Six Misconceptions About Narcissists #narcissist

There are a lot of myths and misconceptions about narcissism. As a diagnosed narcissist, here are some of the common examples I see people refer to when speaking about NPD.

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[valx]

Good video, as a psychologist who specialises in the treatment of cluster B personality disorders, its very tiring having to leave a comment on every related video correcting peoples poor pop-psych extrapolation

[ellii]

"anyone can be abusive" that is such a good sentence. people aren't abusive because of a disorder, they're abusive because they're abusive. demonizing certain disorders only stigmatizes those disorders and protects actual abusers, but what it doesn't do is solve any sort of problem

[junebunny]

Empathy isn’t a requirement to be a good person either. Lacking empathy doesn’t automatically mean a person is abusive.

[Unknownne]

Thank you for sharing this. A way to make our society better is to stop labelling ppl as monsters but treating ALL neurodivergent people.

[nerdychocobo]

I don't have npd but I am autistic and one of my biggest pet peeves is how people conflate narcissism with abuse. people are abusive because they're abusive, not because they have an evil disorder that makes them evil. the way people act about low empathy is, ironically, so cruel and really aggravates me as someone who has more empathy than is normal. empathy isn't the magic "be a good person" juice, it's just something people either have or dont

[MiquellaTheUnannoyed]

As a victim of NPD abuse, I want to thank you for being brave enough to share your truth in pursuit of recovery❤.

[arsongrimlen]

I love seeing that you are choosing to try and have a good life. I know for people with bpd or narcissism disorder it is so hard to live a "normal" "happy" life so seeing you doing everything you can to try makes me want to try too. I have a while lost of disorders and seeing someone like you doing good makes me feel like eventually I can do good to

[jjgr]

This somehow helps heals my soul. I love how self aware you are, maybe more than most. Thank you ❤

[sodab]

My grandmother is a narcissist. Despite what others might believe, she loves her grandchildren more than anything. I’m not kidding when I say she would move heaven and earth for them. She lived a very rough life, and a lot of the things she does is an subconscious defense mechanism she used when she was a child when she had to survive.

[kaytownes]

As a diagnosed sociopath, i agree. I am married, have kids, and pets. I love them dearly, I just dont understand good compassion or sympathy. I have friends, but i cant put myself in their shoes when they have a problem. Usually im the one they call in when they need someone unfeeling and cold to help them out. I dont feel guilt, but do understand enough of human nature to apologize when its obvious i hurt someone i care about, AND to try to avoid doing it again. Im not violent, i just have it closer to the surface than some. Im capable of love, but the people around me understand i show it a little different and we might have to weather different storms than some people. I was on SSRIs from the time i was 8 until 23. My emotions never got the chance to process correctly during puberty and all those years. So i dont feel things like other humans. But that doesnt mean i dont feel at all.

[nalinea]

Ah, yes. The "everyone is valid – except for ASPD and NPD, those guys suck"-narrative. Good luck out there from a primary ASPD.

[Normal-Lad]

Its so wild me that a narcissist actually might be more considerate then someone who is neurotypical just because its something theyre aware of and actively working on where as a more balanced person wont give most things a second thought

[becca]

Your videos have helped me understand my brother so much more. It always felt like he loved to hurt me—he relies on me, yet he says the most outrageously cruel things (pretty much always untrue). Your videos helped me realize he's doing it on purpose. He isn't just socially awkward. He enjoys watching the light leave my eyes.

I hope one day he'll realize he's a narcissist so he can finally get help. I know he has an agonizingly low self esteem, that he hates himself more than he hates everyone else. But his behavior is ruining his life and any chance he has at happiness. I'm definitely not going to stick around so he can keep hurting me 🤷‍♀️

[thebullwhisperer]

I'm certain it's rare for narcissist individuals to get therapy. Thanks for trying to heal.

[autisticzuko]

Another myth is the existence of "narcissistic abuse"

It's just abuse. It doesn't matter if your perp is/was a narcissist.

You wouldn't call an autistic person abusing someone "autistic abuse"

[raiBK]

My partner is a narcissist and after ~5 years of honest, ongoing therapy he is much healthier and loving than i am

[roslynpersaud]

Thank you for sharing and thank you for getting well so that you can be a healthy part of society.You deserve that much and you are worth it.

[miri_atha]

I was in an abusive relationship with a covert narcissist for around 12-13 years. They really did lack awareness and no matter if they went to therapy or if I straight up told them "hey, what you said/did was very hurtful" they still wouldn't apologize or change. Then they'd turn stuff around on me and say things like, "this is why I never tell you anything, " (making their emotions and behavior my responsibility.) So I think it's important to note that there's different severities of NBD and narcissistic traits, just like the different levels of severity in other disorders like ADHD or OCD or autism, etc.

Also, kinda a hard take, but you don't have to stay with them even if they're trying to improve. You don't have to be anyone's emotional punching bag while waiting for them to get better. You can tell them, "I love you, but I can't take this journey with you." That whole "they didn't love me at my worst, so they don't deserve me at my best" crap is BS. If they honestly loved you, they're respect you for prioritizing your mental health, even if it's sad and painful to lose you. Don't make the codependency mistake I did of not setting healthy boundaries not just for them, but most importantly for yourself. So "if you set them free and they come back, it was true love" is also BS. You can honestly love someone and still need to prioritize yourself. Sometimes when you go back, that's just a trauma bond.

[Yuukichan]

Misconceptions of mental health issues get so much more attention than acctual explanations from people who've either lived with it or are trained to treat it (coming from a bipolar sufferer) its good your speaking out

[ryleighemma]

This is so true!! Ive noticed that the internet has gotten more accepting toward certain mental health issues, such as anxiety and depression, to the point people even try to fake them. But for things like NPD and BPD, theres still negative stigmas and its really upsetting :/ its hypocritical how much society either treats these people like animals, or strsight up terrible people, or just turn a blind eye. I don’t think they should become trendy or anything (and i dont think anxiety/depression/etc should be trendy either) but i think they should just meet in the middle and have understanding and compassion from others, instead of judging or self diagnosing.