What Are The Signs Of Verbal Abuse?

Verbal abuse is a form of emotional abuse that can leave deep scars on a person's psyche. Unlike physical abuse, it can be difficult to recognize and often goes unnoticed. In this video, we explore the signs of verbal abuse and how to identify them. We discuss the different forms of verbal abuse, including name-calling, belittling, gaslighting, and threatening, and their impact on victims.

We also delve into the psychological effects of verbal abuse, including low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Learn how to spot the red flags of verbal abuse in yourself or others and what steps to take to get help and support.

Whether you're a survivor of verbal abuse, a concerned friend or family member, or just curious about the topic, this video offers a comprehensive guide to understanding the impact of words and the signs of verbal abuse.

Writer: Paula C
Script Editor: Michal Mitchell
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Thumbnail Artist Krisha Que
Thumbnail Manager: Michal Mitchell
Animator: Kayla
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

References
Evans, P. (2010). The verbally abusive relationship: How to recognize it and how to respond. New York, NY: Adams Media.
Levinson, S. (2019). Euphoria. whole, Culver City, California; Home Box Office, Inc.

[Psychgo]

If you could be anywhere in the world right now, where would you be and why?

[linnflame]

Invisible abuse follows you, even when the abuser is not there. You take on their behaviour as your own, speak cruely to yourself, gaslight yourself, abandon yourself, overstep your own boundaries, even when the abuser is long gone. Invisible abuse is also just an attitude, an energy towards someone. Constantly being afraid. Even just my mothers evil, black eyes looking at me sent shivers down my spine, made me hide, want to disappear, and made me believe I was unworthy of being here.

[petezahut]

the worst part about being verbally abused is that that person who abuses you also manipulates you, so before you can tell that person he makes something sweet for you, changing your mind into thinking you're just exaggerating

[Aan]

Timestamps
1). Criticism: constructive or destructive 1:37
2). Hurtful names 2:59
3). Yelling and swearing 3:48
4). Laughing with you or at you 4:30
5). Under control 5:12

Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[Iamflamingosrule]

"I can see why your ex-husband used to beat you" ... "Anything I said when we're arguing doesn't count so you just need to get over it" ... and the list just keeps on growing

[mochijuice]

It hurts more when some people say Verbal Abuse isn’t Abuse. Even though it doesn’t hurt or show or Last physically, it still has lasting damage. And also because it’s verbal abuse and people don’t think it is serious, victims tend to hide it to themselves even more, adding the amount of exposure and time they have to this form of abuse. Hence, so many of these last and can never be ceased, that’s the sadistic nature of current society’s lack of care for verbal abuse victims, very sad.

[titanqueen]

I found this at just the right time. My therapist told me today that the way my grandmother treated me was emotionally abusive, which I had a hard time believing at first because she never hit me, but after my psych evaluation, she wants to refer me to a therapist specialising in emotional abuse. It’s funny because I’ve seen countless family members be abused, and I’ve always encouraged them to get away from their abusers, and I couldn’t recognise that I was being abused myself until my therapist spelled it out for me.

[annarosales]

My siblings and I were verbally abused by my mother growing up. We knew that it was wrong. But we endured it and did the opposite thing that she accused us of. So when she passed a few months after I finished my MBA, I was devastated bec she will never know that she was so wrong about me and my sibs.

[alaaesong]

My ex used to tell me all the time about how "your cooking is fucking horrible, even I could do better" or "if you eat that, you're gonna need to exercise twice as much to get rid of the calories".

The amount of times I got told "it's not that bad why are you overreacting to his constructive criticism was insane. There was nothing constructive about, it was meant to demoralise and degrade me.

[avidhossanmansur]

Verbal Abuse: Insults, harsh words such as name calling and cursing, slandering someone, threats, harrasment.

Side Effects of verbal abuse: Every harsh word that was purposely spoken about you and to you with the intent to harm or hurt you replays over and over in your head making it hard to tell if it's happening again. Causing headaches, lots of tears, praying to God to make it go away and isolation.

Mental abuse: Mistreating someone on purpose and any kind of negative way because they are different than you are. Provoking someone to anger and harassing them until they blow up and then making them feel bad for finally getting fed up. Blaming the victim of abuse by saying it's there fault because they are addicts or weak or to sensitive or take handle harsh repetitive criticism. Gaslighting

Side Effect: Rage, depression, questioning yourself, nightmares, low self esteem, confusion, SUICIDAL thoughts, wondering if you are crazy and deserving of being mistreated, isolation, trying to change who u are to prevent others from harming you or faked I'm okay role play, Most importantly you beat yourself up mentally trying to fix something that inside of yourself that is not there but exist in the person or people who love to justify abuse or blame the victim for being crazy because they no the difference between cruel, hate, mistreatment and being targeted to the point of a mental breakdown

Emotional abuse: When someone does or say things that they know will hurt you, trouble you or cause u to act in a negative or even a positive way that is pleasing to them or will make you appear crazy or out of control

Side Effects from emotional abuse: Isolation, depression, fear, aches and pain, crying tears of anger and tears of pain and questioning, fighting to hold back being evil or vengeful, lots of praying, headaches, SUICIDAL thoughts and attempts because you rather leave and die than to stay alive and harm someone else, at this point death seems to be mote peaceful than sharing a planet with people who find joy in harming others. Weight gain or weight loss and etc.!

P.S I've been a victim of all of this and then some and have even gotten so confused and no one to talk to or understand it that I overdose and felt Jesus was the only one who could give me the answer as to why and healing but to me death and heaven was the only way. Talking about mental breakdown right being fed up with holding so much I'm for so long and walking through life wearing mask with a smile plastered on it. Yet hiding so much pain, fear, addiction and more. Why because people are comfortable when u are happy and when u act like evil and harsh things don't break u but make you stronger n grow. Crazy does a flower still grown after you step on it and break it down? No u might can save it for a short time but as a human being and a vessel when someone breaks you u will never ever be able to be the same again. And people who has been through all of this is expected to remain the same sorry that's a lie and something abuser would like the victim or others to be. Remember the axe forgets but the tree remembers.

[neofulcrum]

I’m learning to be more stoic from harmful words. As someone who’s gone through emotional and mental abuse from verbal manners growing up. It’s like I couldn’t turn off the feelings of inadequacy.

[xiaoxi-chelsea-akiko]

Those manipulative abuser often condition their victims to think their verbal abuse as “educational” and “helpful, ” let them feel ashamed to say “we got hurt.” One time I even hurt them saying “you should feel happy to have such a ‘wonderful’ person in your life to point out your flaws, so you can be better.”

[Vitamin_D]

I got out of my marriage and have been feeling conflicted about it for years. This video really validates part of my reasoning for leaving. For the first time I can really see that in fact I was in an abusive relationship, even though it was never really physical, and that I wasn't selfish for leaving. Thank you x

[jwanie]

The first point is the most important one for me. I feel there are so many people on the Internet who can’t tell the difference between constructive and destructive criticism. They just think any criticism is constructive even if it’s something like “This game f***ing sucks and the developers should be fired for not giving me what I wanted”

[jorienwachukwu]

I'm going through this right now. My father is very verbally abusive towards me. He always blows up at me at the littlest things, he'll talk to me in a very demeaning and condescending way and he often at times just says things that are very hurtful and make me feel very bad about myself, and whenever I call him out on what he does, he'll just go and make me the bad guy. It's really hard dealing with this and it's getting to a point where I'm just feeling like I'm gonna either shut down or explode.

[nickna]

I went through a maelstrom of all of this as a child. Being bullied in school, absent semi strict parents, and a borderline psychopathic brother. Family and peers always yelling at you or name calling, just not caring about how their actions affect you. It has affected me in so many ways. I have no idea how to begin to heal

[MaxGamerwastaken]

Ive been having a 3 month long internal debate, and now I know that my dad does a unique kind of verbal abuse. He never uses the same sentence twice, but the idea behind them is generally the same. If I'm ever so much as late to school, things can get... loud. If anyone says anything negative about him things either get physical (which has luckily only happened once) or he finds something to take away from you. I've had many reasons to believe he is a dark empath. In front of others, he puts on a perfect illusion of a happy family (and forces us to do the same), but at home, there is no predicting what could happen. But whatever it is, you better do well at it, cause if you don't you'll probably lose internet for the weekdays. Not like school is much better. For some, home is bad enough that school is the break. For most, home is the break. For me, there is no break. Everything is that bad.

[amit_patel]

My older sister basically did all of this to me growing up and even in my adult life. Thank God I don't speak to her anymore. She led me to suicide 2 years ago, but God saved me.

[duckgaming]

I'm always verbally abused no joke every day all day

[Shinosukelife]

i guess i now know the reason for my anxiety and stress everyday thank you.