TO NAME IT IS TO TAME IT: Hard left, right, center, choices. #Shorts

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Love, care, empathy and compassion are great but so are toughness and boundary setting, not being taken advantage of. Here’s how we can grow into the challenge of managing that tension.
Hard left: Love solves everything.
Hard right: Ouch! I got played. Toughness solves everything.
Hard center: Ouch! People fight back. Tough love is the answer.
Hard choices: Ouch! The middle way isn’t a win-win. Tough love is the question. When to be tough, when to be loving? Where to humor and accommodate where to set firm uncompromising boundaries. For hard choices, you need a clutch pedal between your empathy and generosity. You’ve got to try to understand folks whether you’re going to help or fight them. But you can’t afford to understand them if it automatically compels you to help them. I want to empathize with everyone but I can’t afford to help everyone. So I need that clutch pedal so I can understand them and still be tough with them if necessary.

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Jeremy Sherman PhD studies human nature from the chemical origins of life to our current situation He tries to make a gap-free scientific approach to understanding ourselves more easy and useful to our everyday lives, feelings, thoughts and actions. For 26 years, Jeremy Sherman PhD has collaborated closely with Harvard/Berkeley neuroscientist and biological anthropologist Terrence Deacon.
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This is crucial stuff. Thanks for publishing this.