'Thank U, Next': Are dating apps messing with our heads? - BBC

Will is a serial swiper, Alvin says he’s addicted, and Meggy is about to give up. Dating apps are everywhere, but how do they affect our mental health? Follow three people on their dating journeys, hear from psychotherapist Denise about what these apps might be doing to us, and learn how to use to them better.

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[googleuser]

I hate dating apps, I was on tinder and I'd definitely recommend it if you enjoy being rejected 😂

[sutats]

Don't waste your time with dating apps, get out there and live.

[ET_HOMIE_HOMIE]

I've forced myself to go meet people in real life and with enough approaching, it's become far less nerve-racking than it use to be. Real face to face introductions are the way to go folks.

[ByronHawk]

I'm tired of dating apps, been on them a couple of years with over 100 matches and still single it gets tiring and repetitive to spend hours chatting getting to know someone and next thing they ignore you and you're back to swiping for it all to happen again and again

[weltschmertzz]

Online dating doesn't work for me. I feel like it's forced and conversations are repetitive for the most part.

[jessicaholting]

I don’t like dating apps at all and how normalized they are. If you even mention that you would like to date the first thing people say is “Why don’t you try online dating?” No one says join a group, take a class or ask someone out.

[spaceheadlin]

Can I just say I want to give Meggy a hug. It breaks my heart to see her so sad.

[joeltm]

It’s more like the kinds of people who would get onto a dating app for hours at a time were already messed up in their heads.

[robbiemontgomery]

These apps profit from people's loneliness and misery. Do yourself a favour and get off your phone and get outdoors. Do something productive. Meaningful friendships and relationships aren't found on the internet.

[westsideisdabest]

Course they are, people are getting anxiety over not getting messages back from people they've never even met.

[Just-SomeGuy]

It's this laughing at dating apps that is the crux of the problem. No-one wants to actually take responsibility for their actions, but only laugh at things like 'breadcrumbing.'

Well how about stop laughing at awful dating experiences and start taking dating more seriously and not playing all the childish tricks everyone else is.

It's not all just a laugh, it's someone's emotions you are playing with, and all for your own selfish indulgence.

[of.]

Just keep your boundaries and keep your self safe. Don’t sell yourself short on apps and don’t give too much of yourself away so soon. I think we all see the red flags and we all need to take responsibility for it. I mean we are the users of these apps. It’s not the best place but it is a tool to meet others.

[BEder-itlf]

Every Dating Service I tried was fake in the US.

[neveragain]

My ex was addicted to these apps. I finally dumped her after 7 years.

[triplek]

For the four years i have spent on dating apps am really tired of them as a young man aged 26 from Uganda i thought that dating apps will help but things haven’t worked out am only meeting scammers

[daSparrow]

As a female, I think it depends on the personality of the person on the app.. if you're the type that prioritizes "looks" first, then chances are you will struggle finding that perfect partner (guy) that fits your liking... in my case I preferred not seeing the guy physically and focus more on how we would converse and learn about each other that way (like a blind date type of approach) then you can clearly see through how they converse if they are bored, messing with you, trying to scam you, or are genuine 😊 I was on OKcupid for less than a month and found my partner, who is now my fiancee, and we've been together over 7years now...

P.S. I do not agree with how Tinder works (the quick swipe right/left) as compared to OKCupid before, Tinder is highly dependent on physical looks which I think overshadows the real personality, and it makes finding a partner harder...

[BalboaBaggins]

Why don't they EVER interview average Joe's?

[NibberKSmooth]

That Grindr guy is best off loving himself, he's worryingly narcissistic.

[leigh]

As a man I used dating apps a lot and had many flings over the years. The issue is, if you sleep with 30, 40, 50 people, you just end up jaded and stop caring about dates or sex. I had to take a break as I was so burnt out. Its not natural to date and sleep with so many people.

[MattyFurious]

Is this a new episode of Black Mirror?