Eugenia Cooney Situation Is Sad

Eugenia Cooney situation is sad.

[ds]

Coming from someone who has suffered with an eating disorder for over 15 years, yes she absolutely thrives on people telling her how thin and sickly she is because it validates all of her “hard work” in her brain. It says “yes, it is working, the starving is working” and she gets more attention, which again, she loves even though she’ll never admit it. It’s sad.

[rae]

it shocks me how a mother can “defend” and “protect” eugenia’s disorder. she is absolutely fueling her own daughters downfall and it’s pretty disgusting to me. her saying her daughter is healthy is quite literally killing eugenia. i wish her all the best but maybe separating herself from the mom would put her on a better path.

edit: another thing that’s hit me like a brick wall is this- if eugenia was a child and CPS saw this treatment, she would be immidiately removed from the mother’s care because it would be considered abuse/child neglect. adults can be abused too. this poor woman is clearly in a household that doesn’t care about her safety and health. truly depressing.

[cinderbtw]

I stopped paying attention to her content years ago & finally accepted that the attention she gets is exactly why she hasn’t gotten better. It’s sad that trying to offer her support is the very thing that enables her to keep going this route.

[lucydavis]

i literally saw on her live the other night that her mom keeps belle on the doors to know when she leaves. she wanted to go look at the moon and the bells woke her mom up and so she wasn’t allowed to go outside and see the moon anymore she had to go look at it from the window. her mom is a psycho and it really gives off gypsy rose vibes

[mollya]

I can’t get over how compassionate Dane is.. you can see how it hurts him to watch someone suffer

[moonglow]

Mom, ”she takes good care of herself”. This is one of the scariest statements I’ve ever heard heard. Her mom needs help too.

[Jesjuice]

There's also a huge fetish community that basically gets off on seeing people with EDs get worse and worse. People legit pay her to do those body checks and shit. It's all so fucked up. Because she absolutely gets fueled by the negative comments as well. It's all such a disaster
Edited to add: the mother is ABSOLUTELY getting paid from all this too. There's unfortunately a lot of parents that care about money way more than their child's safety/health.

[amandalupacchino]

When she reacted to a comment by saying “Eugenia will not be like that again” gave me “anorexia is speaking on her behalf” vibes. Like it’s to the point where it is beyond “defining” her. It’s horrifying to watch. And watching her mom encourage it on cam (regardless of whether or not it is for monetary reasons or not) is just as scary.

[cassieondra]

YouTube needs to demonetize her channel. It’s absolutely horrific. Allowing her to profit on her own demise AND on a platform to where she’s telling her audience this is okay ? Ridiculous.

[lonesomebeetroot]

I honestly cannot fathom what is wrong with her mother. I had an eating disorder when I was a teenager and eventually my mother put me into a treatment center and left me crying saying she was sorry but someday I’ll understand when I’m a mother. It didn’t magically cure me but it opened the door to a new mindset and though it was against my will, brought me back to health. I have a daughter myself now and I cannot understand how you can see your own child so horribly ill and not be doing everything in your power to help. Instead it’s like she encourages it.

[caitstenz]

I so appreciate Dane talking about how therapy is about doing the work. People often think therapy is a quick fix and get frustrated when it “isn’t working”. It’s about what you implement outside of appointments.

[poetryjones]

❤Guys - re: Eugenia’s “bullying” 20 years ago:
There is no knowing what this person has experienced in their home life before she even stepped into a schoolyard. For instance, a pretty sizable percentage of girls with eating disorders were sexually molested/abused at a young age. This happened to me at age 5 (a neighbor, father of two.)
The mother - something DEFINITELY wrong there, Mom is either in complete denial of her daughter’s deadly condition or (hate to think this but) she’s so enmeshed in her own narcissism she does not care. Her 30 year-old “kid” is raking in a lot of money.
The school bullying was what finally kicked off this poor woman’s descent into the hopeless Black Hole that is anorexia nervosa. I pray she and others find their way out. 🌹

[cosmicwitchclarith]

The fact she got admitted, gained weight, looked really cute and healthy (still scary thin but MUCH better) and then Shane comes in, shoves a camera in her face, she feels like "this is fine right?" And falls right back into her old habits is so sad. She was getting there and ended up right back where she started
Edit: I made this comment mid video and I agree her mom is the problem

[kaylamaebrown]

As someone who has been recovered from anorexia for a while and had it when Eugenia was just starting to take off, I can confirm that the entire eating disorder community romanticized her and glorified her body. And she knows that.

[Fubs_the_queen]

Dane on the verge of crying the entire time speaks to what a good heart he has. People need to learn from his empathy and kindness.

[GretchenKohl]

I suffered from anorexia and bulimia for years in my teens and 20s and still do to a degree. The words "you look sick" from someone is essentially transformed in our brains as "you are doing great! Keep at it." And yes - many times - "you look pretty." Too many people who are unfamiliar with the conditions assume it's all about looking pretty and body dysmorphia. They see a person who is self-obsessed. That is just the beginning. One main reason I was hooked is because I finally had control over something. Food was the one thing I felt I had control over and losing weight was something I was good at. Also, to be honest, I got a ton of attention and finally had a "label." I had a reason to wake up each day and only worried about my one goal. Starving also causes good endorphins to increase and after eating only a minuscule amount for a bit, your body stops asking for as much. The act of controlling your food intake and watching the pounds drop off becomes an addiction. The more weight you lose... the more weight you must lose. If you think about any other addiction, they can get sober and cease using their drug of choice. Anorexics/bulimics can't stop 'food.' That's the problem! And we must deal with food, whether we like it or not, to survive. I'll never really be normal with food again, but I am healthy, at least. ❤

[shoktek]

I'm actually genuinely surprised shes still alive. She's been like this a long time now.

[queen_kaetfree]

I think about the getting better part: I once asked my therapist "Why do I not want change my mood sometimes when I'm feeling sad. I just like sitting in the saddness" She told me it's cause we grow comfortable with it. It is sort of...our safe place. We know what's happening here.

[drnot]

The fact that she gained so much weight back in only a month or so of rehab is telling of how much nourishment her body is begging so desperately for. I feel so bad for her body: The anguish that it is in. I hope that somehow and before it is too late she gets the mental, psychological and physical help she needs.

[SodaPressingTV]

I remember seeing Eugenia at the more extreme part of her content creation when she went viral for being so thin, and I was struggling with an ED at that time myself and seeing her made me feel validated during that time. I was incredibly lucky that mine was caught earlier and at a point where I was still at a fairly safe weight but I remember being taken away from social media and any form of media for a long time outside of books. It helped a lot to not constantly have the feeling of doom looming over me from social media and the expectations I put on myself from them and the magazines I had seen everywhere I went since I could walk, and I remember seeing Eugenia again when she was gaining weight and getting back to a healthy point in her life and it was after I had gotten through my recovery and I was so happy and proud of her that it was all I could be excited over to my close friends for a while. But watching her go from looking happy and full of life to the point she's at again was really heart-wrenching to see and all I wanted was to help her somehow. Obviously, totally out of my abilities, but after that point I had to stop watching because I started worrying about relapsing myself after being free for so long. It is dangerous, and unfortunately it's not just her she's hurting with displaying this behavior to the world. She's encouraging this, albeit mostly unintentionally, as healthy and safe. And her mother never should have been able to care for her again after Eugenia left the hospital, she's clearly not caring about the serious problems that Eugenia could be and, honestly, probably is dealing with because of her Anorexia.