ACA/ACoA Reparenting from an Internal Family Systems (IFS)-Informed Perspective

An Internal Family Systems (IFS)-informed talk by Lou Bardach about how IFS aligns with another multiplicity-based parts framework, "Reparenting," from the Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families 12-Step trauma recovery program. This Zoom presentation was given to the clinical team of Cypress Wellness Center in St. Petersburg, Florida, on March 31, 2023.

***Resources Mentioned***:

Lou's "IFS Essentials" (personal notes) document:

One-hour video overview of IFS by Dick Schwarz (developer of IFS):

Information about IFS training (part of formal IFS certification):

Information about IFS learning opportunities (to become "IFS Informed"):

Original IFS book by Dick Schwartz, "Internal Family Systems Therapy:"

Latest IFS book by Dick Schwartz, "No Bad Parts" (with IFS exercises to try):

IFS book on relationships by Dick Schwartz, "You Are the One You've Been Waiting For:"

Adult Children of Alcoholic and Dysfunctional Families (ACA/ACoA) 12-Step trauma recovery program:

ACA/ACoA Loving Parent Guidebook (reparenting workbook):

ACA/ACoA Beginner's Handbook (free *.pdf access/download):

Cypress Wellness Center, private practice psychotherapy and coaching based in St. Petersburg, FL:

Lou's Blog Piece on Being "IFS-informed":

Lou's Blog Piece on Reparenting:

Lou's Blog Piece on the Inner Critic:

Lou's Blog Piece on Mindfulness & the Inner Critic:

Lou Bardach's coaching business, Live True Be Well:

Lou Bardach's clinical profile on Psychology Today:

[kimwall]

Just a note to your listeners. You only need to complete Level 1 to get certified! Level 2 and Level 3 are there for those who choose to deepen the work! <3

[roysmith]

With the question about whether you need to revisit an exile once you've worked with them and had a breakthrough, I did some workshops with Bonnie Weiss recently, and she said that it used to be thought that you could work with exiles once and clear the charge completely, but now she has come to believe that exiles do need to be revisited, and it's good to check in with them to see how they are faring.

With my own ACA work, I have definitely found that to be true. Sometimes, a big breakthrough gets me a long way toward clearing an emotional charge, but later, I find there's some more to be cleared. However, it seems to be less on subsequent clearings.

[seliannemythrakiir]

There are also religious abuse survivors ACA groups and secular ACA groups as well, if religion is triggering for you.
It was for me, so this is better 😊