Why You Should Never Make Compromises in a Relationship

Why You Should Never Make Compromises in a Relationship. Do you want to know why you should never make a compromise in a Relationship? In this video I'm going to show you why you should never make a compromise in a relationship.

So often, when you ask a couple, that has been married for a long time, what the key to a successful relationship is, they will say: Compromise. #Compromise is often treated like the sacred cow of relationships. But it’s time for this outdated idea to come to an end. It’s time for people to change their definition of what a successful relationship is. And to see that if you want a #relationship that feels good, compromise is to be #intentionally avoided.

Chapters:
0:00 Intro
1:23 Compromise and Codependency
2:25 Re-defining Compromise
4:06 Problem #1 with Compromise
5:15 Problem #2 with Compromise
6:15 Sacred Cow of Relationships
7:04 Example of why Compromise is a Problem
8:26 Alternative to Compromise: Win-Win & Compatibility
11:03 Compatibility And Flexibility
12:22 Compromise and Bait-and-switch

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[alessandramia]

I've seen a few triggered comments because this ideal is so deeply imbedded in society. Compromise is the enemy of compatibility. It's like when you're dehydrated and you drink soda instead of water. Yeah, it's liquid but you'll still end up thirsty. Love has been this self sacrifical ideal for centuries, and it can turn relationships into an ecosystem of resentment, keeping score, settling, and losing your own sense of autonomy if/when it ends. Some people stay in incompatible relationships because they don't want to be alone, think they won't find someone else, refuse to change, or use the other person as an excuse to not go after what they want. Love itself is not painful; Putting someone elses needs above your own is. This video was spot on. Thank you for always speaking the truth, even if it ruffles a few feathers because it refutes the societal norm.

[truthseer]

Omgosh the answer to the question that’s been bugging me for a while, ‘why does the pain not bother me enough to leave’. Now I get it, I associate love with pain.

[antor]

Insanely exclusionist framework immediately made me wonder if that person has been/ stayed in relationships for a long time

[plantspiracy]

This is the main thing I realized after my divorce and try to tell others. Compromise is allowing your partner to cross a boundary and that is not what a respectful partner does.

[MandyJRoss]

If you're reading this I'm praying something amazing happens for you today.🙏🏻❤

[queserasera]

I completely agree. I found a partner who I'm compatible with, and, in comparison to all of my past relationships, it's easy to avoid compromise because we're both on the same page. In the rare instances that we're not, we find a solution that we're both happy with. Great video, thank you!!

[uzimachi]

I stopped compromising as soon as I stopped chasing, I feel to seek our passions in life will allign us with a proper partner. But when we pretend to be something we're not, we end up unhappy.

[schoolofhot]

We’re still in the love matrix. Most people are with their partners in western countries because they were physically drawn to them, in Eastern countries because their parents were drawn to them... or it’s out of security, loneliness etc... we need to start basing romantic relationships on compatibility. But that’s not yet the norm... so we wait with bated breath.

[itskelvinkkc]

Please make a video on how to actually find someone compatible for a relationship! Thanks Teal Swan

[jaynebarry]

Everything Teal says is so incredibly valuable, but I wish she would qualify the heck out of some of her labels and instructions. For example, today’s lesson is really about ignoring incompatibility using compromise and how destructive it is. She is not saying never compromise on small things in a highly compatible relationship. Just wish this was reflected in the title, and she opened with it. I see she is trying to provoke and entice, to get people interested, but am concerned it is not having that effect. Teal, your work is too valuable, please consider a slightly different expression. The more of us you reach, the better. ❤

[EmyN]

"Resentment is a corrosive force" so true!

[GreeceKelly]

It's just that feeling good in a relationship is seen by many as "wanting it all" or "asking for too much" when it's actually the reason you would be in one

[joncolunga]

Obviously there cannot be 100% compatibility in any relationship for every single thing, but I believe she is talking about the larger more important things that generally come into play for every relationship

[hillsburghsangel]

Compromise is sacrificing your personality and your passions to make your partner comfortable and fit in. If we have to do that, the relationship is not compatible and likely both partners still struggle with childhood adaptive mechanisms, where we were taught to share and hand over our toys when someone else wants them. In a true adult relationship, neither partner expects the other to bend to their will. Instead, we celebrate each other’s personalities, likes and passions and we allow each other to further develop in our own ways. We are after all, still individuals.

[faye_bulous]

Compromise is the enemy of harmony. It’s not what you do for the relationship. It’s how feel about what you do for the relationship ❤️

[linhbanh]

We've been brain-washed to believe that love is continuous sacrifices but that belief would ruin in the most compatible relationships because it quickly builds resentment.

[silverknight]

After listening to a lot of people complain about modern day marriages and how there should always be struggle in relationships, I'm more than grateful that you've touched on this topic.

[truthseer]

Teal, I love how you deliver your messages. - No bullshiz - straight to the point

[xtremesports]

Super interesting. Now I understand why I don't compromise with someone I date, and that I don't want them to compromise for me, and I do that instinctively. Thank you Teal!

[sarahjensen]

I'm glad you're teaching people to be proud of this. As a person with disabilities, it is essential for me to know ahead of time who will be a douchebag when I tell them I'm not feeling well and need to adapt to my changing limitations. Maybe the secret to lasting relationships is that people who don't see everything as winning or losing have a healthy attitude toward dealing with inevitable changes.