Is Having A Registry Link on Your Wedding Invitations Tacky & Presumptuous? (Wedding Planning)

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As we are planning our wedding, we are learning a lot about the process! From picking a wedding dress and tux, finding the perfect wedding venue, writing your own vows, picking wedding invitations and so much more. We had to make the decision of whether or not to include our wedding registry link on or in the wedding invite. Some said it's not tacky at all and others say it is and presumptuous. What do you think?

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[kellyssong]

Yes, it is poor etiquette to share your registry on the wedding invitation.

[maryloubertola]

Many couples set up a wedding website where they can find information on the story of the couple, wedding details, hotel information and links to their Registry, if they chose to set them up.

[rmsbklynny]

We had the same question at our wedding. I wanted to have the link on our invitations and our in-laws thought it was tacky so we had our wedding tagline on social media such as #FreddieandAlyssaSayIDo as an extra insert with the invitation so when a guest went to the say Facebook and typed that in they can see all your photos with that hash tag and if you had wedding registry links there you they can see that as well. That way everyone wins and its not so tacky plus allows your guest to post photos during the wedding to that hashtag so you see all the footage as well. Served multiple purposes. :)

[margaretmonteiro]

Make a copy of the check and deposit it. Gifts are nontaxable and a copy of the check will be proof.
The honey fund is a good idea but just a running total of the checks you have copied are good for the accountant.
Regristrys on an invitation are tacky. They should be at a store not an invitation. Also this idea of asking for people to purchase entertainment on a honey moon is tacky. The couple can use money given as gifts to do what they want to do. It is a marketing gimmick. Since when is a honeymoon scheduled with things to do. It is a time for the couple to relax after the wedding and get to spend time together, relax and enjoy each other.

[kathyaschenbach]

Our son and his wife are living in a condo in downtown Chicago they had to make it clear that they wanted no gifts. They have no room to put anything. People are going to give you cards. It will up to people if they include a gift.

[dianesemenza]

Wedding website is way to go I think.Using pictures of yourselves and including activities you have enjoyed together gives insight to your interests . Including registry is helpful to gain insight as to your interests. Some people will choose to give money gifts.Common Italian-American tradition in NJ is MONEY..

[chrisfitzgerald]

People are going to want to give a gift. You need to think of a clever wording to say gifts are not expected but those who want to can do X. (Whatever you decide)

[patriciahotelling]

I remember I personally asked you all if you could please put out your registry for the producers only because some of us would love to share in your joy and maybe want to give you something small to show our love, but if you feel some think it's bad taste then send an email to all invited and take a survey and ask hey do you want us to include our registry on our invites or do you want to just bring a guest or money or just have a gift table with money Hopefully it helps

[judymastrullo]

Registries are very useful for the person signing up for gifts, whether they are bridal or baby registries and t hff e person buying the gifts. It's a simple way for people wanting to get you a gift and getting you something you want or need and they can pick a price range they want to stay in. I just used a wedding registry for a friends getting married in January . I got a shower gift from their registry. I didn't drive myself crazy and I got them something I know they wanted, in the color they wanted. A registry is a convenient item that takes the stress out of gift giving. I per say love them. If someone doesn't want to get you a gift for what ever reason, they plain and simple. Don't read more into it Freddie. I'm your parents age, and I love them. Miss you on Days, but love you both on here. Just my 2cents worth.

[connief]

Since you have been living together for over 10 years now, asking for money and gifts is tacky. You should only be asking people to attend the ceremony of you making your commitment legal in the eyes of God. Family and friends attending will supply gifts and pin money to the brides dress and grooms suit during dances at the reception if they choose too. Many people are out of work now and money is hard to come by so you should be conscious of those facts as well, plus if people are having to pay to travel and stay somewhere to attend your ceremony, should be enough.

[susanhelene]

you are over thinking this. send out invites and allow invitee to decide what they want to do.

[mauiguy]

We did not have a gift registry of any kind for our wedding/reception. Like you consider them tacky and did not want our guests to feel obligated in any way to bring or send a gift. With that said- the majority of our guests who were invited/attended brought or sent a gift. Lovely. We personally, always send a gift when invited to a wedding/reception even if we cannot attend. We were invited to a wedding last summer where the bride/groom attached a lengthy gift list to the invitation which also had an option for a cash 💰 gift. 🙄. We were appalled at that.

[angelachapman]

I think pretty normal these days is to have a wedding website that you share in the invitation. The website might have photos, your engagement story, directions to the wedding, and you can put the registry on there.

[marshaf]

Freddie and Alyssa. When I get a invite to a wedding, my response to the couple is " are you registered anywhere" if so where? Then you could respond yes. The reason for registry is to get ideas or suggestions. Registry also prevents duplicates. So just think about it.

[suefarr]

Registry's turn me off....if you invite someone they are there to see two unite before God....gifts are a guest choice..where's the surprise...excitement if you pick it out ahead..I'm old!🤗

[Foo]

Personally, I think it’s super tacky...it’s not about getting you a gift - it’s about getting married. You can ask someone where they are registered. A bridal shower, however, is different.