The hidden cost of keeping the peace with a narcissist

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[youngblood]

Who ever said "It doesn't cost anything to be kind", was never involved with a narcissist.

[youngblood]

Sometimes it's unavoidable, when you avoid conflict to keep the peace, you start a war within yourself.

[NarcSurvivor]

Keeping the peace with a narcissist may save you from arguments or problems initially. But with time, they will begin to see you as a pushover. As someone they can walk all over. You have to be firm with narcissists. You can’t keep the peace with them. They don’t want peace.

[nicolehayes]

I lost almost 5 decades of my life due to this battle or game with my narc mother and that entire sick family unit. I took my power back on 11/14/2024. I packed my bags, took my daughter and dog and walked away in silence with my head held high! I may have lost every single battle but I won the freaking war! 💯❤️✌️🙏💪🌹

[nonawolf]

Children have it the worst. Their very survival depends on keeping the peace with a Narc Parent. We are trained to gaslight ourselves from a very early age, and it changes the person you could have been. 💔

[sparkygump]

The cost of peace with a narc is your self respect.

[catme]

In the middle of this hell right now. It is like hell in the mind because of the conflict of empathy, self-deprecating, and depression. It is like being caught in a web.

[sushmayen]

Whatever you do it's a waste of time and effort. Keep them out of your mind to keep the peace.

[MetamorphosizedMon]

Chaotic people love chaos. Choose not to feed into it. You are worth more than their insecurities and battles within. ❤ Hope everyone's healing.

[AAron-grjk]

It's walking on egg-shells, constantly predicting in your head how something will go with the narc, it's feelings of Dread when you are near them or the home.

[belindablunderbus]

I'm currently the truth sayer in a friend group with a narc. After 40 odd years of covert narcissistic abuse, ain't no way I'm spending my leisure time with another one of these asshats.

[melisentiapheiffer]

I was the person who used to give in to the narcissist demands. I have not done that for a full two years, so I got the silent treatment for two years! There's no way in hell I'm giving in again.

[charlesdavid-py]

This captivating video triggers a flood of painful memories from the end of my 6-year relationship just three months ago. The woman I loved with all my heart chose to walk away, leaving me grappling with an insurmountable sense of loss. Despite my relentless efforts to salvage what we had, I'm left feeling disillusioned and unable to imagine a future without her. Despite my attempts to move on, I'm drawn to express my deep-seated longing for her here .

[victoryamartin]

I liked when you contrasted how healthy people respond to your stated needs, because I forget what that sounds like. I've been in so many toxic relationships that denied my needs that I don't even have room inside for my own needs to exist. I don't even have language for expressing a need w/o also hearing the inner critic telling me, "That's selfish." Even my church has told me I'm being too self-absorbed and just "need" to die to myself when I ask for prayer and help getting the Christian squatters to stop abusing me and leave my house.

[ursulareeg]

Not worth it.
Too much damage done.
I blocked cell/ email. No more abusive / hateful responses/attacks lies or misrepresented comments. Still hurts but your videos give me insight to them ( i never knew such calculating behavior existed. Boy, where have i been) and to me. Thank you.

[denisdenno]

Tears though!!
Being a step father , cost of schooling, cost of raising the bigger family, expensive lifestyles, tours, loss of friends, family turned upside down, costly therapy sessions and all went to the drain.
Walked away after 5 yrs.Hell shall be full of narcs.
Thanks Dr. Ramani for everything.
Much love from Kenya.

[lindamcwilliams]

You hit the nail on the head when you mentioned it being a scam. It’s a reality that I had to come to and accept. They will use you until you have nothing else to give.

[mylord]

I first discovered Dr Ramani in 2019, because I was living in a state of utter chaos and confusion. I literally just googled a string of words: "manipulation lying rage blaming others" and these videos were at the top of the results. Since then I have been slowly extricating myself from an extremely dysfunctional and toxic family system. As painful as it has been to live in awareness, it is so much less painful than living in the permanent confusion and fear of a narcissistically abusive relationship. However, the clarity isn't what brought me comfort. Strangely enough, what finally brought me peace was the realization that I needed to do something I had secretly always wanted to: give up hope that things would ever change, and just leave. It's the hardest lesson but it's the only way to get back to yourself

[RobinSpeer]

The mental gymnastics to formulate a simple request to my narc is sheer exhaustion! I am often met with a resentful stare and I just shake my head. I don't ask for much (rinse the tub after showering, stop at the grocery store less than a mile a way to pick up some random thing I forgot) but apparently to him; it's too much.

[northerngaltrue]

Thank you. This is so valuable. You get tired of well meaning but naive people going “well it takes two to tango” when the N has lost his mind, trashing you and blaming you for a fight he baited and INTENDED to make. I turned myself inside out. I made myself invisible and things got worse. I’m climbing out of the hole I’ve created for myself.