Singing Frustration - FEELING DISCOURAGED?

Singing Frustration - Feeling discouraged? It happens to all singers at times! I've been there! Let's discuss why you might be getting discouraged, what you can do about it, and if and when it is appropriate to take a break. For valuable singing tips and vocal technique, follow Victoria's Victorious Vocal Tips (serious technique made fun)!

0:00 Feeling discouraged? - intro
1:22 Discouragement - why and what to do
1:50 Are your goals realistic?
3:13 Recognize your progress, no matter how small. Breakthroughs can happen at any time!
4:15 Try to find joy in the daily discovery.
5:15 Don't compare your voice to others.
5:32 Perfection is a myth.
6:39 Keep up with your practice (even just the minimum)!
7:29 Should you take a short break?
9:15 Get help if you need it.
9:58 Victoria's Wisdom

I have taught thousands of singers in all styles for 30 years, and have studied voice for 42 years! I always explain everything in everyday language, besides being entertaining! My videos give you quick fixes as well as long-term solutions.

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[tsharabrown]

I would like to add one that helped me.

Do not expect to sound like a recording: Apart from the skills and training aspect, remember that most of the music we listen to is recorded in a studio, with multiple takes and sound editing. It will always sound amazing and consistent because it is a polished copy. We cannot expect our real voices to have this kind of perfect consistency, regardless of skill level.

[thaneyoung]

No one has been more discouraged than me. I have worked so hard on my vocals. I'm HIGH energy and I put lots of thought (it's all I think about) into this, and lots of effort. And over the last few years its' sounded discouragingly awful. I can say that, for me, today's frustration is tomorrow's breakthrough. I'm grateful for good instruction. I've got this singing stuff I'm my blood. I've been playing guitar all my life. I can honestly say that I'm getting closer and closer every day. I'm so grateful for instruction that works. I trust this teacher, I love her passion, and p;lease hang in there singing friends. We need to hear your song.

[kwk-rx]

It's been really hard practicing while living with other people. Even though they've all been cool with me singing, I get embarrassed while doing vocal warmups and it turns into throat tension. Luckily enough I'm about to move into my own apartment, so I gotta make the most out of this opportunity.

[vini_]

Wow I needed this! I love how some of these advices can apply to a bunch of other things, like painting/drawing, etc. Perfection indeed is a joy killer

[Johnhasa]

What you said about comparing your progression is very true. Last year I could not reach notes i can sing now. I still can't sing a full fledged range, but I'm getting there!

[tracyheath]

This has to be the best video I have watched concerning singing. I feel like a ton of pressure has just been lifted. Sometimes, we can be our worst bully! I can take a deep breath in and relax....new day perspective. Thank you!

[evelinasirbumusic]

I'm so grateful I found this video!
I have been taking singing lessons for two years and yet I manage to sing only in my room because I am so afraid and discouraged!
Thank you for your wonderful words!

[sinhueherrera]

I love your videos! And I can definitely relate to this video, I started practicing last year, I’m 31 and sometimes I feel kind of discouraged cause I feel like I’ll never progress but then I notice the small things that have improved and become a good habit now, so I kind of get encouraged again by it haha

Thank you for sharing your knowledge ❤️❤️

[slaterastle]

I'm applying to grad school, and let me tell you. If I get in, I'll know I couldn't have done it without your videos. Thank you very much for everything you do, teaching the truth is something every teacher tries and believes they are doing but they don't always succeed.

[coffeebreakswithjoannie]

Thank you for all these practical tips you've shared, Ms. Victoria! I've been feeling so frustrated all these months practicing and feeling unhappy... so, bumping into your video really lifted my spirits. :)

[charliejohnson]

Thank you for the encouragement as this can be applied to so many other things, not just singing. This was very helpful and muchly appreciated. Thank you Thank you Thank you.

[kralvltavin]

Thank you for this string of wise pearls. I really appreciate your reiterating the idea of keeping the fun in singing. I found that since I started training under your instruction that singing started becoming very technical and I was starting to lose the joy I had singing before I started learning all this.

This video is so serendipitous. I was just having self talk about this very thing. You're an Angel.

[lilycwurn]

You are so personable and authentic! LOL 🤣 "I like to eat and I like to wear cute clothes" Totally on the same page with you on this one!

[myrtofeli]

You words are so self empowering when I need them. Thank you❤

[JordanPringle]

You make me feel like i would love to sit in the room and listen to you talk, your a good speaker and lovley personality!

[olderendirt]

Very good things to remember. I think I'll watch again and take notes so it will sink in better. I appreciate your encouragement. Thank you!

[cayrenonative]

Victoria you have really helped me out of my depression with my voice since I’ve been without training for a few years. I sound great and everything ur saying in this video is spot on for a healthy relationship building with ourselves and our unique instrument. Seriously

[ariesheart]

Oh really you’re not just a vocal specialist but indeed a great pshicologist … you did know everyone’s experiencing time-out 👍 or giving up (ready again) mam!🤗

[d-boy]

Absolutely inspiring and I needed to hear this! ❤ Thank You !

[stchannel]

Thank you for the pep talk! The problem is is that people expect to become a singer overnight. I realized years ago that it was a lifetime journey. I stopped beating myself up years ago. When I get discouraged I go back to the basics and start with the breathing and jaw positioning etc. Years ago I hated my voice coz people told me I sounded like a guy. I envied the girls who had sweet and cute voices but now I actually like my voice coz I don’t sound like everyone else. I’ve always had trouble with the high notes and always strained and always got sore throats but ever since I began practicing with your videos my throat doesn’t get sore and my jaw is more relaxed . I don’t strain as much now. It’s a small accomplishment but it’s a big accomplishment for me. Thank you very much.