What It Means To Be A Gentleman Today

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The term gent or gentleman has become ubiquitous in magazines, blogs and on TV. Overall it is used for all kinds of men and it’s very hard to tell what the meaning actually is and what it entails.

The Original Gentleman
1. A man of high social status and wealth
2. A polite or formal way to refer to a man.
3. A man of noble birth or someone of a royal household.
4. A man of good social standing or a member of the House of Commons.
5. A man with a general good societal position.

We came up with 11 hallmarks of a gentleman today.
02:23 A gentleman is imperfect.
02:36 A gentleman has high standards.
02:48 A gentleman is well dressed.
03:08 A gentleman has good manners.
03:30 A gentleman is open minded.
03:54 A gentleman is interested and informed.
04:18 A gentleman’s actions match his words.
04:35 A gentleman treats people with respect.
04:56 A gentleman recognizes the difference between arrogance and confidence.
05:16 A gentleman wheels his power purposefully.
05:31 A gentleman gives the benefit of a doubt to other people.

Being a gentleman sets a very high bar and it's not a definitive thing. It’s a lifetime pursuit of self-awareness, motivation, and improvement. Now all of that comes with challenges. Even though we have the best intentions, sometimes if we are stressed or if we get up on the wrong foot or in a bad mood we may treat people in a way that is not gentlemanly. If that happens, own it, apologize and be sincere and people will respect you more for it and understand it.
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Gentleman's Gazette

[Wondering_Ghoul]

A gentleman follows the campsite rule with everything: leave it as good or better than you found it. This goes for all aspects of life.

[studiomucha]

A gentleman doesn't say he is a gentleman but he tries to be one

[gnahapet]

You might like The True Gentleman by John Walter Wayland (Virginia, 1899):

"The True Gentleman is the man whose conduct proceeds from good will and an acute sense of propriety, and whose self control is equal to all emergencies; who does not make the poor man conscious of his poverty, the obscure man of his obscurity, or any man of his inferiority or deformity; who is himself humbled if necessity compels him to humble another; who does not flatter wealth, cringe before power, or boast of his own possessions or achievements; who speaks with frankness but always with sincerity and sympathy; whose deed follows his word; who thinks of the rights and feelings of others rather than his own; and who appears well in any company, a man with whom honor is sacred and virtue safe."

[bojac]

I loved this subject. I've been called a gentleman throughout my life (I'm 63 now) and I can give the credit to my father. As a young boy and teen I would always observe how he treated my mother and others. Although he and I didn't get into many conversations about character or such I still learned a great deal. I plan on leaving a letter to my 7 year old Grandson with these words of wisdom, to be given to him when I pass away. I consider my son to be one also. I believe he did like I did. He learned and became one through observation. By the way, I certainly don't hit all 11 points on the mark but I do try. Lets spread this to our younger men when ever the opportunity arise.

[MrToftheL]

If I were a father I would show this video to my son.

[yashuacanno]

"A gentleman doesn't argue simply for the sake of being right." I believe this to be one of the most important lessons everyone should learn. If you are correct that's fine, however, if you are wrong, then you need to be able to accept that and rethink your current belief on the subject, keeping the new information you just learned in mind.

[LittleLouieLagazza]

“The True Gentleman”

The True Gentleman is the man whose conduct proceeds from good will and an acute sense of propriety, and whose self-control is equal to all emergencies; who does not make the poor man conscious of his poverty, the obscure man of his obscurity, or any man of his inferiority or deformity; who is himself humbled if necessity compels him to humble another; who does not flatter wealth, cringe before power, or boast of his own possessions or achievements; who speaks with frankness but always with sincerity and sympathy; whose deed follows his word; who thinks of the rights and feelings of others, rather than his own; and who appears well in any company, a man with whom honor is sacred and virtue safe.
- John Walter Wayland

[charlotteice]

Honestly, I really, really appreciate you showing a more positive version of masculinity (instead of the bossyness and toxicity often perceived as masculine) as well as its cultural roots on your channel. I think that the concept of the gentleman is not old-fashioned and backwards but instead a vision of masculinity perfectly suited to today's world and as I said, I really appreciate that you showcase how this vision of the old-school gentleman suits today's ideals.

[kathrynpasteur]

I do wish there were more gentlemen these days. Great job Raphael!

[babbar]

Arguably one of the best videos I have seen in a long time.
Very decent and very mature messages are presented in this video.
Keep it up.

[AD-gpfq]

Watching the gentleman's gazette is a real gamechanger for me. Working during the day in pyjama's at the operation room is fine, but dressing up the rest of the time, at home, or on my way to work has become a lot of fun lately. Thanks for all your superb videos!

[piyakhebisonii]

I'm a big fan of of being a gentleman! It fits my personality smoothly! Team Gentleman all day and tomorrow!

[PlanetYokoshima]

A gentleman is one who's self-assured and respecting, reserved and cool, calm and gentle. Pleased to always be of help and to do goodness.

[Jessie_Helms]

One thing I disagree on.
A gentleman doesn’t pursue perfection, because perfection is a bad goal.
Excellence- doing the best you can with what you have/know- on the other hand is a great goal.

[slavestanchev]

I must add this to the list: A gentleman is not defined by the clothes that he is wearing, because i have seen many well dressed individuals but they were not even close to the definition of a gentleman

[lvch]

A female version of your channel would be dope. Might get a lot of criticism but it would be cool to see

[MrShinobi]

Own your Wrongs, Apologize and be Sincere #Gentleman

[paulbyron]

Your values and advice are completely correct. I agree and try to do those things.

I just find that society and history judge people by broad social class based on wealth.
Somebody like Sir Alex Ferguson who is wealthy and knighted will be remembered as an upper class "gentleman" whereas he is pretty much the opposite. And, say, our poor grandfathers as working class "men" even though they may have been the epitome of polite gentlemanliness but happened to be poor.

[henrygergis]

This is one of the best vids made by you in my opinion. Thanks

[MegaTubetiger]

A very admirable exposé on who and what a true gentleman is. I especially appreciate the spiritual dimension of your reasoning and encouragement to others via this particular video. Thanks so much and keep the great work up!