301. LOVE BOMBING (The Love Chat)

Love Bombing is a common tactic of Narcissists and a sign of a toxic relationship. Listen to this video if you want to know the signs of Love Bombing and how to break out of a love bombing situation!

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[TheLoveChat]

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[iVokeGames]

Rory's voice really has me moving on from my ex and falling for him instead

[jazmyne_thompson]

The lovechat has definitely helped me immensely to not only cope with the negative and overwhelming thought process that comes after a breakup, but it has also helped me to recognize and correct some of the negative behaviors I fall into because of those irrational thoughts and beliefs that are untrue.

[FruitRllups]

I was totally a victim of love bombing! I didn't know about it at all.. she asked me to be her boyfriend after the second date. She seemed so perfect and she kept showing me how much she loved me. Everything was perfect for 6 months and then after the first fight everything changed.. she started pulling away and acting distant. Then four months later she blindsided me with a break up. She got me so emotionally invested and kicked me to the curb as if I never meant anything to her..

Btw.. I realized later in the relationship she has daddy issues since her father left her at a young age. And the day she asked me to be her boyfriend was father's day.. I should realized back then she was just using me..

[BSTSUPERFAN]

How has the Love chat content improved my self for me?
Hello! My boyfriend of 3 years left me abruptly a month ago and it was a really traumatic experience for me. We have never talked about breaking up but he decided to leave me 10 days after starting an LDR. It was really hard for me to accept this breakup and I was just feeling really depressed and empty. Thankfully, i stumbled upon this channel and watched a lot of videos that helped reduced my anxiety levels. It has also taught me that the most important thing to do right now, is to work on myself because in the end, the person that will be with me till the end of time is myself. I had trouble sleeping ever since he left me and so I actually added several videos to a playlist and listen to it to every night to fall asleep. Rory's voice is key to helping me sleep haha. Ultimately, I wouldn't have been able to feel better about myself if it wasn't for Love Chat. I learnt a lot about my worth and I really appreciate stumbling upon this channel. Even though I still feel sad and empty, it is definitely better than the first few weeks and this was all possible because of Love Chat. Thank you so much for making the past month easier for me to survive.

[tahrirforever]

I went through most of this pattern with him. We were friends for years then lovers for two years. Promised marriage. After two years I remind him for his promise of marriage then he ghosted me. Which made me in shock for years. Those people should be punished for ruining other people's lives without feeling guilty

[nicholasweatherbee]

My story of love bombing:

I remember feeling very avoidant when my ex and I began talking. I purposely didn’t invite him out one night because I was anxious that we were getting too close too quickly. He asked me to be exclusive on the third date (about a week after we first met). He never dated anyone before me and told me that I had everything he was looking for. I was so unsure about the guy but I went along.

It wasn’t long after I got attached to him that he started to pull away. He broke up with me 2.5 months after we met because he had lost interest.

If you go from uninterested to up all night with anxiety after 2 months, you may have been love bombed.

[heatherrussell]

The Love Chat has really been a reminder that I am strong, I can set healthy boundaries & that it’s not selfish to just work on myself for a while. A relationship is not a necessity & won’t complete me. It’s really helped me break my issues with co-dependence over the past year of listening in which I stayed single until recently began dating again. I’m 43 years old, I wish I had known all of this for the past 25 years. Thank you.

[emilylavielle]

The love chat helped me improve myself because I learned that, through the process of trying to get someone back, I actually bettered myself. I focused on myself, such as going to the gym, meeting up with friends more, etc. then I learned that I don’t need someone when I have myself. My confidence went up as I watched your videos. I found my true self after dealing with a breakup. And that the only person I wanted to get back was my self.

[CasualEngineering]

How has the Love Chat helped me improve my life for myself?
I found this channel a couple of years ago after going through a breakup and it was one of the very few honest channels out there that didn't try to sell you false hope.
*I learned a lot about fair and healthy relationships
*I sensed a stoic approach to the content which I resonated with, and it helped me move forward when I had no one to talk to
*I consider this channel a part of my support system (my secret weapon, haha!)
*I felt encouraged to see a therapist eventually and dealt with depression properly (although it still comes back from time to time)
*I usually read lots of self dev books and some information on here I already know, but hearing it is a good way to internalize it (one thing I liked in particular was a self-care tip: that you can divide your life into a few sections and figure out what habits and activities are appropriate for each that help you achieve your goals: physical, emotional, mental health, social, monetary)
*I know what healthy advice to give to other people going through similar hardships
*I'm glad that I've moved on from a state of lack and anxiety and feeling more enthusiastic about my life and my dreams, regardless if there's someone next to me or not. The old story comes back from time to time, I'm only human, but I'm wiser now.

[daphnesuri]

Rory's insight and compassion in helping us recognise patterns of behaviour that can self sabotage our healing process and capacity to move on in a non-judgemental way, at times showing us his own vulnerability by sharing his own stories and past trauma has helped me come a long way in my own healing and journey. Kudos to Rory and his team for producing one of the best video channels on youtube...xx

[OniZombies]

I don’t typically comment on your videos but here it goes lol...

TheLoveChat really helped with easing up my anxiety and to know that I am not alone in this situation. I have probably watched almost all of the videos on here and they really helped me understand how to be a better partner, look at myself in a more positive light, and really offer guidance at what is now a very low point. If things are meant to be, they are meant to be and it will happen. Focusing on myself and let things happen is something you have done exceptionally well for me.

I truly do appreciate all of your work for everyone. You are realistic and I do wish you the best.

My only fault was not finding this channel earlier

[gamingandrefashionshipadvi]

The love chat is full of great people, experienced it in the discord, helpful and wholesome people

[drizztsensei]

I was in a pretty bad situation mentally and I had low self respect to continue in my situation. Love Chat definitely helped me gain that self respect and recognise that I should love myself before anyone else, especially someone who doesn't see me as a priority in their life. Rory really showed me the value of working on myself for myself and living a life that I want to lead for me and me, alone. Thanks a lot man. Truly.

[uncommonasmr]

The love chat helped me improve myself by making me hold myself to a higher standard.
Watching the videos on this channel showed me that I can improve myself, my flaws, and my goals, that I should come first without having to feel bad about it. I was always so used to putting everyone else first that I never became better. I have always lived a stagnant life because I listened to everyone else.
“You shouldn’t wear
“A degree in won’t get you anywhere”
“You really shouldn’t be so
This caused my own goals, personality, and thoughts to suffer.
In short, what I have learned is that I CAN come first, and I don’t have to feel bad about it. I DON’T have to suffer because of other peoples abuse or opinions. And I CAN do things that people tell me I can’t.

[laurabianca]

The Love Chat content helped me improved myself in a positive way. Specifically, I have been suddenly left alone after 3 years of relationship without having closure or an explanation. As I was really depressed and upset, listening to the Love Chat videos helped me understand I should not blame myself for what happened and I learned how to have self esteem, self worth and confidence. I listened to a lot of videos several times and realised how important is to invest in myself and be happy without being dependent on my partner. I know now thanks to the Love Chat that my happiness only depends on me and I should seek only to stay with a partner with whom I can share my happiness and have someone who has the same feelings as I have for them. The Love Chat is an amazing channel and I am really grateful I found it when I needed it the most. Thank you Rory!

[knzay]

I spent so long trying to figure out whether the last dude i dated had love-bombed me. it wasn't as over-the-top as what some people describe. no soulmate talk, no grandiose future-faking, no constant texting. but i think at the root of it, he was still idealizing me to an unhealthy extent. and its SOOO true that idealization is the red flag because there's no way to ever meet that idealized expectation. who you actually are will never be better than the idealized version of you in their head, so you're basically being set up for devaluation eventually.

[steveprobert]

I year post break up. I’m currently in NC . I’ve had limited interaction from my ex. No meat on the bones, so I keep returning to NC. Last week I went to my local bakers and my ex popped in lol 😂
I said hello and went about my day!
If she wants to come back, she’s got to reach out and then I will consider it. For now I’m enjoying single life 😁

[biancavilichi]

Some days ago, in the evening, I was talking to a new friend, who was crying for exactly the same reason as me months ago: a breakup (and, moreover, a breakup with too many things in common with mine). I listened to that person and finally sent him the video Why are breakups so painful. At the same time, I realized that 3 months ago I was in his place and my best friend sent me another video and so I managed to be part of this community and realize that I am more than a brokenheart. I realized that this life is a perpetual mirror and that The Love Chat helped my best friend to the extent that it helped me, and it helped me to the extent that it helped my friend. We all still try to overcome certain things, but this channel has helped me realize that, no matter the problem, there is always something good to do for you and for the one who deserves it. It's not easy. In fact, not at all. But there's point from where we can start and get up and this time for me was your channel. Thank you!

[marydelacruz]

I came across this channel as a suggestion on a reddit post. I initially subscribed to this channel to understand my breakup. I couldn't wrap my head around why it had ended seemingly so abruptly. For months I waited anxiously for my ex to reach back out in the hopes of reconciling. I cried, vented to friends but I hated being told that I just needed to move on. This channel helped me take a seat back, release the urge to control the situation by reaching out and demanding answers. I joined the discord and chatted with people during my lunch breaks. Soon, I started giving advice instead of seeking advice for my situation. It'll be two years in August since my breakup. My ex never came back and that is okay! I have reflected on my own contributions to the breakup. Reflected on the things I need to work on moving forward and have since dated a little. I have also reflected on my ex and the ways he did not fulfill my needs. If you pay attention, relationships are really a way for you to learn more about YOU. What you need, what you're willing to negotiate on, what you're not willing to negotiate on, creating boundaries, communication, how to forgive, etc. I still listen to these videos to cement what I've already learned. This channel has been an amazing resource, and the discord is an amazing community of people going through the exact same thing! Thank you for all that you do <3