What It Means If You’re Not Happy Being Single

Real fam, if you’re not already happy when you’re single, do you think you should expect a significant other to change that?

[e]

I wish they focused more on what Adrienne was saying. Because when you're happy single, you want a man, rather than need a man. Therefore you are less likely to go for anyone. That's powerful.

[washurhands]

I agree with Adrienne. I’m 31 and been single for a long time and I’m in a good place but i wouldn’t mind if a responsible man came along.

[unnderneath]

I like what Adrienne said, you can be completely happy with yourself and still want to pursue a relationship, we're humans, we're not wired to live forever alone.

[osenifabua]

It’s normal to crave romantic companionship so I can understand why someone who’s single would feel lonely as they are lacking that.

[inmyownheadspace]

I agree with Adrienne and was nodding my head at what Jeannie was saying. I'm not particularly "satisfied" with being single. You get to a point where you're single for so long that it would be nice to have companionship. Looking at today's choices makes that alot harder.

[LocWonder]

I hear “date yourself” one more time, imma flip over some tables! I love dating myself and I actually have a good time with me. I’ll be in a relationship when I’m good and ready...I’m working through some things so NOW ain’t the time 🤪

[ShaisTime]

I agree with Adrienne ! I’m used to being alone & I don’t need a relationship or to be up under someone but I want one.. I’ve always wanted true love & a complete family especially since I have kids. Idk hard to explain but I agree with Adrienne cause there definitely is a stigma just because you want love ❤️🤦🏽‍♀️

[JessiEvr]

I love adrienne- shes so right. women talk so much about being independent and it makes you feel bad for wanting a partner!! when in reality it’s totally normal crave that type of love lol my therapist had to clarify that to me this week

[melc]

Adrianne is HONEST. If we are honest with ourselves being single is hard! I mean you can be happy with yourself friends, good job and family are not enough. They cannot fill that specific void most women want!

[_TinyHyeju_]

I get she was passionate but Loni didn’t need to cut off Adrienne like that

[JessyJessie]

I think Adrienne was onto something though.... I’ve been out of a relationship for almost a year now and I’m in the best headspace I’ve ever been. However, when I have a good day or a bad day, I still want someone to share those experiences with.

[SamanthaN]

Im 27. Been single all my life. Never been in a relationship. Im not open to having one. I believe being single is a blessing. Some may treat it like a curse, but its so nice to not deal with any drama, heartbreak, a bad breakup or cheating. We need to be happy within ourselves before we can be happy with someone else ❤️👍

[AmandySue]

I was always in unhealthy/toxic relationships. I never want my happiness to be dependent on anyone else ever again. I learned to love myself and put me first.

[tamerilee]

I love Jeannie’s honesty from her experiences, I find so many dimes in her stories 💖

[shashavengesayi]

I’m satisfied single and have never dated before but I am open to a relationship. However sometimes I wonder whether it’s the full relationship I want or just a physical experience

[HAUSOFAARON]

Why are they dismissing Adrienne’s very valid points 🥴

[tamerilee]

Adrienne I am drooling off this look!!!

[kaitdunbar]

Adrienne! Thank you girl! I have spent the last two years going through my self awareness working on my co-dependency issues. I spent the last 8 months feeling happy with me, and being who I needed to be, but I was still searching for something more. And now, I have it, and let me tell you, life, is ELEVATED!!!!

[supersassy]

I agree with Loni that a lot of the time people equate someone’s happiness to whether or not their love lies are flourishing. This leads to many people sadly seeking validation through being in a relationship because they feel pressured to live up to others expectations. We need to put ourselves and our own emotions above societal standards in order to be happy with ourselves. We must first learn to love ourselves before we can truly love others❣️

[MajesticMyronn]

I’m sorry but someone else can’t make you happy... it shouldn’t be the only thing that makes your life worth living is another person... There’s this stigma that some people that just want to find someone they live with... but if you’re truly a person that doesn’t need that other person to make you smile all day, every day... then you need to find someone you can’t live without... BUT even if they aren’t around... you’re gonna be ok ! And that’s the mindset to have !