When The Devil Wears A Suit: The Truth About Hypergamy And Relationships

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After watching ISIS’ thought-provoking (and heartbreaking) YouTube video titled “I Married a MONSTER,” I felt led to share this message. In today’s culture, the rise of hypergamy, seduction coaching, and the pursuit of becoming a trophy wife has created a dangerous narrative. These trends often glorify superficial standards, promising love and success but leading many into spiritual traps.

What happens when the "ideal man" or "dream life" turns out to be a devastating counterfeit? In this video, I dive into the hidden dangers of idolizing worldly standards of wealth, status, and beauty over God’s truth. From the seductive allure of false security to the long-term consequences of neglecting spiritual discernment, we’ll explore how the enemy packages deception as perfection.

Through biblical insights and personal reflection, I unpack why trusting God’s timing, purpose, and standards is the only way to build a foundation for genuine love and fulfillment. If you’re questioning the cost of pursuing fleeting ideals or ready to surrender your love story to God, this video is for you.

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† SALVATION PRAYER †

Dear God,

I come to you, to confess that I am a sinner. I can't even begin to list all of the things I've done to displease you, and I ask that you forgive me for every sin I've committed, those known and unknown. I believe that your son Jesus Christ died for my sins and rose again, that I may have eternal life. I turn away from my sins and invite you into my heart. I want to trust and follow you as my Lord and Savior. I want to do life by your side.

In Jesus' name, amen.

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[hiyori]

I’m so glad you made this video Dyani because upon watching this I feel like I was starting to get deeper into that type of content but it was moreso centered around a woman knowing her self worth and not allowing men to low ball you and not take you seriously, and to not be afraid to expect a man to pay and take care of you financially when you’re married.

I came from a background of male worship and male vaildation, when I was in the world I was operating out of a spirit of seduction as early as elementary school, I used my body and looks to get male vaildation but then when God saved me and I came out of that it was still the same way in Christianity because I was taught that I had to be everything for a man and waiting on him hand and foot, doing everything they say because it’s submission, and modesty became about them, I was taught that I should basically expect a man to lust and in order to keep him from lusting I had to always be sexually readily available to him, not to mention financies never truly mattered, just take what you can get, go to Bible studies with him, and I feel like all of that teaching made me go to the other end where I started watching content about how a man should have this and that. I never had a father growing up, in fact he was very abusive to me and my mom, I think that’s where all of my insecurities stem from and I still cry til this day about how my heart craves a dad…I feel like every man in my life has failed me, down to my dad and my brothers because with all of them I have felt unsafe at times, disrespected and walked all over. I pray that God heals me of this because I genuinely want to get some self esteem, love myself and God and don’t accept less than but I feel like I’m lowkey afraid and not trusting God to give me His best out of a man because I’ve seen lots of testimonies of women saying God told them to marry a certain man and then he’d cheat, and then he’d be really mean to her, and then he’ll be dismissive of her feelings even lusting after other women and women are just taught to only get on your knees and pray and pray and be the bigger person. I just want to be with someone who’s going to love me, respect me, and lead me more to God, and who doesn’t have their nose turned up at the thought of having to provide for me financially, who doesn’t have a lack mindset, who actually enjoys taking care of his family. I don’t want to be the one who’s constantly trying to make the relationship work anymore and crying and begging for love. I’m scared because I just don’t want to end up with a narcissist and being the strong one all of the time.

[OlkensAvril-uq]

It's crazy how people are looking for providers not knowing that the Most High is the only provider.

[PoshwithPurpose]

20:21 YES DYANI - you got it absolutely right. The lord sat me down and explained this to me. These women are teaching jezebel behavior. They are ultimately teaching these women how to attract predators. I am praying for all of the women who are following these false teachers teaching this false doctrine, it is such a slippery slope and very easy to fall victim to if you aren’t in your word.

[symptomaticSCT]

amen to this sis. Before surrendering totally to Jesus I was so desperate just to be loved too, but we do know. There’s always a niggle in our spirits of the red flags we just tend to ignore them as women who just long for love where brokenness (fatherlessness too) or abuse has been the norm as a child or growing up. I’m so grateful for this video because yes so true about finding contentment in our Abba and our dependency on Him as our EVERYTHING, without what I thought I should be or have by now at my age. So grateful for His grace. Oh and by the way that video you speak of with that woman who married for status and wealth, one of the children was theirs together. My heart breaks for those precious little ones and I just pray the Lord allows them to be healed totally through His love as they grow! I pray for the woman also to truly repent and seek Abba for allowing herself and children to be put into such a circumstance, because we do know deep down as women. We instead do settle! I pray for the man to be held accountable and for the Lord to rain down His justice upon Him where He finds Jesus so the cycle of him abusing others can be stopped. Love you sister Dyani you’re absolutely glowing sis. I’ve watched you in the last few years since totally surrendering to the Lord and being. Totally stripped of who I thought I was through severe physical disability and sickness complications, loss of business, health, finances, relationship and even home and then finding out who Jesus was and is to me and finding my identity grounded in Him! Thank you for your encouragement and even the tough messages, the disappointments, because it wasn’t t in our timing or the times we perceived Abba telling us was now NoW! I do believe this year we will see how BiG our God is! We will see the salvation of our Father in this NEW season! Blessings and shalom, shalom sis! Keep on shining for ABBA’s glory! ❤❤❤❤

[faithoverfearministries]

I came across that “I married a monster” video and skimmed through it but wasn’t really interested in watching it all the way through..I’m glad to see you doing well, Be blessed Sis 😇💕

[TheFifthArrow]

I think rebellion is directly related to not fully trusting in the fulfillment of Gods promises, or better said, not believing God and that his will is perfect for my life. For example if I pursue something that I shouldn’t, a relationship or a desire of the flesh, I’ve already decided in my mind that I’ve been waiting on God too long or that he has forgotten me . Basically like you said in the video, not willing to wait on God. Anyways I thank God for His grace because He has been infinitely patient with me while I have veered off course time after time in my life. But in retrospect I can look back at those circumstances and see that God was even trying to block the path of my sin, essentially protecting me from myself. What an amazing kind and loving God who knows us so well and loves us enough to not only protect us from physical harm and danger, but from our own sinful desires. This is why it’s so important to pray continually. That’s been my prayer lately, Lord deliver me from evil, protect me from the enemy, the influence of the world, and from my own flesh 😢

[nabilaaiuba]

This message is so important. Especially in this time🙌🏾

[stinathesaturnian]

I literally asked God earlier this morning for you to drop a video. just off the title I feel it will resonate, thank you!

[JanelKLauren]

This is my favorite topic of conversation! Thank you for covering it❤

[ShawnRoberts-ho]

This is a powerful teaching maam. As a christian father I feel this needs to go viral. I am going to share this now on my social media and with my 21 year old daughter. God bless you. I enjoy your videos. Keep up the good work. May Christmas bring you happiness. Good health and favor from God.

[Greenrivers]

Another great video, I'm gonna need a makeup tutorial.

[tiffle]

This is a On Time Word from God. Thank Holy Spirit. Thank you for being a vessel to the kingdom and being obedient Dyani.

[jojobear]

God bless you Dyani🪻what a timely word.

[wayneelijahjohnson]

Thank you, Dyani for the fresh revelation knowledge. Merry Christmas to you and yours & I also noticed your pretty clear nails it’s a good look on you. 😇☃️

[shadessaknighton]

I completely agree, these harmful teachings must be stopped

[its-just-alia]

Unfortunately in the video she stated that he raped her the first couple months of their marriage but due to her childhood trauma she felt that this is what she had to put up with for the lifestyle

[godson]

God will give you a man of Great Social Standing IN ADDITION to sound character if you TRUST in Him

[nondscript]

😊lovely olive 💐💐 God endlessly produces beauty, what a great role model for my daughter when she's ready.

[RitaDoran-pv]

Well said slither in like a snake great lesson put God first and you look lovely

[MrSa]

Yeah I understand where you're coming from I had to repent because I was idolizing marriage over God and I know that he's a jealous God so I just repented for holding an idol over God but I just believe that if I'm ready for marriage I just believe that he's preparing a wife for me even though I don't cheat anymore because I had came to the realization that I'm a man of God now I actually know better than to go around throwing my dick around at women even though I do have some lust that I'm working on I can honestly say that I've stopped masternaiting, but the luat is still there and I know that I'm human and I just want to be loved the right way and not just for my body



So anyways, God bless you, prophetess Dyani, and just keep up with what you're doing for the kingdom of Heaven with the encouraging words that you're giving right now 🙌🏿✨️🪽🔥✝️🫗