Atheist couple take a Girl Defined relationship quiz.

#atheist #exevangelical

I’ve conned Genetically Modified Skeptic into taking a Girl Defined Relationship Quiz with me! It’s … uh, interesting.

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[theantibot]

Thank you everyone who let us know lentils are toxic uncooked! No need to comment more about that. He’ll no longer be doing that 😂

[harperwalker]

Her: Don't be obsessed with boys.
Me: Okay... (is a lesbian)
Her: Not like that!

[eliskakordulova]

I live in central Europe and American christianity is still so strange to me. Way too literal and constrictive. I actually for the longest time thought christianity shown in the US media was satirical/exaggerated on purpose. I'm happy for you two to have found your way out of that.

[killerqueendopamine]

It was so cute how Taylor asked “do I have any personal habits that might annoy others?” And Drew chimes in, “you hiccup REALLY loudly.” That was so pure. I wish that were my annoying habit lol

[mainecoonmami]

Girl defined stands for every rule that caused trauma in my life.

[apezplays]

I love how the more these videos are made the more we realize Drew is actually just a goblin

[mbs]

I honestly believe that asking about the food preferences is so that she’s prepared to cook him his favorite meals 😬

[hannahw]

I agree with Drew about being much less obsessed with porn after deconverting. I used to watch/read a ton of yaoi, porn, and fanfiction. Even informational videos or books from school about sex and reproduction I dove head first into. I was fantizing all the time about it, and writing my own little pervy stories. I often felt guilty, and tried to stop whenever I got spooked about hell... but eventually I went right back to it anyway.
It was only when I deconverted and started having sex and experimenting did I stop being so obsessed by it. Sex isn't this mystical magical thing anymore. Now that I'm so regularly satisified physically and mentally sexually, I don't asorb as much porn/eroctica nearly as much as I used to.

[beckyeastham]

The stuff about movies is hilarious. As an atheist, my mom felt exactly the opposite about R-rated movies: violence was not okay, nudity was fine. It’s just so weird that Christian parents seem to feel the exact opposite way.

[Maryfs]

"What does cleave mean to you?"

Me: Nothing until you add "age" to the end.

[roobard]

Even as a brainwashed Christian in a cult-like environment, I was so angry that I was the lesser sex for not having a penis. I'm an afab trans person and it was honestly traumatizing to have an identity I didn't resonate with forced upon me along with being told that that identity was lesser than the one I felt like I was. If all that makes sense. I'm so glad I'm out of that environment.

[rascal]

I love how genuine you two are. A lot of christian couples have this sort of? fake sweetness to them? especially on camera. But the dynamic between you both feels very real and easy. If I find a partner outside of the church one day, I hope we have a relationship like this.

[AChickandaDuck]

Drew’s answer to the favorite book question reminded me of a guy I dated in college who told me “I think reading fiction is a waste of time.” I was an English major 🤣

[Emymagdalena]

The diet/food question may have been from the idea of: can, I, as your wife, cook what you like.

[mirandarensberger]

Being alone with someone of the opposite sex is giving me such flashbacks to Mike Pence. So many people pointed out that for a man in his position to refuse to be in a room with a woman was inherently going to leave women out of opportunities to be heard, to advance themselves, or to have any kind of power or influence. I guess Pence didn't see that as a problem.

Also, this rule makes very little sense if either partner is bi. If the goal is to avoid cheating (and you can't just trust your partner not to cheat?), then theoretically you couldn't trust a bi person not to cheat with someone of the same gender either. But I'm sure bi people don't even exist in Girl Defined's world, so this point wouldn't even occur to them.

[dalailarose]

I don't have much parasocial attachment to you as individuals, but I'm kind of invested in your marriage, lol 😅 It's just really cool that you married as Christians, but your compatibility was so strong that even though you changed a lot over the years after marrying young, you grew in the same direction. & the fact that it took you a bit longer to become an atheist makes it seem more organic & authentic, & not just the result of spousal influence/pressure (altho your religious family may disagree 😛)

[ohdearnadia]

23:12 Just a note that raw lentils can cause serious digestive issues. I'd recommend cooking the lentils to break down the lectin in them and prevent toxic reactions.

[goatsiahthelegend]

1:03:00 That was the biggest culture shock once I left Christianity was the music. I was only listening to music by Christian artists and I was extra cringe cuz I was into the Christian metal, hip hop, rock. It was odd for sure. I viewed music as a tool that was only to be used for worship, so secular musicians worshiped everything to my former mind. I’m still a metal head but finding out all of the music that’s out there is so huge for me.

[heyoitslysso]

“I personally don’t struggle with these topics, I just exceed at those things.” I choked on my food, thanks 😂😂😂

[austinluther]

Thanks for explaining the Christian-specific questions. I'm an atheist that was raised in a secular household so a lot of these aspects of evangelical Christian culture are still foreign to me.

My parents did teach my brother and I about various religions, especially Christianity, but their reason was because it comes up a lot in history and literature. So it helps to know what the text is referring to, whether outright or through metaphor.

I actually thought that the Christian Bible was just another set of mythology that no one believed anymore; it's just the stories of cultures of the past. My parents had to sit me down when I was about 8 and explain that most people in the world believe in some type of deity when they realized that I thought church was a sort of book club that also did ceremonial reenactments.