Is His Divorce An Excuse?

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In this week's episode of LOVELife I take a question from Christie on dating a man who is in the midst of a divorce. She has spoken with him about committing, but after 5 months of dating, is yet to receive the investment she's looking for. Enjoy!

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[susan]

Divorce is not an excuse. It’s an excuse not to be with you. It’s a classic way to get out of a relationship you don’t want.

[cherylduckworth]

You are so calming. I met someone that I helped out and he liked me but he didn't fall for me. I did fall for him. He moved four states away. That said it all and that made it final. I've been stressed for a couple months now. Some days are good some days are horrible. But as I was sitting here listening to your voice I felt my stress unwind and my body relax. Keep up the good work Mr Hussey

[vl]

No matter how careful you are, there’s still a 50% chance he will take off. Your carefulness won’t change the result.

[ikonora]

I'm living this right now. My bf and I are from different countries, we live in different countries. I am living a 'in between countries' life, I go to his country and come back to mine all the time. We've been dating for 2 years, he got a divorce 3 years ago but he doesn't seem to want or even THINK about marriage anytime soon. But he knows that the only way for me to stay with him is if he marry me so we can live together. Everytime we talk about it I can feel that he may want to end this because he won't marry me now and he thinks it's unfair to 'hold me back' in life just because of him.. But I love him and he treats me really well, I'm in a really complicated situation. He is selfish to do that but I am too afraid to stand up for myself and see the worst coming...

[anastasiaimsdal]

Matt is one of the most brilliant people I know! keep doing this outstanding work!!

[TheStrangelys]

He's separated and chasing me because my milkshake brings all the narcissists to the yard

[justinwilliams]

If a divorce is still pending, your are currently in litigation with your former spouse. To enter into another relationship whilst litigating, you subject yourself to penalties and infractions. It's absurd to ask someone to subject themselves to prolonging the divorce process or complicating it further. When it's done, go for it. Otherwise, respect the boundary. His divorce is NOT an excuse, it's a pending legal situation.

[anastasiaimsdal]

you are really special Matt :-) you have this amazing attitude about life. you are glowing

[prowseify]

Hey this was a great answer to a tough situation! Do a video about how to use tinder effectively!!

[RedTango]

Never get involved with someone who is separated.

[josiebill]

Almost 4 years with my boyfriend and hes been separated for 6 years and still won't get a divorce, I need to leave

[HYPNOYOUEllieBrown]

I love all your. Ideas and I tell everyone I know that this is great for LIFE your book helps in ALL areas of life not just dating...and for that I thank you xox

[andizarro]

I've heard you say several times -- that there's no shortage of men out there that will give you what you want/need... where do women find these men? I am an attractive, independent woman having a slow go at finding a compatible male.

[love_elow]

Really needed to hear this!! Thank you!

[tinacampbell]

Your advice is so awesome, I wish there were more men like you in this world, your real and that's so hard to find .

[How.Dare.You.]

If he ever says hes not ready, leave. Everytime Id say it its bc Im not that crazy about the guy and/or still in love with my ex

[floydyutiamco]

Love your videos Mathew, I always looking forward to it each week :-)

[samanthasavarese]

Thank you Matthew, as always you’re the light at the end of the tunnel 😅🙏

[desirae]

His face when she says he’s married. 😂

[Witchy]

Why would anyone date someone who is separated? A separation is NOT the same as a divorce because it isn't final and always runs the risk of the man reconciling with the wife. Ridiculous! Date someoen who you know is SINGLE and stop being so desperate! Lots of folks are lonely, but some of us have the intellect to date someone who is actually SINGLE. Where are you going/how far can you get witth a man who is separated and allegedly waiting for a divorce to be final for two years?