28. Why Aren’t You Dating? Overcoming Fears and Finding Love

Welcome back to Your Southern Lesbian with your host, Ashley Hydrick! In this heartfelt and humorous episode, Ashley tackles the question many of us avoid: Why aren’t you dating?

Drawing from her personal experiences, including years of self-reflection and learning after painful breakups, Ashley explores:

The stories we tell ourselves that keep us stuck.
How to recognize and move past fear-based patterns.
The importance of vulnerability and growth in relationships.
Practical tools for stepping back into the dating pool after 50.
Whether you’re happily single or secretly yearning for connection, this episode is packed with insights, laughter, and relatable moments.

Join the conversation in the comments:
Are you single by choice, or are fears holding you back?
What’s your biggest obstacle to opening your heart again?
💬 Let’s grow together as we embrace love, one step at a time.

FURTHER READING:
"Let Them" by Mel Robbins
"Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents" by Lindsay C. Gibson PsyD
"Boundary Boss" by Terri Cole
"Worthy" by Jamie Kern Lima
"Complex PTSD" by Pete Walker
"8 Rules of Love" by Jay Shetty

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[Radiancegrace]

Your content brought on the tears this evening as though you reached into my soul with your words and touched the core. No coincidence and as though the better part of my mind is mirrored back to me. Here is a quote that arose immediately after watching you by Khalil Gibran : “ out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.” I feel grateful then to have come thru such toxicity 🙏

[ChrissieCaulfield]

I’m not dating, not because of my last breakup - I’m quite happy about it - but because the apps just don’t work. I’ve been on 3 apps (paid options) for a year now and had just 2 text conversations (not dates, in-app chats) all of which fizzled to nothing. The apps are upside down for people my age, nobody is going to look at my photo and want to date me, I need to get to know people first and find attraction that way. I’m trying to get to as many meet-ups as I can, but I’m not good socially so I don’t really know how I can make that work either tbh, I suppose I’m just hoping something might happen. This is H.A.R.D., and way beyond my skill-set it seems.