Why You Keep Secrets in Therapy

Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance. Available at:

In this video, we're going to discuss the reasons why you keep secrets from your therapist. We'll explore why you fear and doubt your safety, and how this fear and doubt creates barriers to your therapy.

We'll also talk about the truth, and why you need to be open with your therapists about your struggles. If we're not open with our therapists, we run the risk of hiding our true feelings and limiting our therapy sessions. By discussing these reasons, you can open up the lines of communication and build trust in your therapy relationship.

Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and a multi-award-winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 20 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.

He has published several articles in these areas and is the author of:

Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance. Available at:

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00:00 Introduction
00:33 Judgment in therapy
01:13 Fears that cause keeping secrets
01:50 How to be open with your therapist
02:03 Secrets and mental illness
02:53 Intimacy and therapy

[Mada__]

So true! Can you please make a video about BPD and the inability to take care of ourselves in all aspects of life (health, diet, medication, exercise, sleep, social life, self-care etc). Thanks a lot for all you do!

[wishpunk]

Therapy is not always an open or safe environment. Psychology in general has real dangers and consequences. You can lose certain careers for example with certain diagnosis. Parents can face consequences or be over ruled by a doctor. There are many valid reasons to have a healthy boundary with psyche professionals.

[nenitacelestial]

I agree.. we need to be very open about everything to be able to cross that wall. I will share this with a friend who may be in the bpd spectrum. Thanks Dr. Fox.❤

[lisalovesyou.]

Also I have managed after work to start reading the Bpd workbook I bought of yours and I feel like its definitely going to help, its very comprehensive in what it covers and full of helpful and strategies, definitely a programme i can follow so in feeling positive about that. i can't wait to get my teeth in to it and I'm willing to put the work in so this is giving great insight and valuable knowledge I must say, great stuff doc ! 👍

[titikamaragoula]

Luckily there are many therapists in the world…

[minutesago]

I mean, I don't wanna go to jail.

[TJ-kkzf]

Because if you tell him you're going to kill yourself, you'll be arrested

[kikie]

I definitely hold back with mine...not just because she is new to me, but because she is female...I don't understand this at all...I tend to feel more comfortable being open with male therapists...any idea why this could be? (I'm a straight and married female)

[TheYouthquaker]

The therapist I trusted the most eventually ghosted me after seeing me as anything other than some idealised non-entity. After many situations in my life, it reinforces the idea that anyone who sees any part of the real human self will abandon me. I have now totally isolated myself from society and people and let absolutely no one in.

[joy]

Please create playlist for PARENTS WITH BPD PLEASE

[Kris-hxy]

Im needing some information on helping my husband FULLY understand WHAT actions made me feel like because im bpd S well as other stuff, and he hasnt got help from his past eather, and i split on him a bunch, but he doesnt fully get it

[Daniellegarrow]

I have in past not been able to speak up to my therapist but also this does have something to do with my family past of "whats said and done in the home, stays in the home." I have gotten in trouble for sliping and speaking up. This is hard to break it.

[katieg]

Thank God my therapist has so much patience lol. It's almost amazing.

[delphinium]

I never had a problem with sharing until I was judged. Devastating.

[peterreed]

I would only share my secrets with some one I trust 100% and I don't trust any one 100%...especially therapists.

[lisalovesyou.]

I automatically assumed my therapist wouldn't like me or take anything I say seriously and I thought she would be automatically hostile to me because its me, turns out we clicked and talking to her for an hour feels like it's only been 5 minutes. I have previously kept things from her though but I'm learning to trust a bit now as time goes on