Two Reasons People End up Bad Parents

Developing a sane relationship to our own past is a crucial factor in enabling us to avoid the common mistakes of "bad parenting".

FURTHER READING

“Given how important it is to be properly loved by one’s parents in order to have an emotionally sane grown-up life, one may wonder with some urgency why – in cases that range from the regrettable to the truly tragic – the process can go so wrong. Why do some parents – who might in other areas be decent and thoughtful characters – fail so badly at being able to love the small people they have brought into the world?”

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Produced in collaboration with:

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[TheFoxholeLife]

We often mirror our parents behaviour. As a son of a terrible father, being a good father myself is a constant challenge, I had to unlearn the art of shouting at anything and everything.

[sadboi]

unpopular opinion: not everyone should become parents.

[yasmine]

I'd rather have no children than be a bad mother...

[JoyFay]

I think parents that envy their children are the worst. They sabotage their children’s future.

[SummaGirl]

It amazes me when I hear/read that child-free people are "selfish". For the reasons detailed in this video, not having children can be the most selfless, caring thing a person can possibly do. My childhood was so traumatic, terrifying, and lonely that I literally don't remember 90% of it. I always knew that I would not have children because I knew I had nothing to give them.

[charmsasis]

The last line:
"Give our offspring the Childhood we deserve, not the childhood we had " 😢

[bad_money]

Instead of treating your child like how you were treated. Treat them with the same love and attention you wanted from your parents while growing up.

[eatmanyzoos]

ive noticed people who have been tricked into thinking everyone should have kids and that its the meaning of life, dont want to listen to this stuff.

[AdityaSingh]

If you cannot provide for the basic emotional and equally, financial necessities that come with bringing another human into this world, you should not do it. It is not their responsibility to right your wrongs. And really, bringing a child into the world just accentuates those wrongs even further.

[ShubhamBhushanCC]

Children have never been good at listening to their parents but they are great at imitating them. - James Baldwin

[mariamalhotra]

The way the father just watches the young child cry in pain is exactly my dad. Absolutely unresponsive and even a bit resentful.

[जेडन]

i don't understand how some people have the audacity to bring children into this world, and then claim "you're so lucky to have an education, have food on your plate and have a roof over your house!" like, wow congrats on providing the very, most basic essentials of being a parent

[FirstOfTheMagi]

My parents were far from perfect but I'm very fortunate that their atrocious childhoods led them to want my brother and I to have the childhood they never had. I'll be the first person in my entire family to graduate with a 4-year degree thanks to my parents breaking their backs their entire lives to escape poverty and bless me and my brother with every need and most wants we've ever had

[trinaq]

It's heartbreaking that some people end up parents, yet they can't handle the responsibility that comes with rearing children.

[AugustAdvice]

Its important to do your trauma healing before having a child, because these issues can bubble up and challenge even the best of us. For some of us, its better to not have children and there's nothing wrong with that. Sometimes we have been through so much trauma, that we don't have any more emotional capacity to give and we need what is left to sustain a normal life.

[uma]

If you had a bad parent and you are now learning to become a better human being you are a hero and a surviver, keep going ❤️

[cindylizbeth]

My mother abandoned me so I was my own imaginary mother as a child. Now as a mother I would say I’m a pretty great one, thankfully. I give her every hug and attention I wish I got

[nizasiamehenry]

Two reasons why people end up bad parents;
1. Something in their childhood was so difficult.
2. Envy

[jewris.art]

My heart already broke when my parents stopped celebrating my birthday
My childhood was sad and I envy a lot of kids.

[sorenkair]

Very true, people usually parent the way they were brought up. I hope I can learn from the failings of mine and help break the cycle.