How Consent is More Than Just a Question and an Answer | Cheryl Bradshaw | TEDxQueensU

[potunny]

how come this video doesn't have more views?

[michaelck]

Cheryl gives personalized male and female examples of false, forced, traumatizing consent. She explains how this trauma happens wonderfully using her survival house. I suggest everyone view her video, - Do You "Overreact" and Don't Know Why? To further explore the survival house. It is on YouTube

Thank you, Cheryl, for this forceful, important, eye opening talk 🙂

[justynafrackowiak]

What a great way to empower young men and women. I feel this information is transferable to many different situations where we have to make difficult decisions.

[skigirl]

This is such a great video to help everyone understand the complexities of consent!

[rajsreevijayan]

I feel every word you spoke Cheryl . Thank you !

[salzfliesel]

wow, this really opened my eyes! I have done several things wrong on this front, but i always shook it off because the other person could have simply said no.
I mean, it surely is tempting to put the responsibility in the hands of the other person, especially if they only have to say out two letters.

only now do i realize, that i never really tried to understand, why they didn't just say no.

At this point, i am wondering: Would it help, if i contacted those i failed on? Would it benefit them in any way knowing, that i now know what was going on inside of them, and what i did to them, and why i didn't know better?

I would love to hear your opinions and advise

[rachelsummers]

i’ve been scouring for videos about this following the end of a tough relationship, and this is finally the one to help me understand things that happened. Thank you so much for this, it’s an incredibly important watch

[lessismore]

Finally… the answer to why some people “freeze” in these situations instead of using “fight or flight”. Thank you.

[morgancooper]

This message provided context and healing to old wounds.
A must watch. Thank you for doing your work and having the courage to share it.

[ellenhendricks]

THIS IS THE VIDEO I'VE BEEN LOOKING FOR THANK YOU SO MUCH 💖💖💖💖💖💖

[doublethomas]

Just watched this and really appreciate it, found it very informative. As a guy I was never taught this level of consent before and that's probably almost every guy as well which is a shame. I'm looking forward to applying HOTSPICE to future relationships.

[SarahParkesCoaching]

Thank you for your very informative talk.

[louisemcknoulty]

The best consent discussion I’ve found so far. Thank you so much

[Pharetra]

Beautiful work Cheryl, this talk is informative, personal, and impactful. Lots of food for thought and learning.

[DaRyteJuan]

It’s all the more devastating when the perpetrator is a female physician who’s more than 10 years younger than you and was someone you admired.

It’s beyond the cruelest thing because she was so good at causing such a deep trauma bond. I don’t think anything can undo the harm she’s caused.

[saranotenboom]

Such an important talk. Cheryl, thank you for your vulnerability and passion for getting this important information out in the world.

[yvesackermann]

I was 20, a girl asked me if she could kiss me. I said no. She kissed me anyway. The next morning I thought it was funny. I was 25, I walked a girl back to her place. She kissed me, as I did not even thought she would and I did not want it at first place. The next morning I was happy I could be the source of her moment of happyness. I never thought about it as bad. Why this? She liked me and did not mean no harm.

[CMG]

So good and such valid information thank you! 🙏🏼🙌🏼

[daisykosa]

Great talk! Thank you for your careful attention to this critical topic

[ericasmith]

Incredible work, Cheryl. I look forward to recommending it to my clients.