include: A Force for Good: The Dalai Lama’s Vision for Our World and Altered Traits: Science Reveals How Meditation Changes Your Mind, Brain and Body. In this conversation, we discuss his key findings, frameworks, and insights around why emotional intelligence is foundational – and how you can develop it.

Chapters:
0:00 — Intro
3:30 — The Launch of Emotional Intelligence
6:40 - The 3 Parts of Emotional Intelligence
7:40 — The Dark Triad
9:30 — Caring and Compassion
11:00 — Great Coaches
12:20 — Coaching with Compassion
14:10 — Coaching with Direct Reports
15:00 — Sponsor Seed
18:20 — The Sport Frame
22:20 — Trainable
27:10 — General Learning Model
32:55 — How Do You Care
34:31 — Parental Care
35:26 — Making a Difference
37:03 — Aura Ring
38:36 — Magnesium Breakthrough
40:06 — Mental Judo
43:25 — The Critic
45:29 — The Data
46:50 — Mindfulness
48:28 — Being a loser
50:22 — Favorite Song Lyrics
51:48 — Bus Drive Story
53:43 — Philosophy
56:13 — Good Work
57:29 - What Do You Love

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[alexg]

So a Lady today as I’m backing up into a parking space quickly accelerated and drive in it inches from my bumper . The place was packed I was upset got out of the car told her I’m trying to park. She said pretty much too bad it was 2 older ladies and at that point I understood why people go on a rampage and just loose their minds and do something that’s not worth it. Not because of a parking space but because of so much stress in their life and problems all at the same time and when you finally drive in somewhere and catch a break finding a quick spot and some one swoops in steals it, that right their is when people loose it I think. I managed to keep cool and didn’t escalate it because I’m very calm person but anyone else would have been on the news that night. Either way it wasn’t worth the fight, sometimes in these situations the best thing to do is be the bigger person and let it go 🙏.

[searching]

40:05 thank you for being so transparent! I found, the biblical practice of forgiveness is similar. To "master" forgiveness, one is required to go back to what Dr. Coleman spoke about, as self awareness. Without writing out a bible study guideline, the bible teaches a prayer that has a line that goes, "forgive us as we forgive those who wronged us...." the idea is, in order to forgive others, we first must be aware of our own character defects and frailty, and only when we're honest about ourselves, we can humbly give grace towards those who wronged us. I believe it is a rewarding practice over time-- for all parties involved. This is such an empowering and enlightening conversation. Thank you. I love the brain science behind loving kindness and human behavior. I'm definitely going to get the books that were mentioned.

[designerssalonspa]

Omg I love this author. How good the world would be if there were more men like him🥰

[lanajthomasm.s.healthpsych]

My conscience and caring circuitry will always remind me. "It Is not about you, it never was. It is about the whole." It is a most important concept about my purposefulness here which is to serve others. Thank you, gentlemen.

[AnnaMbisePanAfricanLibrary]

What great speakers! I loved the way two of them are so skilled and calm in taking us through EI matters

[mwise]

This was quite insightful. Dr Goleman is so warm! Well done, Mike!

[andrymarcelrazafimanantsoa]

a wisemen, a peaceful minded person, thanks for sharing

[soniaedwards]

I got this book back in the early 2000's... Great stuff

[michaelneal]

So I have never had a friend my entire life, I have never trusted people not to hurt me and no one has yet returned my efforts to change the way I feel. Attempts to connect have gone poorly. I am very happy to be on my own, recharge when I am not around other people. Being around people is VERY hard work. I GUESS THIS MAKES ME A LOSER.

[aichabenmokrane]

I am teaching HRD module at uni in Algeria. EI is included in the syllabus. In fact, the pioneer Dr. Goleman is the source of what l'm looking for💕

[khanhhoa]

Mình thích cuộc nói chuyện này nên nghe đi nghe lại 2 lần rồi. Hơn cả nội dung chính của cuộc hội thoại về Emotional intelligence là chính sự thông minh về cảm xúc của Dan được thể hiện một cách rất rõ ràng nhưng lại không hề phô chút nào. Mình thật ngưỡng mộ Dan, cách mà Dan tập trung vào lắng nghe những ggì Mike nói và đối thoại lại, rất tự nhiên mà đầy sự thông thái. Bên cạnh đó, Mike cũng khá tuyệt ở cách anh ấy rất chú trọng đến sự chính xác trong cách chọn từ ngữ để biểu đạt cảm xúc hay suy nghĩ của bản thân. Thể hiện đúng 1 người hiểu bản thân mình. Nhưng so với Dan thì Mike vẫn chưa đạt đến trình độ lắng nghe tốt như vậy, có thể là do quá tập trung vào bản thân mình, being mindful quá chăng?.

[johnmaher]

Fantastic interview well done guys- such a great interviewer and interviewee . Beautiful tone all the way through - great chemistry great questions- great simplicity- A1 !!!

[paulagibbsratlou]

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[paulshirley]

Some how the universe got me here.. Started few days ago as I prepared for an upcoming job interview. The interview is going to be a competency questions based around the 'star approach method'. After many hours and days, I was watching a particular video where the host mentioned 'emotional intelligence'. So going down the youtube rabbit hole, a video I watched mention Dr. Daniel Goleman. Okay, lets search for Dr. Daniel Goleman.. Now i've order the book 'emotional intelligence, why it can matter more than iQ. 🙂:EDIT.. Forgot to mention what I found funny, how you asked the Daniel Goleman 'how to be a good listener?' at the same time of interrupting him lol

[captainalazharalyusof]

👀Competencies of Effective Leadership - Emotional Intelligence - The leader is ability to monitor their own and others emotions, discriminate among them, and use the information to guide his or her through and action.
Integrity : the leader is truthfulness and tendency to translate works into deed's and self-confident - The leader is belief in their leaderships skills and ability to achieved objective. 👀

[MaddyIndia]

Why is this talk so focused on Teams and Leadership? A discussion on increasing resilience would've been 100 times better.

[planetom]

I aspire to live in a way where my basic housing, health and nutritional needs are available to me without having to use most of my time as well as too much mental real estate working for someone else. And I don’t want to be a “leader” making people work for me in a system that caters to the greedy. I hold compassion for all but it’s hard when the reality is that selfish people get to decide how the world operates. Does anyone have any advice for me ? Namaste

[dktiquy]

really loved this interview, both of thm are a really good quality people, congrats!!

[peytonbrown]

My greatest happiness is the $65, 000 bi-weekly pr'ofit I get consistently from my $10, 000 investment despite the economic fluctuations

[planetom]

“Teamwork” isn’t as common as one individual (or small group) exploits the labor of a smaller group. A small percent “wins” and the large group of labors (all of us) end up with lots of wisdom but social mobility is still inaccessible