The UNHEARD Truth You Don’t Know About Polygyny @NaimaBRobertTV

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[idamoges]

Once a brother said “instead of a man marring a second wife he should help his unmarried brother to get married” .

[baybeefaat]

The Prophet may peace be upon him also practiced monogamy as well. He was married to Khadijah, may Allah be pleased with her, for 25 years, in an era where polygamy was widely practiced and not limited to 4 women. So both monogamy and polygamy are Sunnah

[twoezzy]

When u think of it it's ok but emotionally it's hard cause to be honest it's that men don't want a widow or an old woman or a young widow with kids all they want is a young beautiful virgin and most men at the end do not treat their wives equally

[Tislyfe]

Why would any believing woman be offended by polygamy? It’s a decree that came from Allah. Alhamdolilah for ALL of His blessings.

[ڤنيلاا]

Muslim woman here, wouldn’t mind my future husband taking more wives, May Allah guide us to his straight path Ameen

[lucillab]

Not as easy as it seems, dear sister and brothers.

[hijabmary]

When you said “it’s all about how I feel it’s about my feelings” what about when Fatima got so upset that Ali was ganna get another wife so Mohammed (saw) told Ali who ever hurts me hurts Fatima so Ali didn’t do it. Polygony is for the woman to be taken care of not for desires

[aktarahmed]

What are you teaching kids about dad having several women/wife, while new generation are already doubting the religion of Islam.

[ranazaman]

As Muslims we have to accept polygyny - meaning accept both the concept of polygyny and also the actual real life, real world practise of polygyny when men and women engage in it. Because polygyny is halal, i.e., permissible in Islam. And if we are true Muslims we have to accept everything that is halal. And polygyny is not haram or makruh. It is halal so we do have to accept it.

But, the fact that Muslims have to accept polygyny, doesn't at all mean that a Muslim man has to actually do it himself, or that a Muslim woman has to actually want it for herself and has to want her own marriage to be a polygyny and has to be okay with her own husband doing it. It is entirely a man's choice whether he has just 1 wife or multiple wives. So if a man wants just 1 wife and doesn't want 2 or more wives, then that's perfectly fine - he can have just 1 wife and is not obliged to have multiple wives. And also if a Muslim woman wants her own marriage to be a monogamy and wants to have a husband who is only her husband and who doesn't have any other wives and who is not any other women's husband, that's perfectly fine too. It is argued that polygyny is not haram in Islam - which is true. But monogamy is also not haram in Islam, so there's nothing whatsoever wrong with Muslim women (or Muslim men) desiring monogamy. The desire for monogamy - whether a man desires it or a woman desires it - is not an evil desire at all.

If Muslim women are making polygyny so difficult and so complicated for their husbands as is being said in this video by the female speaker, it is because polygyny genuinely wouldn't work out for them. So you can't blame these women for stopping their own husbands from doing it. NOBODY has the right to tell Muslim women that they should WANT and BE HAPPY with their husband taking the responsibility of other women; and that they should offer their husband to other Muslim sisters; and that they must want for their Muslim sister what they want for themselves, so if they want their husband for themselves, they should want their husband for other Muslim women too; and that they should be welcoming other Muslim women into their marriage and their home. Yes, Islam teaches that none of us truly believes until we want for other people what we want for ourselves. And also for the sake of not being selfish, we must share what we have with others and have the philosophy that happiness lies in sharing what you have with others. But then, it is entirely up to an individual (man or woman) to decide exactly HOW MUCH of what they have they share with others and exactly WHAT they do share and what they don't share. No individual - man or woman - is to subjectively have dictated to them how much of what they have they share with others, and exactly which of their things they do share and which of their things they don't share. And also, you mustn't share absolutely everything, i.e., 100% of what you have with others. Because that is a very unwise and also dangerous thing to do. As a self-respecting - and self-respect is not the same as selfishness - person and also a sensible and wise person, some of your things you must keep literally just for yourself. So you can share at the very most 99% of what you have with others, but must not share fully 100% of what you have.

The Deen cannot be blamed for allowing polygyny. Because - this is an indisputable truth and inescapable reality - sometimes in some places, in some situations and under some circumstances, for some men and for some women polygyny genuinely can be a tactful, helpful, useful, beneficial thing. There's no denying that. But it must be understood that in Islam, while polygyny is allowed under certain circumstances, it is certainly not encouraged. In fact, polygyny is, in truth, strongly discouraged in Islam. There is evidence of discouragement both in Quran and Sunnah/Hadith. Yes, polygyny is Sunnah. But you have to remember that monogamy is Sunnah too. So many pro-polygyny Muslims forget that monogamy is the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad SAWS too. The normal in Islam is monogamy, not polygyny. Islam encourages monogamy and doesn't encourage polygyny. Islam is pro-monogamy and anti- polygyny. Prophet Muhammad SAWS was monogamous for longer than he was polygynous; and it was with the wife he was monogamous towards (Khadijah) that he had children. He didn't have children when he was polygynous. And only the wife with whom he did monogamy, Khadijah, is in the rank of one of the best four women. None of the other wives -who he was polygynous towards - are one of the four best women. The default of Islam and of Jannah is monogamy. Because if polygyny was the default of Islam and the default of Jannah, then when Allah first created human beings, he would have given the first man, Adam, multiple wives. But no. Allah gave the first man Adam just 1 wife, Hawa. So the first ever human marriage was monogamy, not polygyny. Allah in His infinite knowledge and wisdom has allowed polygyny only for when it becomes absolutely necessary. But in truth, for a man just one wife is more than enough because just one is quite a handful. For men giving just one wife all her rights and fulfilling all responsibilities and duties towards just one wife is more than enough work and stress. If a man has multiple wives, they cannot live in the same house. The wives must all be accomodated separately. So a man has to be able to pay the mortgage/rent and all the bills of multiple households. You can't just put forward the arguement that Islam allows polygyny so Muslim men have to be allowed to do it. Because many terms and rules apply here. A man has to be capable of treating multiple wives equally and dealing justly with them and doing justice between them. And he also has to be financially capable of providing for and supporting multiple wives. Equal treatment is required in terms of time share, expenditure and allowances. This is next to impossible - and even more impossible if 2nd marriages are done secretly. So the pitfalls with polygyny are huge. And 2nd marriages must not be done secretly for whatever reason meaning even if it's because polygyny is being made so complicated for men. If polygyny is going to happen, it must be done openly and with transparency. It's disastrous enough if monogamy doesn't work out. But it's even more disastrous if polygyny doesn't work out because with polygyny more people are involved. So if polygyny fails, more lives are ruined.

I'm not against polygyny for those men who not only want to do it, but are genuinely capable of doing it in a completely halal Islamic way and for those women who are okay with it. But the point I'm making is that there's nothing wrong with a Muslim woman (or man) not wanting polygyny for themselves; and also that there is no need to overly think about and overly talk about polygyny.

[Just_A_Stranger]

*" People did not leave anything from God’s command except that God made them need it, and they suffered and did not find a way except by returning to it. "* 📖

[alisis]

She beautifully argued for the case of polygamy whilst never mentioning anything about the kids who or are growing up in these toxic environments.


Coming from a Muslim polygamy society and family, it's sad that no one is standing up for these kids.

I know lots with childhood psychological issues cause daddy was only busy chasing different wives and did value any of his wives because it was very easy to divorce and replace the wives. All wives be competing for husband's attention and lots of fighting.

In the west, there's no excuse to take on another wife because they'll be looked after by government so please don't hide behind what the prophet did because everything is completely different from then.

[baybeefaat]

We should want for our sisters what we want for ourselves. How would the brothers feel if another man was with his wife? He should love for his brother what he loves for himself right? Yep! Thought so! Doesn’t work like that😂

[hijabmary]

Polygony in Islam is not supposed to be the norm nor is it about desires. Woman suffer so much in this world and when a man gets another wife it will destroy her mentally which is also why Mohammed (saw) didn’t want it for Fatima

[thetruth]

So women have no faith because they dont want to follow this sunnah(which is not fardh) while a man is not obligated to follow so many other sunnahs...why is women only made bad for not following sunnahs

[boysfamily]

And still, Allah said: "...better one" as He also created only Eve for Adam. But it's true that it can solve some social problems if it would be used for that purpose intended by Allah...May Allah guide man to overcome their desires and make everything for the sake of Allah only and the same for women!

[HitherandYarn]

Here comes the hate. This is just bullshit. Polygyny was a permission, but you are making it into a "must" telling women that they should welcome it, no matter how they feel. No way. I hope not a lot of women are listening to you. Economics and lust are what make it hard for a brother to do the right thing. You are talking as if every brother is marrying another wife for noble purposes. I know men, and I know this is not the case.

[mariar]

Only for worthy men it's acceptable.. Not for little boys.

[syedafatema]

Sister first tell us how many wife your husband has.

[dt.sayedsanatshah]

Masha Allah...this is the best thing I have heard till date...have seen the whole video...but this is the fact...I don't know why sisters take polygamy as an affair